[nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school

Thu Feb 2 00:48:31 UTC 2012

    Hi Chris. I'm assuming you're in high school.. I'd go to both your 
principal and your guidance counselor. I wouldn't talk to him directly-- I 
think he'd get more dicipline if you had the principal talk to him. I'd also 
bring it up during your IEP/PET.
HTH
Hope and Beignet
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
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>I knew this kid, speaking of criminals who were playground and school 
>bullies, who was always harassing me, got mein trouble at lunch one day in 
>elementary school, and later went on to rape somebody and go to jail for 
>it.
> Beth
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Desiree Oudinot <turtlepower17 at gmail.com
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Wed, 1 Feb 2012 18:41:07 -0500
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school
>
> When I was in elementary school, I had kids stealing books from me,
> throwing erasers in my hair, pulling chairs out from under me, you
> name it, they did it. The worst part was that most times, my teachers
> were right there, and refused to do anything about it, because they
> too were uncomfortable with my blindness, so why should they
> intervene? I say this because it wasn't so long ago that this happened
> to me. I grew up in the 90's, before bullying was the huge deal it is
> now, but still close enough to the events of Columbine that it wasn't
> completely unheard of either. And it was as "unacceptable" then as it
> is now. Yes, I put unacceptable in quotes, because guess what, it
> happens every day and so little of it is actually dealt with.
> Meanwhile, things that are no real problem at all are resulting in
> criminal records, such as a case I heard about recently where a boy
> gave his friend a hug in school and was charged with sexual
> harassment. I forget their exact ages, but they were young, elementary
> school age. And yet, kids are driven to suicide, depression, drugs,
> and every other dysfunction in the book, because they're bullied
> mercilessly every day and no one will do anything about it.
> Why do I say all this? I say it because I hope your school isn't like
> mine was. I hope that someone in authority actually cares. I hope that
> it doesn't escalate, because most kids have a cruel streak. I think
> it's true what they say about the impulsiveness of adolescents--it's
> human nature to be cruel, and at that age, most of us haven't learned
> how to control those impulses or aggressions, making them the most
> prone not only to selfishness and thoughtlessness, but to almost
> animal rage, not to mention an inability to see beyond their own
> actions to how they might be affecting others. My point is, people
> like this have to be stopped. Perhaps if something can get through to
> them while they're still young and impressionable, they might not grow
> up to be tomorrow's criminals. Or maybe they will, who knows. But I've
> seen enough to know what usually happens in these situations, even if
> it was 15 years ago; and, in saying that, I hope things have evolved
> at least a little bit since then. It makes me sick to read messages
> like this. I hope for your sake that these small actions do not go
> untouched. Right now this kid is probably testing the waters, seeing
> just how much he can get away with. If he can steal a pack of gum, so
> to speak, he may try to steal a candy bar next, then a bag of chips,
> and on and on it goes, you get the picture.
>
> On 2/1/12, Joshua Lester <jlester8462 at students.pccua.edu> wrote:
> Chris, I know what you're going through.
> I had a girl, put a dead frog in my shirt, as we were playing outside,
> (I was in elementary school, when that happened.)
> Go to your principal, and he/she should do something.
> This stuff has got to stop!
> If they don't do anything, go in front of the schoolboard!
> Blessings, Joshua
>
> On 2/1/12, Chris Nusbaum <dotkid.nusbaum at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi everyone,
>
> I had a problem at school today that I'd like to get your
> thoughts on as to what I should do next.  Today during lunch,
> another kid at my table dumped his bag of pretzels into my water
> bottle without my knowing; he must have thought it was some kind
> of funny prank.  Fortunately, I was sitting next to a good friend
> of mine, who told me about this.  Even after multiple people
> commented negatively about what he did, he said nothing.
>
> Variations on this have happened before with this same kid as the
> perpetrater; only once before today this school year and 3 times
> last year.  The one time something like this happened this year,
> he put his dirty napkin in my Yogurt cup (after I had finished
> eating the Yogurt) without saying anything.  The first time (with
> the napkin,) I realized that this had happened as I was getting
> my trash together to throw it away.  Knowing who did it, since
> he'd done this kind of thing before last year, I said, "(Insert
> name,) why is your napkin in my Yogurt?" Knowing that he had been
> caught, he replied, "Oh...  sorry." I then talked to the lunch
> lady who is in charge of supervising all of us in the lunchroom.
> She said she would talk to him.  I wasn't there when she did, but
> apparently she had, as the problem (for about a month and a half)
> had been resolved...  that is, until today.
>
> I feel that this is a person taking advantage of my blindness and
> playing a "prank" on me knowing that I won't catch him.  So, what
> do you think I should do next? Should I go to our principal?
> Should I talk to him directly? Any suggestions would be greatly
> appreciated!
> Thanks,
>
> Chris
>
> "The real problem of blindness is not the loss of eyesight.  The
> real problem is the misunderstanding and lack of education that
> exists.  If a blind person has the proper training and
> opportunity, blindness can be reduced to a mere physical
> nuisance."
> -- Kenneth Jernigan
>
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