[nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school
Chris Nusbaum
dotkid.nusbaum at gmail.com
Fri Feb 3 23:06:30 UTC 2012
Hi Hope,
Thanks for the suggestions! As I said in the email with the
subject "an update to the bullying situation," I did talk to my
principal about it. I didn't think about bringing him up in my
IEP meeting; good idea! I'll talk to my TVI first, and I might
bring him up in my next meeting. Thanks!
Chris
"The real problem of blindness is not the loss of eyesight. The
real problem is the misunderstanding and lack of education that
exists. If a blind person has the proper training and
opportunity, blindness can be reduced to a mere physical
nuisance."
-- Kenneth Jernigan
----- Original Message -----
From: "Hope Paulos" <hope.paulos at gmail.com
To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
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Date sent: Wed, 1 Feb 2012 19:48:31 -0500
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school
Hi Chris. I'm assuming you're in high school.. I'd go to
both your
principal and your guidance counselor. I wouldn't talk to him
directly-- I
think he'd get more dicipline if you had the principal talk to
him. I'd also
bring it up during your IEP/PET.
HTH
Hope and Beignet
----- Original Message -----
From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com
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Sent: Wednesday, February 01, 2012 6:54 PM
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school
I knew this kid, speaking of criminals who were playground and
school
bullies, who was always harassing me, got mein trouble at lunch
one day in
elementary school, and later went on to rape somebody and go to
jail for
it.
Beth
----- Original Message -----
From: Desiree Oudinot <turtlepower17 at gmail.com
To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
<nabs-l at nfbnet.org
Date sent: Wed, 1 Feb 2012 18:41:07 -0500
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] asking for advice on problem at school
When I was in elementary school, I had kids stealing books from
me,
throwing erasers in my hair, pulling chairs out from under me,
you
name it, they did it. The worst part was that most times, my
teachers
were right there, and refused to do anything about it, because
they
too were uncomfortable with my blindness, so why should they
intervene? I say this because it wasn't so long ago that this
happened
to me. I grew up in the 90's, before bullying was the huge deal
it is
now, but still close enough to the events of Columbine that it
wasn't
completely unheard of either. And it was as "unacceptable" then
as it
is now. Yes, I put unacceptable in quotes, because guess what,
it
happens every day and so little of it is actually dealt with.
Meanwhile, things that are no real problem at all are resulting
in
criminal records, such as a case I heard about recently where a
boy
gave his friend a hug in school and was charged with sexual
harassment. I forget their exact ages, but they were young,
elementary
school age. And yet, kids are driven to suicide, depression,
drugs,
and every other dysfunction in the book, because they're bullied
mercilessly every day and no one will do anything about it.
Why do I say all this? I say it because I hope your school isn't
like
mine was. I hope that someone in authority actually cares. I
hope that
it doesn't escalate, because most kids have a cruel streak. I
think
it's true what they say about the impulsiveness of
adolescents--it's
human nature to be cruel, and at that age, most of us haven't
learned
how to control those impulses or aggressions, making them the
most
prone not only to selfishness and thoughtlessness, but to almost
animal rage, not to mention an inability to see beyond their own
actions to how they might be affecting others. My point is,
people
like this have to be stopped. Perhaps if something can get
through to
them while they're still young and impressionable, they might
not grow
up to be tomorrow's criminals. Or maybe they will, who knows.
But I've
seen enough to know what usually happens in these situations,
even if
it was 15 years ago; and, in saying that, I hope things have
evolved
at least a little bit since then. It makes me sick to read
messages
like this. I hope for your sake that these small actions do not
go
untouched. Right now this kid is probably testing the waters,
seeing
just how much he can get away with. If he can steal a pack of
gum, so
to speak, he may try to steal a candy bar next, then a bag of
chips,
and on and on it goes, you get the picture.
On 2/1/12, Joshua Lester <jlester8462 at students.pccua.edu> wrote:
Chris, I know what you're going through.
I had a girl, put a dead frog in my shirt, as we were playing
outside,
(I was in elementary school, when that happened.)
Go to your principal, and he/she should do something.
This stuff has got to stop!
If they don't do anything, go in front of the schoolboard!
Blessings, Joshua
On 2/1/12, Chris Nusbaum <dotkid.nusbaum at gmail.com> wrote:
Hi everyone,
I had a problem at school today that I'd like to get your
thoughts on as to what I should do next. Today during lunch,
another kid at my table dumped his bag of pretzels into my water
bottle without my knowing; he must have thought it was some kind
of funny prank. Fortunately, I was sitting next to a good
friend
of mine, who told me about this. Even after multiple people
commented negatively about what he did, he said nothing.
Variations on this have happened before with this same kid as
the
perpetrater; only once before today this school year and 3 times
last year. The one time something like this happened this year,
he put his dirty napkin in my Yogurt cup (after I had finished
eating the Yogurt) without saying anything. The first time
(with
the napkin,) I realized that this had happened as I was getting
my trash together to throw it away. Knowing who did it, since
he'd done this kind of thing before last year, I said, "(Insert
name,) why is your napkin in my Yogurt?" Knowing that he had
been
caught, he replied, "Oh... sorry." I then talked to the lunch
lady who is in charge of supervising all of us in the lunchroom.
She said she would talk to him. I wasn't there when she did,
but
apparently she had, as the problem (for about a month and a
half)
had been resolved... that is, until today.
I feel that this is a person taking advantage of my blindness
and
playing a "prank" on me knowing that I won't catch him. So,
what
do you think I should do next? Should I go to our principal?
Should I talk to him directly? Any suggestions would be greatly
appreciated!
Thanks,
Chris
"The real problem of blindness is not the loss of eyesight. The
real problem is the misunderstanding and lack of education that
exists. If a blind person has the proper training and
opportunity, blindness can be reduced to a mere physical
nuisance."
-- Kenneth Jernigan
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