[nabs-l] Sex Education Curriculum

Thu Jul 12 22:32:22 UTC 2012

Hi Brandon,
Again, you're making a lot of valid points, but I have to question one
statement you made concerning seeing couples making out and all that.
Sighted people don't just watch what's being done and then
automatically do it right 100% of the time, either. In fact, with sex
there is no right or wrong, just what turns each individual on.
Learning what that is in each new relationship is like driving a new
car. You may know the rules of the road, but depending on the size of
the car, the speed you're going, how much traffic is on the road, and
other factors, you're going to have to navigate with more or less
caution each time. Only by mastering each route as you become more
comfortable with it can you fall into a pattern and stick with it. But
if you're used to driving on quiet country roads, and then all of a
sudden you move to New York City, you have to completely change your
approach. Do you see where my analogy is heading? It's not sight or
lack thereof that determines how much pleasure one can receive
intimately. It's the individuals in question, their level of
attraction, and how well they can communicate with each other to say
what feels good and what doesn't. Because let's face it, there's a lot
of feeling. If we spent all our time studying and copying others, we
would all enjoy the same things done the exact same way. And, as I was
starting to say in the beginning of my message, practice makes
perfect. No one knows for sure what works and what doesn't the first
few times, or the first few times in each successive relationship.
Also, I forgot to address something you said in your first message
concerning buying condoms. Honestly, sighted people have anonnymity
when they do this. Whether a blind person knows what kind they want or
not, they have to face the embarrassment of going up to the counter,
asking for assistance, and then having to tell the clerk what they
want. Unfortunately, there's just no way around that, so either way we
lose on that scale. Maybe ordering them online could be an option if
people don't want to take that route. Frankly, when I was a teenager,
I wouldn't have felt comfortable with that either.

On 7/12/12, Ashley Bramlett <bookwormahb at earthlink.net> wrote:
> Joshua,
> Nope; we are at a disadvantage in learning about sex. I think this  survey
> is a good idea.
> Without any vision, perhaps you don't realize how visual stuff is and what
> you are missing. Sex is portrayed in videos and pictures. Sighted kids learn
>
> from tv, movies, books and magazines. We do not see those pictures.
> I remember this  sex stuff as part of health class. We did not discuss
> anything controversial. We just learned about the body parts and functions;
>
> however, it was  kind of confusing without the visual pictures.
> Come on, even if you wait til marriage, do you really want your wife
> teaching you basic stuff about this activity?
> Also, books do not mean much without a reference explaining the act. I know
>
> from experience. When a book says a certain term, I had no clue what it
> meant without looking it up! I won't get into details other than to say I
> know less about sex than my peers my age.
>
> Ashley
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Joshua Lester
> Sent: Thursday, July 12, 2012 12:10 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Sex Education Curriculum
>
> Hi, Amber!
> You're right!
> BTW, I like the lyrics in your signature!
> That's one of my favorite songs!
> Welcome to the list!
> Blessings, Joshua
>
> On 7/12/12, Herrin, Amber R. <herrinar at muohio.edu> wrote:
>> Dear Joshua,
>>
>> I have to agree with you here!  For me, the idea of knowing about sex,
>> before I'm sharing it with my husband, is kind of...unnecessary, I guess?
>> Maybe the wrong answer, and I understand that not everyone believes you
>> should wait until marriage as I do, but I think that being blind doesn't
>> prevent us from finding out about it the same way sighted people
>> do-experiment (isn't that what most people do anyway?) or read books
>> written
>> on the topic (how confusing can text be?)
>>
>> Amber R. Herrin
>> Assistive Technology Trainer in Training: 2012
>> Mobile: (513) 593-5855
>> E-mail: herrinar at muohio.edu
>> "It doesn't matter what you've heard
>> Impossible is not a word
>> It's just a reason
>> For someone not to try
>>
>> Everybody's scared to death
>> When they decide to take that step
>> Out on the water
>> It'll be alright
>>
>> Life is so much more
>> Than what your eyes are seeing
>> You will find your way
>> If you keep believing"
>> -Kutless "What Faith Can Do"
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf
>> Of Joshua Lester
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 9:35 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Sex Education Curriculum
>>
>> I personally did fine, in those courses, in school, without the new
>> proposed
>> curriculum, that they're wanting.
>> I don't see the need for one, because who really wants to know, what's
>> being
>> shown, in those slides?
>> Good grief!
>> Blessings, Joshua
>>
>> On 7/11/12, David Andrews <dandrews at visi.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>>I have been asked to circulate the following:
>>>
>>>
>>> Dave
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>>
>>>>Dear NFB Member,
>>>>The National Federation of the Blind has been gracious enough to help
>>>>us with a current project.
>>>>
>>>>We are currently seeking your opinion in a survey that will help us
>>>>write a curriculum for students with low vision and blindness in the
>>>>area of sex education.  Currently no curriculum exists for students
>>>>with low vision and blindness that reflect current education
>>>>standards.  Young people, educators, and professionals have all
>>>>indicated that there is a desperate need for such a curriculum.
>>>>We want your voice to impact our work!
>>>>Please take the time to fill out the survey at the link found below:
>>>><https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/sexeducationsurvey>https://www.surveym
>>>>onkey.com/s/sexeducationsurvey
>>>>
>>>><https://maverick.hec.ohio-state.edu/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=https:/
>>>>/www.surveymonkey.com/s/sexeducationsurvey>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Thank you for your time and consideration of this project!
>>>>Tiffany Wild, Mollie Blackburn, Stacy Kelly, and Caitlin Ryan
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Thank you,
>>>>Mika Baugh
>>>>National Federation of the Blind
>>>>200 East Wells Street
>>>>      at Jernigan Place
>>>>Baltimore, MD 21230
>>>>P: (410) 659 9314 ext. 2371
>>>>E: <mailto:mbaugh at nfb.org>mbaugh at nfb.org
>>>>W: <http://www.nfb.org>www.nfb.org
>>>>
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