[nabs-l] nabs-l Digest, Vol 71, Issue 6
Isaac Hebert
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Thu Sep 6 17:35:49 UTC 2012
I would take the relationship slow andtry to find out what she has
been doing before you reconnected with her.
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> 1. Question for you all (Koby)
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> 3. Re: Question for you all (Brandon Keith Biggs)
> 4. Re: Question for you all (Cindy)
> 5. Re: Question for you all (Joshua Lester)
> 6. Long-Distance Dating (Arielle Silverman)
> 7. Re: Question for you all (Ashley Bramlett)
> 8. Re: Long-Distance Dating (Beth)
> 9. Re: Question for you all (Koby)
> 10. Off Topic (Trey Bradley)
> 11. Re: Question for you all (Sophie Trist)
> 12. Re: Long-Distance Dating (raymond lombardi)
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> Message: 1
> Date: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 21:36:42 -0500
> From: Koby <kobycox at gmail.com>
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> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
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> Hello all,
> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked me
> when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense last
> Saturday. What should I tell her?
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>
> ------------------------------
>
> Message: 2
> Date: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 22:37:46 -0400
> From: "raymond lombardi" <ray214 at gmail.com>
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
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> Just let her know whenever you can.
>
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Koby" <kobycox at gmail.com>
> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 10:36 PM
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
>> Hello all,
>> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
>>
>> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked
>> me when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense
>> last Saturday. What should I tell her?
>> Koby
>> Sent from my iPhone
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> Message: 3
> Date: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 20:47:53 -0700
> From: "Brandon Keith Biggs" <brandonkeithbiggs at gmail.com>
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
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> Hello,
> What do you want? Is she within easy traveling distance from you? Are you
> ready for a huge time commitment and a whole lot of confusion? Are you ready
>
> for your perspective of this girl to change drastically? Are you finding
> yourself with lots of extra money floating around?
> If the answer is yes, then by all means, say yes.
> But if there is any doubt, I would definitely not go through. I'd just tell
>
> her that you are not ready for a relationship at this point and ask if you
> can please just keep your relationship at the friend level.
> Hope this helps,
>
> Brandon Keith Biggs
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Koby
> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 7:36 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello all,
> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked me
>
> when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense last
> Saturday. What should I tell her?
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
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> Message: 4
> Date: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 21:30:59 -0700
> From: Cindy <clb5590 at gmail.com>
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> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
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> I think that these types of questions are completely legitimate. And I think
> that it is very smart to seek advice from others before making decisions.
> But this list is in place to provide blind students and interested
> parties a place to share information and to ask questions related to student
> and/or blindness issues. So I think it would be best if unrelated
> discussions were taken offlist. We are glad that you subscribe to the list,
> and we look forward to learning from and to assisting you in regard to
> student and blindness related issues.
>
> Thanks for understanding.
>
> Cindy
>
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
> On Sep 5, 2012, at 8:47 PM, "Brandon Keith Biggs"
> <brandonkeithbiggs at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> Hello,
>> What do you want? Is she within easy traveling distance from you? Are you
>> ready for a huge time commitment and a whole lot of confusion? Are you
>> ready for your perspective of this girl to change drastically? Are you
>> finding yourself with lots of extra money floating around?
>> If the answer is yes, then by all means, say yes.
>> But if there is any doubt, I would definitely not go through. I'd just
>> tell her that you are not ready for a relationship at this point and ask
>> if you can please just keep your relationship at the friend level.
>> Hope this helps,
>>
>> Brandon Keith Biggs
>> -----Original Message----- From: Koby
>> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 7:36 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>>
>> Hello all,
>> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
>> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked
>> me when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense
>> last Saturday. What should I tell her?
>> Koby
>> Sent from my iPhone
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> Message: 5
> Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2012 04:54:08 +0000
> From: Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at PCCUAEDU.onmicrosoft.com>
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> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
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> I hope I'm not overstepping here, but isn't this off topic for this list?
> Thanks, Joshua
> ________________________________________
> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of
> Koby [kobycox at gmail.com]
> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 9:36 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello all,
> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked me
> when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense last
> Saturday. What should I tell her?
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
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> Message: 6
> Date: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 23:01:32 -0600
> From: Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com>
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
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> Hi all,
> Cindy, I generally agree with you about keeping this list to
> blindness-related discussions. However, I do think long-distance
> dating issues like the one Koby brought up are perhaps more relevant
> to us blind students than they are for sighted students, especially
> those of us who are involved in the NFB. This is because, for many
> reasons, some of us want to date other blind/NFB people and because
> our community is so spread out, we may often end up in similar
> situations where we have to decide if we want to enter a long-distance
> relationship with someone we know from this community. So I'd like to
> offer a brief response on-list and hope that others in similar
> situations might find it helpful.
> During college I was in a long-distance relationship with someone I
> met through NFB for about a year. In hindsight I do not regret that
> decision at all. I had fun, learned a lot and he and I are still
> friends. I will also say that parts of it were emotionally very hard
> to deal with--in my particular case an airplane ticket between my
> location and his cost nearly $500 and we did not see each other for
> five months, which was emotionally trying at times. I do not think I
> would do another long-distance relationship and my current boyfriend
> and I will be making an effort to ensure we will not have to be living
> in separate places for any length of time. However, again, I enjoyed
> the one experience I had overall and learned a lot from it. I think if
> you and this girl really like each other and you can find a way to see
> each other on a somewhat regular basis, there's no harm in trying and
> you can always decide later on to just be friends. However, it is
> something to give a little serious thought to before you make that
> kind of commitment. You also want to talk with her and make sure that
> the two of you have similar expectations for how serious of a
> relationship this will be and how often you will be able to see each
> other. It will be hard if one of you is much more enthused about the
> relationship than the other. But if the two of you are generally on
> the same page and are really committed to it, it can be fun.
> Hope this helps,
> Arielle
>
>
>
> ------------------------------
>
> Message: 7
> Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2012 01:23:59 -0400
> From: "Ashley Bramlett" <bookwormahb at earthlink.net>
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
> Message-ID: <46EDB934DADD41B8A40D064784747E91 at OwnerPC>
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> Koby,
> This is hard to answer without more details. What do you want? Is she
> blind?
> When you say you were asked to come see her, what exactly does this mean?
> Come for a weekend visit, come move in with her?
> Does this mean she expects you to move to have a serious relationship?
>
> I am guessing that you two are far apart and thus have not seen each other
> yet in person after reconnecting.
> So, it depends on what you want. Ask yourself the questions Brandon
> suggested.
> Keep in mind that traveling a long distance to see someone gets to be
> expensive when you add up transit costs and food and perhaps lodging, unless
>
> you stay with her.
>
> My advice would be not to have a long distance relationship. I just feel
> there are many cons to it. You cannot bond and share things together like
> you would when you see each other face to face. But if you want the
> relationship and the girl is reasonably nearby, then you could pursue it.
> Also consider your interests and goals before commiting.
>
> HTH,
> Ashley
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Koby
> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 10:36 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello all,
> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked me
>
> when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense last
> Saturday. What should I tell her?
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
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>
> Message: 8
> Date: Wed, 05 Sep 2012 23:53:28 -0600
> From: Beth <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing
> list<nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
> Message-ID: <50483a8a.04a9320a.1cd5.6afd at mx.google.com>
> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1; format=flowed
>
> Hi, Arielle and all,
> Jason is the love I thought I'd never have. YEs, we get on
> each other's nerves. YEs, he argues with me sometimes, but
> people call him no good, bad, really stupid, whuatever you
> say they say it about him. I think Jason has a sweet side
> to him. I love Jason so much and we met in June. His mom
> was able to pay for the flight, but I'm afraid she won't
> this December or so. I'm trying to make it easy for her to
> pay for it again so I can be down there with him. I want
> Jason to know that just because he's blind, heart issues and
> all that, that doesn't mean that his life is over. HE can
> marry, he can have a relationship, he can have kids if he so
> desires, and he may engage in sex if that's whuat he wants.
> Some men are nervous about sex and relationships, even
> Jason. But with the help of my coaxing and calm manner, he
> was able to enjoy himself with me. At least he doesn't
> engage in the trade of child porn and other inappropriate
> things that sighted men would engage in. He has a good
> sense of right and wrong. He loves chocolate for breakfast.
> (hee hee), though I prefer eggs myself. If I look back and
> turn the clock back, I see that I have not made a bad choice
> as some are led to believe. Honestly, I have insecurity
> issues, and I see myself at fault for a stupid email I sent
> to his mother because I was truly upset at sommething he did
> that was really inappropriate and I don't want to share with
> this list. I love Jason no matter what he does to me or
> whuaft I do to him. All I can do is say that it's
> emotionally trying not having Jason near me, but this
> relationship is good when the winds of good fortune blow in
> our direction. Arielle, Im glad at least you have a good
> boyfriend. Btw, for all of us, how can I make up with
> Jason's family without sending an email? I really want to
> see him again, and supposedly his mom resents me for sending
> that email. That's the only thing about the relationship
> that I don't like very much.
> Beth
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 23:01:32 -0600
> Subject: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
>
> Hi all,
> Cindy, I generally agree with you about keeping this list to
> blindness-related discussions. However, I do think long-distance
> dating issues like the one Koby brought up are perhaps more
> relevant
> to us blind students than they are for sighted students,
> especially
> those of us who are involved in the NFB. This is because, for
> many
> reasons, some of us want to date other blind/NFB people and
> because
> our community is so spread out, we may often end up in similar
> situations where we have to decide if we want to enter a
> long-distance
> relationship with someone we know from this community. So I'd
> like to
> offer a brief response on-list and hope that others in similar
> situations might find it helpful.
> During college I was in a long-distance relationship with someone
> I
> met through NFB for about a year. In hindsight I do not regret
> that
> decision at all. I had fun, learned a lot and he and I are still
> friends. I will also say that parts of it were emotionally very
> hard
> to deal with--in my particular case an airplane ticket between my
> location and his cost nearly $500 and we did not see each other
> for
> five months, which was emotionally trying at times. I do not
> think I
> would do another long-distance relationship and my current
> boyfriend
> and I will be making an effort to ensure we will not have to be
> living
> in separate places for any length of time. However, again, I
> enjoyed
> the one experience I had overall and learned a lot from it. I
> think if
> you and this girl really like each other and you can find a way
> to see
> each other on a somewhat regular basis, there's no harm in trying
> and
> you can always decide later on to just be friends. However, it is
> something to give a little serious thought to before you make
> that
> kind of commitment. You also want to talk with her and make sure
> that
> the two of you have similar expectations for how serious of a
> relationship this will be and how often you will be able to see
> each
> other. It will be hard if one of you is much more enthused about
> the
> relationship than the other. But if the two of you are generally
> on
> the same page and are really committed to it, it can be fun.
> Hope this helps,
> Arielle
>
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> Message: 9
> Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2012 02:50:30 -0500
> From: Koby <kobycox at gmail.com>
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
> Message-ID: <53179163-785B-48ED-94BF-1199450290D0 at gmail.com>
> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii
>
> Yes she's blind and I want a serious relation ship.
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
>
> On Sep 6, 2012, at 12:23 AM, "Ashley Bramlett" <bookwormahb at earthlink.net>
> wrote:
>
>> Koby,
>> This is hard to answer without more details. What do you want? Is she
>> blind?
>> When you say you were asked to come see her, what exactly does this mean?
>> Come for a weekend visit, come move in with her?
>> Does this mean she expects you to move to have a serious relationship?
>>
>> I am guessing that you two are far apart and thus have not seen each other
>> yet in person after reconnecting.
>> So, it depends on what you want. Ask yourself the questions Brandon
>> suggested.
>> Keep in mind that traveling a long distance to see someone gets to be
>> expensive when you add up transit costs and food and perhaps lodging,
>> unless you stay with her.
>>
>> My advice would be not to have a long distance relationship. I just feel
>> there are many cons to it. You cannot bond and share things together like
>> you would when you see each other face to face. But if you want the
>> relationship and the girl is reasonably nearby, then you could pursue it.
>> Also consider your interests and goals before commiting.
>>
>> HTH,
>> Ashley
>>
>> -----Original Message----- From: Koby
>> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 10:36 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>>
>> Hello all,
>> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she asked me If
>> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then she asked
>> me when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together sense
>> last Saturday. What should I tell her?
>> Koby
>> Sent from my iPhone
>> _______________________________________________
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> Message: 10
> Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2012 04:02:20 -0400
> From: Trey Bradley <treyman19 at gmail.com>
> To: nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: [nabs-l] Off Topic
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> Hi I have a couple things for sell that I need to get arrid of one of
> them is a Eye Pal made by ABISee and then I also have a trecker Breeze
> and then I have a Duxbury. Please email or call me at
> treyman19 at gmail.com
>
> --
> Roosevelt Bradley
>
>
>
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>
> Message: 11
> Date: Thu, 06 Sep 2012 06:33:23 -0500
> From: Sophie Trist <sweetpeareader at gmail.com>
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing
> list<nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
> Message-ID: <50488a08.0a4bec0a.782a.68ad at mx.google.com>
> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1; format=flowed
>
> Koby, I have a boyfriend who lives in Australia. We facetime a
> lot and communicate through emails and go out together whenever
> he comes in town. Our relationship is going smoothly, so distance
> isn't necessarily a factor.
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Brandon Keith Biggs" <brandonkeithbiggs at gmail.com
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 20:47:53 -0700
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello,
> What do you want? Is she within easy traveling distance from you?
> Are you
> ready for a huge time commitment and a whole lot of confusion?
> Are you ready
> for your perspective of this girl to change drastically? Are you
> finding
> yourself with lots of extra money floating around?
> If the answer is yes, then by all means, say yes.
> But if there is any doubt, I would definitely not go through. I'd
> just tell
> her that you are not ready for a relationship at this point and
> ask if you
> can please just keep your relationship at the friend level.
> Hope this helps,
>
> Brandon Keith Biggs
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Koby
> Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 7:36 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello all,
> I reconnected with this girl that I've known for years and she
> asked me If
> we could be boy friend and girl friend and I said yes and then
> she asked me
> when I'm going to come see her and we have only been together
> sense last
> Saturday. What should I tell her?
> Koby
> Sent from my iPhone
> _______________________________________________
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> Date: Thu, 6 Sep 2012 08:07:34 -0400
> From: "raymond lombardi" <ray214 at gmail.com>
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> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
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> Like I said before in a private email Beth, you had every right to send
>
> that email out and if his family doesn't like you anymore for that, they
> need to ask for forgiveness from the lord.
>
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> From: "Beth" <thebluesisloose at gmail.com>
> Sent: Thursday, September 06, 2012 1:53 AM
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
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> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
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>> Hi, Arielle and all,
>> Jason is the love I thought I'd never have. YEs, we get on each other's
>> nerves. YEs, he argues with me sometimes, but people call him no good,
>> bad, really stupid, whuatever you say they say it about him. I think
>> Jason has a sweet side to him. I love Jason so much and we met in June.
>> His mom was able to pay for the flight, but I'm afraid she won't this
>> December or so. I'm trying to make it easy for her to pay for it again so
>>
>> I can be down there with him. I want Jason to know that just because he's
>>
>> blind, heart issues and all that, that doesn't mean that his life is over.
>>
>> HE can marry, he can have a relationship, he can have kids if he so
>> desires, and he may engage in sex if that's whuat he wants. Some men are
>>
>> nervous about sex and relationships, even Jason. But with the help of my
>>
>> coaxing and calm manner, he was able to enjoy himself with me. At least
>> he doesn't engage in the trade of child porn and other inappropriate
>> things that sighted men would engage in. He has a good sense of right and
>>
>> wrong. He loves chocolate for breakfast. (hee hee), though I prefer eggs
>>
>> myself. If I look back and turn the clock back, I see that I have not
>> made a bad choice as some are led to believe. Honestly, I have insecurity
>>
>> issues, and I see myself at fault for a stupid email I sent to his mother
>>
>> because I was truly upset at sommething he did that was really
>> inappropriate and I don't want to share with this list. I love Jason no
>> matter what he does to me or whuaft I do to him. All I can do is say that
>>
>> it's emotionally trying not having Jason near me, but this relationship is
>>
>> good when the winds of good fortune blow in our direction. Arielle, Im
>> glad at least you have a good boyfriend. Btw, for all of us, how can I
>> make up with Jason's family without sending an email? I really want to
>> see him again, and supposedly his mom resents me for sending that email.
>> That's the only thing about the relationship that I don't like very much.
>> Beth
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
>> Date sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 23:01:32 -0600
>> Subject: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
>>
>> Hi all,
>> Cindy, I generally agree with you about keeping this list to
>> blindness-related discussions. However, I do think long-distance
>> dating issues like the one Koby brought up are perhaps more relevant
>> to us blind students than they are for sighted students, especially
>> those of us who are involved in the NFB. This is because, for many
>> reasons, some of us want to date other blind/NFB people and because
>> our community is so spread out, we may often end up in similar
>> situations where we have to decide if we want to enter a long-distance
>> relationship with someone we know from this community. So I'd like to
>> offer a brief response on-list and hope that others in similar
>> situations might find it helpful.
>> During college I was in a long-distance relationship with someone I
>> met through NFB for about a year. In hindsight I do not regret that
>> decision at all. I had fun, learned a lot and he and I are still
>> friends. I will also say that parts of it were emotionally very hard
>> to deal with--in my particular case an airplane ticket between my
>> location and his cost nearly $500 and we did not see each other for
>> five months, which was emotionally trying at times. I do not think I
>> would do another long-distance relationship and my current boyfriend
>> and I will be making an effort to ensure we will not have to be living
>> in separate places for any length of time. However, again, I enjoyed
>> the one experience I had overall and learned a lot from it. I think if
>> you and this girl really like each other and you can find a way to see
>> each other on a somewhat regular basis, there's no harm in trying and
>> you can always decide later on to just be friends. However, it is
>> something to give a little serious thought to before you make that
>> kind of commitment. You also want to talk with her and make sure that
>> the two of you have similar expectations for how serious of a
>> relationship this will be and how often you will be able to see each
>> other. It will be hard if one of you is much more enthused about the
>> relationship than the other. But if the two of you are generally on
>> the same page and are really committed to it, it can be fun.
>> Hope this helps,
>> Arielle
>>
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