[nabs-l] advocacy advice to an grandmother

[Littlefield, Tyler]

I only have a couple of points.
First, I really liked the letter you wrote--I'd just remove the random 
lol. Maybe I'm alone in thinking this, but older people generally don't 
care for what Lol means and it totally kills your flow here.
Second, you're focusing a lot on NFB and ACB fighting among themselves. 
This might be true, but there are amazing people in both camps. I've 
been attacked on this list for being part of the ACB, then others don't 
care because whatever I am part of, as long as I do something somehow to 
help it doesn't matter.
The organizations themselves don't fight, it's mainly the die-hard fans 
of either camp. While it's not always the case, I've never seen all that 
much intelligence in the people that attacked me for being part of the 
ACB to begin with, so if they feel they need to scream at me, I'd rather 
them do that than say, try to promote fairness by doing something that 
would make us look worse.

You also kind of sound like you're screaming into the wind here with 
your talk of nothing happening. There is a lot of stuff happening, it's 
just a very slow process. Your influence as well as everyone elses helps 
contribute to that bigger picture, even if it's not obvious right now.

Just my two cents.
On 4/26/2013 2:20 PM, Robert William Kingett wrote:
> Let me know your thoughts.
>
> Dear xxx.
>
> I hope that I got your name right because I have never ever been good 
> with names. I guess it runs in the family. LOL.
>
> I want to introduce myself to you. Sam forwarded me your message and 
> it was really moving that I just had to respond personally.
>
> I want to introduce what Sam and I do and then I will comment on what 
> you have so truthfully written and I also want to give you my 
> thoughts, based on observation alone. Sam and are both blindness 
> related advocates here in Chicago Illinois. I'm a blind journalist 
> here in Chicago Illinois as well as an advocate for the LGBT 
> community. I'm most known for my journalistic endeavors and I want to 
> tell you something very personal and profound.
>
> I've been blind ever since birth and I grew up in a very abusive 
> environment. When you say the word invisible that really struck a 
> chord with me. Even though I have dealt with the abusive past by 
> turning it into positive advocacy energy that one word brought back 
> several memories. I was invisible in both cases, from the blindness 
> side and the domestic violence side, and, I had to find my own way out 
> of it because the school for the blind I was in just didn't care to 
> get involved with such matters. The unusualDCF investigations never 
> went as far as someone from child services coming to our home to 
> investigate only to deem that everything was fine because, even though 
> I did not like my mom, I covered up for her. My troubles at home were 
> invisible to everyone, or so I believed. The truth is that they 
> weren't invisible and someone had noticed. Naturally, they just didn't 
> know what to do.
>
> In school I also learned to embrace my blindness because I saw the 
> treatment that we received at a young age. When I was 11, I asked the 
> manager at a restaurant why he didn't have any Braille menus, and why 
> he was breaking the law. He didn't have an answer for me, so I began 
> to ask that question at every restaurant I came to. It was an easy 
> question for me to ask. Why? Because I asked my mom why she broke the 
> law all the time. I was, and still am, a bookworm so I had a lot of 
> questions, based on the stuff I read critically. In high school I 
> found my own way out of the abusive home and that's when I truly 
> learned what independence was and so I began to go around school 
> telling other blind kids what it meant as well. On the academic side 
> of the circle, the Florida school for the deaf and the blind was very 
> good, but anything social skills related, advocacy related, that just 
> flew over their heads. They didn't even tell us what college was going 
> to be like. I had to experience that for myself. I realized that I had 
> a gift and that gift was to string words together to make people 
> listen. I was a writer and I started studying the extent, the power 
> that my gift held. I began writing proposals for a school newspaper 
> that the school had never had and I soon started my own school 
> newspaper. Even at a blind school, the teachers told me that no one 
> would read it. Kids at Saint Augustine high were crawling to pay for 
> the fourth issue.
>
> I do have a point to this entire story so just hang in there! LOL.
>
> I wasn't invisible anymore but the blindness community was, and I 
> realized this even more after I got out of high school. I'm sure that 
> you have heard about the NFB and ACB and AFB and all of the above and 
> many more. If you haven’t they are blindness advocacy groups that do 
> their own parts in different things. You want to talk about invisible? 
> These groups are invisible. They are just now being heard about in 
> mainstream media regularly. Even now, though, the only people who know 
> about them are blind people. Why? Because there haven’t been any loud 
> voices. Okay, correction, there are loud voices but they are quietly 
> yelling, thinking they will not do anything worthwhile by speaking up. 
> You’re an example of a voice that everyone should listen to. These 
> blind groups would listen but there's a huge problem with these 
> groups, and it's a shame to see the ironic twist, they don't reach out 
> to sighted people for assistance with legal matters, or any other 
> matter, they'd rather stay in their own tents, if you get my drift. 
> Some efforts, not all, but some, are after the media to do stories 
> about them. The NFB and ACB both have a lot to offer but they both 
> don't do a big enough job on their own separately. They do things on a 
> case-by-case basis, and their efforts are to educate the public about 
> the blind and then change comes after the education. Plus, they even 
> fight among one another, and waste energy doing it. All that yelling 
> could have been done to do something better. The ACB people will say 
> they are better, the NFB say that they do the right thing. Never, 
> ever, have they collaborated on anything solid to make a powerful 
> enough standing for change. Education does little good if change isn't 
> implemented but they haven’t realized this yet. They want to say that 
> their group is better than the other rather than make efforts to 
> change the community to better serve the blind.
>
> That being said, there's a lot of people who are making a difference.
>
> For example, I want to point you to Christine. 
> http://www.christineha.com/
>
> She was a blind MasterChef winner last season.
>
> There's a car that's driverless, allowing blind people to be mobile 
> like never before... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_driverless_car
>
> Also, the ACB have managed to get the communications and accessibility 
> act signed by Obama, which will allow all electronic devices, even 
> cell phones to be accessible. http://www.acb.org/adp/tv.html. They are 
> also taking strides to make all paper currency accessible to the blind 
> and the visually impaired.
>
> The NFB have done much work on employment. They have done so many 
> things that I'll just give you their website. https://nfb.org/
>
> And people like us, me, Sam, you, and every other small voice out 
> there makes a big difference, even if we don't realize it or see it 
> right away. For instance, I received an email from a woman whose 
> wives, sisters, and friend I helped out years ago. You know how they 
> say that every action has an equal and opposite reaction? Even though 
> the action isn't seen and heard for years, it's an action that will be 
> carried out for sure. For example, the FSDB kids of today now have a 
> paper they can write for because of my simple action three years ago. 
> I'm glad that I made that decision.
>
> I do think that we should unite to give the blind a much more stable 
> ground to walk on but I'm just one person. Bigger and better companies 
> and blindness organizations have a lot to fight about that are a lot 
> more important than our wishes and dreams. I'm sorry to say but it's 
> the truth. These blindness groups have a lot of energy to fight each 
> other but that's changing too. That being said, I'm still going to 
> continue to do my small actions of writing and advocacy and standing 
> up for our rights as blind people because I know that somewhere along 
> the line, even after my death, I will have made a powerful impact on 
> someone's life and have made them a better person because I managed to 
> get people talking because an article was published or because I 
> demanded to see a company officer to straighten out an accessibility 
> barrier, gave them some guidance. It's hard to stand up for the right 
> thing because it seems that no one is listening. They are listening. I 
> do believe, however, that this blindness schism is the worst that I've 
> ever seen and it's the dumbest thing ever especially since they both 
> promote inclusion and equality and they can't even include one 
> another. To combat this, the people, not organizations, not the NFB, 
> not the ACB, not the AFB, the people need to change what it means to 
> be blind. We’re doing that. You’re doing that. You’re amazing! We’re 
> amazing! Even though we’re making progress it will take time, as with 
> all great things. Big things come in small packages and voices and 
> efforts.
>
> Your small actions towards your granddaughter will be remembered, and 
> appreciated, and used very well even though they may seem as though 
> they are not getting anywhere at the moment they will blossom into 
> something big. People like us just have to continue to be loud 
> positive vocal people who will both advocate and educate for the blind 
> and the visually impaired. We can't rely on just blindness groups 
> because then we will be sitting on our hands talking, taking no action.
>
> I just want to say hell yes you’re a good grandmother. She knows 
> Braille; she's standing up for herself. You’re giving her all she 
> needs, even if it's not right now. Even a small ripple can make a big 
> wave. We’re making a big wave, even if that wave won’t come until 
> years later. Our small actions will impact the world, and that's why I 
> do what I do. That’s why I don't give up because no matter how much 
> arguing goes on, ignorance is displayed, services are denied, etc. I 
> know that I have the power to change things. I'm proud to use my 
> particular power of writing to change the world and to change what it 
> means to be blind. You are changing your granddaughter’s world, and 
> someday, she will remember how you changed her world and then she will 
> change other people’s lives and that will be all because of you, xxx, 
> you’re an amazing ripple. Continue to make that wave!
>
>
>
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