[nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?

Sat Dec 28 22:19:30 UTC 2013

You know, seriously, if she's calling your house and bothering your family, and her own parents might not be aware, then call her parents and talk to them. Tell them what happens when she calls, and that you wish her not to call any more. I believe somebody said something to this effect already, and I agree. This way you're doing 3 things, you're in no uncertain terms telling her to stop bothering you, you're also getting her some help in the form of letting her parents know what's going on, and they are in a much better position to actually make her get help, and you in a round about way are showing that you care. You care enough to let somebody else in her life know what's happening so that she can get help.
jmo
Laurel
On Dec 28, 2013, at 2:48 PM, Dave Webster <dwebster125 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Yea true.  I've had some problems like that in the past whare I had people
> calling me that I didn't want to talk to anymore.  I tried to contact the
> police and all of that and they just say just block her number.  They won't
> do anything.  Especially since they have more serious issues to deal with.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of I. C. Bray
> Sent: Saturday, December 28, 2013 3:49 AM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?
> 
> Dave,
> It is not so much that it is illegal, but that it is potentially dangerous
> for Kaiti .
> 
> Stalking isn't illegal-- except when you have been warned and placed under a
> court order, but we all agree it is somewhat unnerving.. NO?
> 
> I hear where you're coming from, but the point I think is Kaiti is beginning
> to feel in over her head.
> 
> Bless you for being sensitive, Kaiti, but sometimes you have to  be firm.
> 
> Ian
> 
> 
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Dave Webster" <dwebster125 at gmail.com>
> To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'" 
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Friday, December 27, 2013 9:45 PM
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?
> 
> 
> :I wouldn't go that far.  Per haps her parents know what she's doing.  I 
> mean
> : it was her parents that gave her the list of people anyhow.  Authorities
> : won't do much sh'es not doing anything that's against the law.
> :
> : -----Original Message-----
> : From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Lillie
> : Pennington
> : Sent: Friday, December 27, 2013 6:10 PM
> : To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> : Subject: Re: [nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?
> :
> : I hate to suggest this, but have you tried getting in touch with her 
> parents
> : or other authorities in her area? This is sort of an extreme option but 
> you
> : may need to take such actions.
> :
> : Sent from my iPhone
> :
> : > On Dec 27, 2013, at 8:46 PM, Kaiti Shelton <crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com>
> : wrote:
> : >
> : > Hi,
> : >
> : > I tried mentioning the idea of getting help to her, and it made her
> : > upset.  She can get really mad at me when she thinks that I'm not
> : > taking her seriously or are avoiding talking to her.
> : >
> : > A lot of what she has told me about has been blindness stuff, but
> : > there are some odd social tendencies that she has too.  She had some
> : > issues with teachers in high school because she said they didn't take
> : > her seriously and weren't treating her like everyone else, and she
> : > also kept telling me that her "blind friends" that she made would stop
> : > talking to her.  Often she would tell me this while she was crying, so
> : > I couldn't understand what she was saying about the situation.  Then
> : > she told me her parents were going to make her see someone.  This was
> : > in my senior year of high school.  The last time I actually talked to
> : > her, things seemed pretty good.  She was saying she got a boyfriend,
> : > so I thought things would be going better.
> : >
> : > If she calls again I will offer her a help line number and see how
> : > that goes, but I'm wondering if she will take that advice since she
> : > was so opposed to therapy when I mentioned it to her in the past.
> : >
> : > I do think a lot of her problems stem from a combination of blindness
> : > issues and some social quirks, but I feel in those areas I've done and
> : > said all I know to.  I will try this again and see what she does.
> : >
> : >> On 12/27/13, Dave Webster <dwebster125 at gmail.com> wrote:
> : >> Yea.  I still at times don't know how to deal with girls.  I have a
> : >> tendency to move too fast at times when it comes to relationships.  I
> : >> don't mean to embarrass you or anything but I also have a bit of a
> : >> strange fettish which I've struggled with my whole life.  I've tried
> : >> to tlak to therpists about it but I've noto been able to get them to
> : >> help with it.  They don't want to touch it when it comes to talking
> : >> about it.  So.
> : >>
> : >> -----Original Message-----
> : >> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Beth
> : >> Taurasi
> : >> Sent: Friday, December 27, 2013 4:53 PM
> : >> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> :
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