[nabs-l] Hello. Wanted to post something to the list.

Wed Feb 13 03:15:27 UTC 2013

Saying you hate relationships is quite a strong statement. I've had
some pretty bad experiences myself. I made a choice not to date for
quite awhile after the turmoil that was my last relationship, and the
other stuff that happened which I explained in my previous message.
But I was never one of those people who swore off dating entirely.
Just as I know it does no good to say you hate a food if you've never
tried it, it doesn't really do any good to actively oppose dating. You
don't know what will happen, so taking it slow is really the best way
to go if you find yourself in a situation where you think you might
get into a relationship. My problem has always been letting my
emotions carry me away in the beginning of a relationship. I have a
tendency to get really caught up in figuring out a new partner. It
gives me a rush like nothing else probably ever could. Spending
inordinate amounts of time together, trying to crack the other
person's code so to speak, is something I have a very hard time
resisting. But, after the disaster of my last serious relationship, it
took that side of me down a few notches.

On 2/12/13, Sarah <coastergirl92 at gmail.com> wrote:
> I cry every day.  I hate relationships, especially long whtance
> ones they never work.
>
>  ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Dave Webster" <dwebster125 at gmail.com
> To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Date sent: Tue, 12 Feb 2013 14:13:11 -0800
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Hello.  Wanted to post something to the
> list.
>
> Yea thanks.  I think she did get scared but we had actually
> talked about
> that.  I mean hopefully we can talk but I'm not sure.  Its gonna
> take some
> time to get over this.  I've been going through a lot of crying
> spells.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
> Gloria G
> Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 11:55 AM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Hello.  Wanted to post something to the
> list.
>
> Hi,
> I am so sorry that happened to you.  You seem like a really nice
> guy and I
> think she just got scared.  Maybe after things cool off you guys
> can talk and
> figure out what happened.  Well I hope you feel better.  Try
> doing something
> that is fun for you just to get your mind off things.
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Dave Webster" <dwebster125 at gmail.com
> To: "'National Association of Blind Students mailing list'"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 1:44 PM
> Subject: [nabs-l] Hello.  Wanted to post something to the list.
>
>
>  Hello all.  I'm Dave.  I am not a student right now.  I have
> bipolar
>  and am unable to handle the stress of going to school.  I know
> that
>  this may be off the topic of this list but I wanted to post it
> anyhow.
>  I just got out of a relationship.  It was a long distance one
> whare
>  she lives in Michigan and I in California.  We started talking
> at the
>  beginning of January right after new years.  We didn't mean to
> but we
>  started to hit it off really really well.  About a week or so
> later
>  she bought plane tickets for me to come out there to Michigan to
> see
>  her.  If I liked it out there then I was most likely gonna stay
> and be
>  with her.  Right now I live in a board and care facility.  It
> turns
>  out that for a couple of weeks probably when she bought the
> tickets or
>  pretty soonn after she began having doubts and fears about the
>  relationship.  I had my doubts and had my fears as well and knew
> this
>  was a normal thing.  We talked about them but a few days later
> she
>  called the relationship off because there were some symptoms
> which
>  were rather minor ones that she said she couldn't handle.  It
> turns
>  out that she is now tomorrow going to see this guy in Colorado.
> Mind
>  you she doesn't know this guy and she didn't know me either but
> I feel
>  like we had something.  I feel like my emotions were played with
> and
>  I'm really hurt.  I was just wondering if any of you who want to
> could
>  help me through this.  I've been going through a lot of crying
> spells.
>  During this time on January 10th I lost my grandma.  She was 90
> and
>  had bad dementia and died in her sleep on the evening of the
> tenth.
>  So I am trying to work with 2 losses right after another.
> Loosing my
>  grandma and loosing Terri.  Terri was someone that I could love
> and
>  did love and still do.  I wish she wouldn't go to Colorado.
>  This guy that she's going to see has anxiety and depression as
> well
>  and she found him on a sight for people with mental illnesses.
> Maybe
>  if any of you want to we could talk off list.  I've been going
> through
>  a lot of crying spells and sometimes I need help through them.
> My
>  friends, which by the way I don't have a lot of I feel like they
> may
>  not be able to understand what's going on.  I feel like I wasn't
> good
>  enough for her.  I'm just really really hurt.
>
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