[nabs-l] Families misunderstanding real world

[Lavar Phillips]

Sometimes you just got to not deal with people

Lavar J Phillips
5003 48 Street Woodside New York 11377
Cell # (917) 858 3368
Twitter lavar1988
On Nov 21, 2013 11:54 AM, "Bridgit Pollpeter" <bpollpeter at hotmail.com>
wrote:

> Beth,
>
> Unfortunately, this will just happen sometimes in life, whether it be
> family, friends or strangers. At the end of the day, you just need to
> move forward and not even deal with people like this. It's difficult
> with family, but I wouldn't engage them unless at a family gathering. If
> they seek you out, ignore it. You living your life will prove more than
> any words.
>
> I'm a formally sighted person, but when I lost my sight, I didn't really
> think one way over another about dating a blind person or sighted
> person. Some people in my life assumed I would need a sighted person to
> care for me, but I didn't really accept that concept. Plus, I don't like
> being told what I can and can not do, grin.
>
> My husband is also blind, but it has nothing to do with sight or
> blindness. We met, and it was just the right person. He could have been
> a Martian for all it mattered, because eight years later, I know it was
> the right decision, right person.
>
> I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time; it just happened.
> Though I have my list, disability wasn't on it, or at least was on the
> bottom. I saw him for him, and he saw me for me. We were not looking at
> a single aspect of one another or what the other could do for us. And
> let me tell you, love at first sight is possible when blind, smile.
>
> Don't think in terms of sighted or blind, disabled or not. Don't assume
> no one wants to date you because you're blind. Be confident, try things
> like initiating conversation, and just be your self. If a guy doesn't
> want to be involved, that's his loss.
>
> Plus, let me guess, you're in your 20's right? There's plenty of time to
> settle down. There's nothing wrong with being single, and if you feel
> you're ready for a relationship, put yourself out there, but stop
> thinking blindness is a strike against you. This negative aura will be
> picked up by others.
>
> As for children, I have a very
> Active 15 month-old, and I'm a stay-at-home parent right now. Not only
> am I able to competently and safely raise a child, but I've been
> recognized in my community for doing so. Though I'm doing nothing
> spectacular, the local media has put a spotlight on me and my family
> since Ross and I are blind parents. We've had an amazing opportunity to
> demonstrate how it's possible to be a blind parent. And honestly, I do
> little differently than a sighted parent. Raising kids isn't easy, but
> it really shouldn't be more difficult for blind people than anyone else.
>
> So, present your argument diplomatically and intelligently, but really,
> that's all you can do. It's up to others to accept what you present, and
> if they're close-minded, that's not your problem. Know you are just as
> capable of dating, being independent, raising children and anything else
> as a sighted person.
>
> Which BTW, my Little Guy is squeezing himself into a very tight spot
> trying to reach some cords. Better run, grin!
>
> Bridgit
>
>
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