[nabs-l] When NFB philosophy doesn't seem to work... advice?

Mon Jan 6 22:09:54 UTC 2014

Good afternoon, Kaiti,

         As others have said, just block her and don't involve the 
parents! They have nothing to do with this. Anyway, what ould thay 
do? If they there was something thy had the power to do, don't you 
think they would have done it by now?
Maybe, it would just cause them grate embarassment?
for today, Car
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, Tyler wrote:
>Hello:
>I don't know what good calling the house will do. I think at this 
>point you should just call and get the number blocked and let that 
>be that. It's not the best of solutions, but calling her parents 
>might just make things worse.
>HTH,
>On 12/27/2013 10:16 PM, Bobbi Pompey wrote:
>>I would suggest calling her house and speaking with her parents. Or 
>>having her phone number blocked.
>>
>>Bobbi A. L. Pompey
>>(336) 988-6375
>>pompey2010 at yahoo.com
>>http://pompey2050.wix.com/bobbi-pompey
>>
>>>On Dec 27, 2013, at 5:29 PM, Kaiti Shelton 
>>><crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>Hi all,
>>>
>>>I have quite the puzzling situation on my hands, and I am not quite
>>>sure how to handle it.  Thoughts?
>>>
>>>Almost four years ago my mom and I went to this 3 day seminar for
>>>students in the state voc rehab program with visual impairments.  This
>>>Friday evening to Sunday morning seminar was designed to show students
>>>and parents from around the state different employment options that
>>>were available, ranging from vending and call center jobs to taking
>>>the college route to get a degree in a two or four year program.  A
>>>friend of mine and I, who lived close to each other, were hanging out
>>>early on.   All of a sudden, this other girl was hanging all over him
>>>and would not give him his personal space.  It was very odd,
>>>considering that this was a very short period of time in which this
>>>all happened.  Less than 24 hours after the students had met, my
>>>friend was so creeped out by the almost constant and unwanted
>>>attention that he began to avoid this girl.  Other students, seeing
>>>how creeped out he was and some creeped out themselves due to the same
>>>thing, ended up following suit.
>>>
>>>I was sixteen at the time, and could feel for my friend.  The girl was
>>>very much in my face a lot of the time too, but I was a bit more
>>>patient with her throughout the weekend.  She seemed to be worse with
>>>the guys than the girls too, so I had a little more space than my
>>>friend.
>>>
>>>About 3 months after the program in the summertime, she started
>>>calling my house.  The parents at the program were given a list of the
>>>other parents who attended, along with their phone numbers, so they
>>>could swap resources if they so chose.  This girl got the list from
>>>her parents, and was using it to call me and my friend, possibly other
>>>students as well although I am not sure.  The calls started off being
>>>about once every so often, then increased.  She was a very odd girl,
>>>and liked to complain and cry about her problems to me and my friend.
>>>There was nothing social about the calls, just complaining and
>>>negativity, and mumbling which was really weird.  He quit talking to
>>>her much sooner than I did because I tried to get her to see that
>>>being visually impaired, (she didn't like the word blind since she was
>>>a large print reader, and kind of used that to elivate herself above
>>>other people), was not the worst thing in the world.  She would cry
>>>and complain, and even tell me I didn't understand how bad things
>>>were, when her descriptions of things made it sound like she was very
>>>overdramatic.  I decided at the end of my junior year, a year after
>>>the calls started coming, that I didn't want to talk to a downer, and
>>>that I wasn't going to be able to convince her that blindness didn't
>>>mean the end of the world.
>>>
>>>The girl continued to call.  My senior year was very busy with
>>>activities and preparing for college.  I would come home from marching
>>>band practices to find my siblings quite frustrated because the girl
>>>had kept calling, sometimes as much as 5 or 6 times in a span of a few
>>>hours.  They didn't want to answer the phone because whenever someone
>>>told her I wasn't home she would instantly get teary and mumble things
>>>to herself, and it was very weird, but they didn't want her to
>>>continue calling either.  I remember one night over Christmas break of
>>>that year, she called and when I told her I was getting ready to leave
>>>the house, which I was to go pick up someone coming in from out of
>>>town for the holidays with my family, she got angry and wanted me to
>>>give her my cell phone number.  I told her that I didn't want to give
>>>it out, and she started to get upset.  Then I really had to go, and
>>>there was the characteristic mumbling.
>>>
>>>My parents have told me that for the past year and a half that I've
>>>been in college that the girl has continued to call.  My mom has told
>>>her that I live at school and do not come home much multiple times.
>>>My younger siblings, in frustration, have told her that I've moved
>>>away and have begun making up different things to tell her to try to
>>>discourage her from calling.  She continues to call, and around
>>>Christmas it is always terrible.  A few nights ago she called when my
>>>parents were asleep a little after  11:00 at night, and has apparently
>>>called and left messages late at night before.  My parents have to get
>>>up very early for work, so In order to stop the ringing and to prevent
>>>a message from playing over the machine I had to answer.  Everything
>>>was exactly the same.  I was heading to bed myself, so I told her that
>>>I was asleep when she asked for me.  The fact that she had called at
>>>such a late hour didn't seem to phase her, there was just the mumbling
>>>and usual stuff coming over the line.
>>>
>>>I don't quite know what to do.  I've tried to be positive with her and
>>>that hasn't worked.  My family has told her that I no longer live at
>>>home and am away at school among other things in frustration, but
>>>nothing seems to phase her.  I know she still calls my friend's house
>>>as well, even though he does not live at home any more either.  I
>>>don't quite know what to do about this.  I barely know her and she
>>>barely knows me, and in spite of this I have tried to help her with no
>>>success.  My parents and siblings have said that we should just block
>>>her calls, but I have hesitated in doing this while I was in high
>>>school because I didn't want to be mean, and then I honestly forgot
>>>about her for the most part while I was at school last year and last
>>>semester because I can't get calls from her there.  After the call a
>>>few nights ago, I don't really know what to think.  I am slightly
>>>creeped out that even after my parents have told her I am not home for
>>>the past year and a half that the calls are still coming.  What do you
>>>think I should do?
>>>
>>>   --
>>>Kaiti
>>>
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