[nabs-l] family problems dealing with blindness

[andrew edgcumbe]

Hi all  I  just have been having family difficaulties i have documented
them as a whole it may not look blindness right away but i get into that
later in the message though.

 this happened a month ago in april this happened. but anyway my parents
and i got into bit of a cafuffal and things. i got bit jumpy or whatever
but that is all but anyway my dad all of a sudden tells me to get out of
the room very sternly. anyway i did not leave the room but anyway he then
threatened to call the police on me. i still did not leave the room until
he said he ment what he said about that threat. this was couple hours
before i was going out with a close friend. but anyway when she came just
before we left my mom said my dad wanted to talk to my friend. We just told
her we did not have time to talk and we left she said she had a gut
instinct that something was not right or was going to happen or something
like that before she got to my place i was just pretty scared my friend
said she couldn't blame me for being scared as she would be to if that was
said to her. I felt everything from a evil presence to anything else in
that house. My dad can be the type who does raise his voice and shut people
down instead of listening to them things like that. I been babied and
things by my parents and things. my dad treats me like a kid just his tone
of voice when he asks things do you know what a porcky pine is for example
it was like he tells me stuff i already know. my parents tend to treat me
like i have a disability and things i will state here that i don't consider
blindness a disability only an impairment. but my parents treat me like i
can't do anything and things like that he tends to concentrate on blindness
both parents do that is and does not think on the abilities. my parents are
just very controlling when it comes to these things and it just gets me
down and things. he has said to me when i told him to stop treat me like a
blind man his return fraise is this well you are blind and things like
that. again i don't consider blindness a disability i consider it an
impairment only. i just end up feeling very discouraged and feeling down
and things like that. i end up feeling hopless and i feel like i am very
iceolated and i feel very trapped at home as i am not aloud to do what i
want to do and things. i just am very tired of my parents in fact i feel
down because of being so trapped and things. my parents don't listen or
anything to me and when i tell somebody mom or dad how i feel they snap
back at me very quickly that is why i can't go to them.  I am finding that
they have their set way of what they want to do or want me to do for
example things like that.  I am 28 years old there has been things i feel
that have not been shown to me my parents are not grounded in  nfb
philosaphy they may say a blind person is capable   on the other end there
is this mind set they are not showing me that not showing me that i am
capable.   I know everybody has not been through these type of experiences
but there seems to be fair number that have had trouble with parents that
are in the blind community.