[nabs-l] family problems dealing with blindness

[James Hulme]

I agree with Kaiti Shelton.  You are not the only person to deal with this
type of situation. I perceive it was a family feud or a scuffle. My advice
to you would be that you need to separate and make the best of the
situation. Contemplation and procrastination will not help the situation.

Please remember to not let family get in the way of your own problems.

Live in the future and make it beautiful.

Hope you solve those family problems, Andrew.

Best of luck.

Jimmy Hulme


On Wed, Jun 3, 2015 at 6:15 AM, Mabelin Ramirez via nabs-l <
nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:

>
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
> > On Jun 2, 2015, at 11:25, Alana Leonhardy via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> wrote:
> >
> > First, you mentioned that you're 28. But are your parents still your
> legal guardians? If they are, they can still set rules and expect you to
> follow them. Even if they're not, it sounds as though you're living with
> them still; so they still make the rules of the house. Do either of your
> parents hit you, push you, or anything like that? Or do they call you names
> and insult you?
> > I understand being frustrated with parents treating you differently
> because of blindness. If you have any friends who aren't family members, it
> can help to vent to them.
> >
> > Sent from my iPhone
> >
> >> On Jun 2, 2015, at 07:52, andrew edgcumbe via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> wrote:
> >>
> >> Hi all  I  just have been having family difficaulties i have documented
> >> them as a whole it may not look blindness right away but i get into that
> >> later in the message though.
> >>
> >> this happened a month ago in april this happened. but anyway my parents
> >> and i got into bit of a cafuffal and things. i got bit jumpy or whatever
> >> but that is all but anyway my dad all of a sudden tells me to get out of
> >> the room very sternly. anyway i did not leave the room but anyway he
> then
> >> threatened to call the police on me. i still did not leave the room
> until
> >> he said he ment what he said about that threat. this was couple hours
> >> before i was going out with a close friend. but anyway when she came
> just
> >> before we left my mom said my dad wanted to talk to my friend. We just
> told
> >> her we did not have time to talk and we left she said she had a gut
> >> instinct that something was not right or was going to happen or
> something
> >> like that before she got to my place i was just pretty scared my friend
> >> said she couldn't blame me for being scared as she would be to if that
> was
> >> said to her. I felt everything from a evil presence to anything else in
> >> that house. My dad can be the type who does raise his voice and shut
> people
> >> down instead of listening to them things like that. I been babied and
> >> things by my parents and things. my dad treats me like a kid just his
> tone
> >> of voice when he asks things do you know what a porcky pine is for
> example
> >> it was like he tells me stuff i already know. my parents tend to treat
> me
> >> like i have a disability and things i will state here that i don't
> consider
> >> blindness a disability only an impairment. but my parents treat me like
> i
> >> can't do anything and things like that he tends to concentrate on
> blindness
> >> both parents do that is and does not think on the abilities. my parents
> are
> >> just very controlling when it comes to these things and it just gets me
> >> down and things. he has said to me when i told him to stop treat me
> like a
> >> blind man his return fraise is this well you are blind and things like
> >> that. again i don't consider blindness a disability i consider it an
> >> impairment only. i just end up feeling very discouraged and feeling down
> >> and things like that. i end up feeling hopless and i feel like i am very
> >> iceolated and i feel very trapped at home as i am not aloud to do what i
> >> want to do and things. i just am very tired of my parents in fact i feel
> >> down because of being so trapped and things. my parents don't listen or
> >> anything to me and when i tell somebody mom or dad how i feel they snap
> >> back at me very quickly that is why i can't go to them.  I am finding
> that
> >> they have their set way of what they want to do or want me to do for
> >> example things like that.  I am 28 years old there has been things i
> feel
> >> that have not been shown to me my parents are not grounded in  nfb
> >> philosaphy they may say a blind person is capable   on the other end
> there
> >> is this mind set they are not showing me that not showing me that i am
> >> capable.   I know everybody has not been through these type of
> experiences
> >> but there seems to be fair number that have had trouble with parents
> that
> >> are in the blind community.
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> I hope your issue gets fixed soon.
> My best regards.
> I'm still under guardianship myself.
>
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