[nabs-l] How to handle creepy blind-obsessed people

[STOMBERG, KENNEDY]

Josh, I know! It's super gross!

On Mon, Oct 19, 2015 at 10:18 PM, josh lester via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
wrote:

> Wow!
> What I can't stand is people that when taught how to guide me, insist
> on me putting my hand on their shoulder, or letting them hold my hand
> like a child!
> It's annoying!
> Alana, when did you start losing your sight?
> Thanks
>
> On 10/19/15, Alana Leonhardy via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> > This sounds very disturbing. I have also encountered a person like this.
> It
> > was right as I was losing my vision that I met this person, and the only
> > reason things didn't escalate beyond control is because I moved away. The
> > things you mentioned sound very similar, and it sounds like he makes you
> > feel really uneasy. People can show interest in the disabled for a
> number of
> > reasons, some good and some not so much. Sometimes it's because they
> think
> > they'll be an easy victim, sometimes they're interested in the person as
> a
> > whole and they're disability doesn't make them uncomfortable or lose the
> > attraction, blind and sighted people end up together all the time. But
> > sometimes, it's the disability itself that excites the person, like my
> sick
> > ex and maybe the guy you're talking about. I can't say for sure since I
> > don't know the man. But if that's what is going on, then the word you've
> > used, target, is a good one. I can certainly understand why you may be
> > worried for yourself and your friend if you reject his advances, but just
> > because he has a creepy fetish doesn't mean he will become violent. My
> > advice is to to tell him you're not interested via private Facebook
> message,
> > so there's a record of your saying no and his reaction. There has been
> some
> > good advice offered previously too :)
> > I hope I'm overreacting because of my own previously mentioned situation,
> > and that your creep is easier to deal with.
> > Best of luck,
> > Alana
> >
> > Sent from my iPhone
> >
> >> On Oct 18, 2015, at 21:41, Kaiti Shelton via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> >> wrote:
> >>
> >> Hi all,
> >>
> >> I'm sure you're wondering about the strange subject line, but the
> >> situation is exactly how it sounds.  This guy started pestering a
> >> friend of mine who is also blind on campus, and since we've started a
> >> disability organization and have been seen together and he saw my cane
> >> he's now starting to do it to me.  Apparently he has some neurological
> >> problems that are supposedly controled, but the odd behavior isn't
> >> something that we're aware of that can be related to seizure
> >> disorders.  He has admitted to my friend that he has a thing for girls
> >> with disabilities, and since meeting her has been fascinated by blind
> >> chicks.  It was a little disturbing to me when he started sending me
> >> really forward facebook messages and mentioned my friend, and when I
> >> asked her about it the next day she half-jokingly referred to him as
> >> "Her stalker," and told me she'd fill me in further in private, which
> >> she did.  He seems fairly harmless for the time being and she's so far
> >> been successful in just ignoring him or not giving information, and
> >> she certainly made it known that she does not return the liking he
> >> says he has for her, but I still am creeped out a bit by the pattern
> >> of going after blind chicks.  Obviously I haven't given him any
> >> information and have mostly ignored his messages he's been sending me,
> >> but I'm a little hesitant to just block him because he'll probably
> >> show up to the club meetings now that he knows about them.
> >>
> >> I've been advised by a male friend of mine to just tell him to back
> >> off and leave me alone, but I'll admit that as a woman who is fairly
> >> identifyable as the only one with a cane and who is unable to see him
> >> coming I don't know if that is the best approach or not.  He hasn't
> >> done anything at this point that is reportable, so I don't quite know
> >> what the best approach would be.  I am pretty creeped out how he
> >> targets disabled women and blind women in particular now, but that
> >> isn't a crime in and of itself.  Thankfully I had class the time when
> >> he showed up to our table hours for our awareness week on campus, and
> >> he didn't show up to the described movie night we just had like he
> >> said he was going to.  I usually have chapter meetings for another
> >> organization directly after the club meetings so I do have an excuse
> >> to leave club by a certain time, but I'm not thrilled by the idea of
> >> this dude showing up and being weird with my friend and I while we're
> >> trying to get work done, or meeting me in person and making it harder
> >> for him to miss me when I'm going about my business on campus.
> >>
> >> Don't get me wrong---I totally have ignored creepy online people
> >> before in the few instances where they have sent me strange facebook
> >> chats or what have you, but the fact that this is a sighted dude on my
> >> campus who is going after a specific disability is really creepy to me
> >> and I do not feel comfortable about it.  Advice?  Also, I do
> >> understand that this topic kind of verges on adult conversations, but
> >> please keep your responses G or PG as I do not intend to break any
> >> list guidelines and nothing grossly inappropriate has happened here.
> >>
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> Joshua Lester
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