[nabs-l] college parties

Thu Aug 25 16:32:14 UTC 2016

What happens at these parties? I think that's the question Zachary's
honing in on, and the answer is that, well, it depends. A college
party may sound wild by virtue of it being a college party, but are we
talking about a fraternity party? Just a group of friends getting
together? A young professional networking party?

Like anything else, there are extremes. At one end of the spectrum you
could enjoy a casual conversation with a small group of people at
someone's apartment. At the other end of the extreme you could find
yourself in the middle of the woods enjoying loud music, drinks,
drugs, and sex. What you experience I think ultimately depends on the
context of the party. I was a part of my university's debate squad. We
were never crazy, but when we played, we played hard and drank heavy
because we all trusted each other not to do anything we would regret.

The best way to prepare is to figure out in advance what your limits
are. Don't wait until you're in the situation to figure out what you
should or should not do. If you don't want to drink, don't drink. The
same is true of drugs. I assure you chances are very good you'll find
someone else at the party who is probably feeling the same way you are
and would love to team up with you to feel stronger about their
convictions.

And, who knows? Maybe this young lady wants you to go to one of these
parties because she just wants to hang out with you? Sometimes it's
good to analyze the situation, think about the pros and cons and
assess the consequences. At other times a party is just a party and
you are at no more risk of being hurt than you would be walking down
the street.

Good luck to you!

Joe

On 8/25/16, Zachary N. Griego-Dreicer via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Thanks for the advice Jonathan and all. I think I should try it at least
> once
> Sent from my Macbook Pro 13
>
>> On Aug 25, 2016, at 10:37, Jonathan Franks via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
>> wrote:
>>
>> Greetings Nabs,
>> yes,performing well in College is vital and very important. One should
>> focus a significant time to their studies and coursework. However, we
>> must be cognizant  of our own mental and physical awareness. If we
>> spend all of our time focusing on our schoolwork, that is a
>> prescription for burnout. We as College students need to balance into
>> our lives time for self-care. Whether it is exercising, spending time
>> with friends, going to the movies or any other type of activity that
>> is  geared to increase our happiness positively is vital to our
>> success in College. Ultimately, it is up to you if you want to attend
>> this College party. College is not only a time for academic growth and
>> success, but it is a time to make friends, take part in new
>> experiences that will help mold us into positive leaders in our
>> careers and if you are involved in the NFB, leaders in the Federation.
>>
>> Whatever you choose to do, I wish you and everyone success in their
>> academic and future careers.
>>
>> Warm regards,
>>
>> Jonathan Franks BSW
>> Board Member
>> National Federation of the Blind of Texas
>> Treasurer
>> Texas Association of Blind Students
>>
>> On 8/25/16, KENNEDY STOMBERG via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>> All of that said, some people would argue that parties are kind of just
>>> a
>>> part of the college experience, and that you should experience that. I'm
>>> not
>>> big into parties myself, but if you want to give it a try, go for it!
>>> College is for trying new things. That said, if you do go to a party, be
>>> smart about it. Make sure there's a friend who always knows where you
>>> are
>>> it's sort of generally. I would recommend this for anyone regardless of
>>> their amount of sight. Regardless of whether you decide to go to parties
>>> or
>>> not, remember that well academics is of course extremely important,
>>> having a
>>> social life is good. I learned the hard way that without a social life,
>>> you
>>> sort of go insane. :-) Good luck!
>>>
>>> Kennedy Stomberg
>>> (218)295-2391
>>>
>>>> On Aug 25, 2016, at 8:35 AM, amazing tech via NABS-L
>>>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>> I would stay away from parties focus on graduation. Tell yourself that
>>>> earning a degree is more important.
>>>>
>>>> Thanks,
>>>> Aaron Linson
>>>> CEO Linson Productions.
>>>> CEO Blind Faith Project
>>>>
>>>>> On Aug 25, 2016, at 9:24 AM, Zachary N. Griego-Dreicer via NABS-L
>>>>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>> I am here  for academics and athletics there is a goalball team that
>>>>> I'm
>>>>> a part of too! What typically happens that this kind of party?
>>>>>
>>>>> Sent from my iPhone 6 Using VoiceOver
>>>>>
>>>>>> On Aug 25, 2016, at 07:10, roanna bacchus via NABS-L
>>>>>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Many people go to college for different reasons.  For me it is all
>>>>>> about
>>>>>> the academics and social life comes afterward.  Yes I think you
>>>>>> should
>>>>>> politely decline this invitation.  It would be helpful for your sweet
>>>>>> mates to have contact information for your host family.
>>>>>>
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