[nabs-l] college parties

Vejas alpineimagination at gmail.com
Fri Aug 26 03:38:20 UTC 2016


Hi Jamieanne,
I think the first year you are out of high school, no matter what it is, is about figuring yourself out.
I am entering college this year as a freshman, with 9 months under my belt at the Louisiana Center forthe Blind, and I have to say I know much more socially from that experience than I ever would have known had I started college fresh out of high school. Interacting with people, finding really good friends, not getting too involved in the drama...
Vejas 

> On Aug 25, 2016, at 17:35, Jameyanne Fuller via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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> I agree with everything that's been said so far. If you want to go to the party, by all means go, have fun. If you don't want to go to the party, or there's stuff going on that you're not comfortable with, don't feel pressured to take part. Being in college is all about figuring yourself out both academically and socially. I had a lot of trouble my first semester of college because it was the first time I had a social life and I didn't know how to balance schoolwork and friends. I never attended parties like the one you're talking about because my friends and I preferred to take advantage of the empty dorm to play dungeons and dragons and read each other our novels, so I can't speak to what goes on there, but some good advice I've heard is not only that you shouldn't let anyone else handle your drink, it's also a good idea to keep a hand over the top of your drink at all times when you're not drinking it, just in case  (I've heard this advice given to everyone, blind or sighted). Also, make sure you aren't depending on the people you go with to help you out or get you home or anything. If they're having fun and getting into anything you're not interested in getting into, you could be left in the cold for a way back to your suite. So make sure you can get home independently, again just in case. But like I said, if you want to go, go and have fun!
> HTH,
> Jameyanne
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> From: NABS-L [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Justin Williams via NABS-L
> Sent: Thursday, August 25, 2016 7:59 PM
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> Cc: Justin Williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] college parties
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> I agree, attend that party. 
> It took me a few years to figure that out, but when I got right, I used to go to everyone's party.  I go all over the place now; this Saturday, I'm going down town to main street, and to the hispannic festival.  I wouldn't have gone to any of the community events, or had some of the wild adventures I've had if I hadn't learned how to socialize, and party, yes, I said it, party, while  in college.  
> But, be careful, and don't feel you're under any pressure.
> Justin
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> Sent: Thursday, August 25, 2016 1:55 PM
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> Cc: Anya Avramenko <annita.co.usa at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] college parties
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> I'm sorry, but I strongly disagree with this advice!
> Yes, college is about studying, but you shouldn't disregard your social life. You need to learn to branch out and make new friends and build useful connections for the future.
> Unfortunately, some blind people turn out socially awkward and very naïve because, for a variety of reasons, they have not been  exposed to  the real world, and they often don't know how to deal  with life challenges effectively. College life can be very exciting outside of  classes, and it will  present you with many teachable moments. Your college experience should not be only about books  and exams, but also about fun times, activities with your friends, and various memories that you can retrieve when you get older.
> College is the time in your life when you should break out of your shell and fully participate  in the world around you.
> I strongly recommend you to definitely accept the  offer and attend a party!
> A
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> Sent: Wednesday, August 24, 2016 11:52 PM
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> Hi NABS,
>   This is my 1st week of my 1st semester staying in a college dorm and I am really enjoying myself. I have 11 other suite mates who are all sighted, mostly Freshman and Sophomores like me. They do great at helping me out if/when I need help. The other night I was here and had the place mostly to myself with the exception of 3 or 4 of the suite mates. I found out that everyone else had got to a party at someone’s house and weren’t coming back until 1 or 2 in the morning. There was alcohol and dances at that party and I don’t know what else. The next day one of the suite mates approached me and said that she wanted me to experience a party like that, and my response to her was I’d consider if she had me do it safely and that I’d never gone to one before because I’d never been invited. So what have been your experiences at those kinds of parties if you have gone? I am here in Chicago  on exchange from another region, and it would make me feel better if my host family who is half an hour away and some of my suite mate had each others’ numbers in case something happened at a party and I was involved. Do you agree? Are such parties typically enjoyed by NFB folks? I am really not much of a person who drinks are there other things that happen at these kinds of parties? Aside from possible drunk driving on the parts of attendees is there other possible risks/consequences  to going?  If so  should I politely decline? Thank you in advance, and I hope you all are enjoying the new school year!:)   
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