[nabs-l] Blindness and roommates

[J.J. Meddaugh]

You wrote:

 >Hi Sami,


I disagree with this on principle. Having roommates and dealing with 
them is a part of life. Your situation is certainly unfortunate and you 
should talk to your roommates directly and then to your RA if that 
doesn't resolve things who may be able to move you to another room. I 
don't agree with needing your own room as an accommodation since most 
roommate issues are just that and not blindness issues. Plus learning to 
work with and deal with roommates is a part of the college experience.
Of course this is just one opinion and if you choose to do it 
differently, that's totally OK.





On 11/29/2016 11:20 AM, Vejas Vasiliauskas via NABS-L wrote:
> Hi Sami,
> I'm so sorry to hear about your roommate difficulties. I am in a single room and they really should have given you one.
> I can't remember which college you go to, but does your work have a residential minister? I have one, and I'm not really sure how much power he holds but you may be able to talk to him about ideas.
> Some people are just very, very disorganised. I think it might be because if they lived in their own rooms at home, they never had to worry about where things were placed.  While I  completely understand your annoyance, I agree with others in that at least they put everything back and they might have done the same whether you were sighted or blind.
> As for  your roommates inviting their friends around, I have a sighted friend at school with the same issue. She tried to subtly hint it but they either couldn't or wouldn't take the hint, so you need to be direct. Maybe ask them if instead of inviting their friends over, if they go to their friends dorms instead.
> Vejas
>
>> On Nov 28, 2016, at 22:41, Sami Osborne via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>
>> Hi all,
>>
>> As you probably know, I am currently a college freshman and really enjoy it so far.  However, I have experienced major issues with my two roommates throughout the course of the semester.  It seems to me that both of them are not very organized with their belongings, and that I am the most organized out of the three of us.  The first incident that happened was back in September, when one of my mates charged his laptop using my power strip while I was home for the weekend, and I therefore didn't notice until when I returned to campus on Monday morning.  Also, the same guy took his lamp and put it on my desk rather than his own, and also put one sock of his under my bed and the other one under his.  Also, both of them often times invite their friends into our rom, and it can get pretty rowdy.  Most nights, they  stay up later than me - usually until 1:30 or 2:00 AM.  While I personally don't have a problem with this, it does irritate me that they are staying up listening to music and watching TV while I'm trying to get some rest for the next day.  It also seems as though they take full advantage of the fact that I go home every weekend to get into or even steal my personal posessions.  For example, they took away my desk chair without any notice to me, and didn't bring it back to my desk until the following Monday, and even so, I had to ask them to give it back to me.  The last straw happened just today, when I discovered that they had stolen my night table next to my bed.  I have no idea why they did that, but that's what they did.  Fortunately, they restored it, but I was really shocked and angry that they did this.
>>
>> So as you can see, I've had some rather major issues with my roommates throughout the whole semester.  The things that they've been doing are very disrespectful to me personally.  I reported most of these concerns to the director of Residence Life just this morning, but he just responded to just have a conversation with my roommates, and that if it didn't work, we just have a meeting with them as well as my RA to figure out what to do next.
>>
>> It's also very unfortunate that, one of my accommodations was to have a single room, but that request was never granted to me.  When I confronted the Residence Life director, he simply responded that they did try to accommodate my request by only putting me in a unit for four, because apparently all the other units have up to seven people in them.  Although, as you can see, that wasn't exactly what I asked for.
>>
>> So I had a few questions for you guys: first, do you think that my roommates have been taking advantage of my absence over the weekend, as well as maybe my blindness, (like maybe thinking, "Oh, he's blind, he won't notice") to use and/or steal my belongings? Second, what kinds of things should I do to prevent this from happening again in the future?
>>
>> I  hope you can get back to me soon, because this is really a serious matter for me.
>>
>> Thanks and enjoy your week,
>>
>> Sami
>>
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