[nagdu] nagdu

Thu Feb 25 17:52:19 UTC 2010

Hi Jennifer,
If you are an adult and living on your own, you don't have to worry so much 
about how your family views guide dogs.  I'd say, just get the dog and let 
them all see - the dog sells itself - and they'll soon come around.  But 
being on their case about it constantly will just cause them to dig in their 
heels just to be contrary! (grin!)

Please just let it go with them.  They'll come around - you'll see.

We all have to realize that our parents aren't always going to agree with 
what we do to live our lives. You have to live your life as an adult and you 
can't live it while looking for approval all the time.  Yes, we want our 
families to accept what we do, but it doesn't always happen.  Live your 
life, be a respectful and responsible adult and your parents will soon see 
you as a competent adult capable of making good choices in her life.

My mother was so upset and in a tizzy about the prospect of me moving to 
Vermont - way across the country from where we live. She didn't talk to me 
much but she did talk to my sister and I heard from her. My mother was 
worried that I'd be gone and she'd die without having seen me before she 
would die.  Heavy stuff as my parents are in their 80s.  And several years 
ago, she almost did die without seeing me - and we live locally!

I decided not to move to Vermont, not because my Mom was upset about it. I 
didn't move because I found that it wasn't the best thing for myself.  If 
the move was going to be a plus for me and it would make my life better, I 
would have moved.

So, Jennifer, live your life and make your decisions based on what you feel 
is best for you. Will you make mistakes in life, yes you will.  It is how 
you deal with those mistakes and how you learn from them.  Yes, you'll 
always be your mother's kid - I certainly am and I'm 59 years old! LOL

So, don't worry.  Your family loves you and they'll soon come around when 
they get a look at that sweet guide dog and see you competently moving 
around living your life. (grin!)

Regards,

Lyn and Landon
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jennifer L Finley" <jenniferfinley at embarqmail.com>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
<nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, February 20, 2010 9:11 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] nagdu

> ya, it is crazy because when I say something to my grandma for example 
> about the dog, she has no reply.  Do you know anyone like that?  I mean 
> she has nothing to say about it.  You know, I want to hear something like, 
> your doing a great job.  Or some I am very proud of you.  You know 
> something like that.  That hurts when I don't hear it from my family.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Linda Gwizdak" <linda.gwizdak at cox.net>
> To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Saturday, February 20, 2010 5:15 PM
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] nagdu
>
>
>> Jennifer,
>> Well, if yoiu live at home and also own a cat, sounds like you can 
>> certainly own a dog.
>>
>> I'd get the dog if that's what you want.  You say your Mom is concerned 
>> with you stepping in poop in your house - well how about when the cat 
>> hawks up a hairball!  I still remember when we were kids we were all 
>> asleep and all of a sudden my younger sister let out this blood chilling 
>> scream. After we all had the crap scared out of us we discovered that my 
>> sister had gotten up to use the bathroom and stepped in a soggy hairball 
>> in the hallway with her bare feet.  We all laughed about it next morning. 
>> LOL
>>
>> I keep my dogs on either a tiedown or in his crate at night so if he has 
>> an accident because he's sick and he couldn't wake me, he can't spread 
>> diahrrea all over the entire house.  That is so bad because the smell 
>> permeates everywhere and you can't locate the mess where the smell is 
>> from.  The smell is equally strong everywhere!  I had to get my neighbor 
>> to help me find the multiple messes.
>>
>> Your Mom thinks you are responsible and capable with your own care and 
>> the cat's care and you can do what it takes to live alone in an 
>> apartment?  If this is the case, why is she making such a fuss over 
>> something that will enhance the independence you already have?
>>
>> Also, you are an adult, unlike the young high school student on this 
>> list. You have the right to do as you please as long as it's legal and 
>> responsible.
>>
>> Good luck on your neew dog! (grin!)
>>
>> Lyn and Landon
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Jennifer L Finley" <jenniferfinley at embarqmail.com>
>> To: <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Friday, February 19, 2010 3:30 PM
>> Subject: [nagdu] nagdu
>>
>>
>>> Hi Lynn this is Jennifer.  To answer your question no I do not live at 
>>> home any more.  It's just that my parents think that I can not handle 
>>> the responsability that comes with a guide dog.  I have a cat, so it's 
>>> not like I can't handle it.  I think that a lot of it is that they do 
>>> not know how guide dogs work.
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