[nagdu] Cant do it

Fri Dec 30 04:15:41 UTC 2011

Hannah,

How you choose for yourself in this situation is of course entirely what 
you choose. /smile/

The notion that your going for a guide dog that has become available 
will cause every other student to just come and go as they please is, 
well... Think about it. What is the supervisor saying about herself, 
then? If she were a trainee and another student took time to get a guide 
dog, or to attend a family emergency, or something like that, would she 
then be the kind to assume that she could just skip class and go 
shopping, or what?

If she's thinking that way, and taking consideration for the fact that 
she is new to her job comes into play, then perhaps she could use more 
training from her boss? Or perhaps her boss could clear things up for 
her so that she understands the difference between going to get a guide 
dog when you are accepted and just taking off on a whim?

Okay, so I've been around awhile and spent a lot of time working and 
going to school and all that in the real world... Your supervisor's 
assumptions are inherently demeaning, saying quite a lot about her 
attitudes and so forth. What I learned -- by dint of being just 
pigheaded stubborn even when I was a sweet young thing of a woman doing 
a man's work -- is that you can allow such an individual to pressure you 
into choices that are not what you see best for you. Or you can stick to 
your guns and a realistic analysis. For me, in the work world, taking 
the latter option worked out very well for me, even though I might get a 
lot of heat... Until I found myself in a new position with a new title 
and pay grade... Would you believe whoever tried to manipulate me or 
control me somehow by making unrealistic statements and expecting me to 
accept them as reasonable would be, well, kissing my posterior anatomy. 
And expecting me to forget that yesterday they were dedicated to being a 
pain in that same portion of my anatomy. Yeah, we are new best buddies 
now! You betcha! Not! /lol/

This is a different situation, but... Discussing the matter with the 
supervisor's boss seems appropriate to me and may provide a better 
solution for you. If you want to break your commitment for a trip to the 
Bahamas to swim with the dolphins, then you deserve to be treated like 
an irresponsible young twit who needs to learn the importance of commitment.

This is not the same thing.

Sorry, couldn't resist the Bahamas and the dolphins, because I totally 
want to go there and swim with the dolphins... In my imagination, guess 
who is swimming there, too? /lol/ I may be a snarly old bat, but I have 
not lost touch with my inner child. /grin/

Good luck to you whichever way you decide or whichever course you 
choose. Only you can know in the end, and only you will experience the 
results of your choices. And, as you say, there will be other dogs, 
perhaps other poodles at a better time for you. If not, since you have a 
choice about the poodle, they are not the end all and be all of guide 
dogs... /smile/

Er... Don't tell Mitzi I said that!

Tami

On 12/29/2011 07:13 PM, Hannah Chadwick wrote:
> I did ask Pilot about keeping the dog for a few months and they said they
> cannot. I can totally understand that because I'm sure the dog is ready to
> get trained with an owner!
> I think part of them not letting me take off is because they don't want
> other students to come and go as they want since that would make the entire
> experience less residential or something. Another part of it is commitment.
> The supervisor is pretty new at her job, and I can't help but think that may
> have something to do with it. I don't think getting new students in is much
> of an issue because they have room for more, but that's just my personal
> opinion.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
> Of Nicole B. Torcolini at Home
> Sent: Thursday, December 29, 2011 6:42 PM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Cant do it
>
> I kind of feel the same way. Is the whole commitment thing about teaching
> about keeping commitments or is actually about other people needing to have
> an open spot?
>      Also, you might want to ask Pilot if it is possible for them to keep the
> poodle for a few months.
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "rhonda cruz"<rhondaprincess at gmail.com>
> To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users"
> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, December 29, 2011 5:34 PM
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Cant do it
>
>
>> Hi hannah.
>> Wel, I would get the dog.
>> it seems that  the center.  doesn't care.
>> This is why i don't do training centers.    hugs.  another cup of but
>> that's my  choice.
>>
>>
>>
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Hannah Chadwick"<sparklylicious at suddenlink.net
>>> To: "'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog
>> Users'"<nagdu at nfbnet.org
>>> Date sent: Thu, 29 Dec 2011 13:34:21 -0800
>>> Subject: [nagdu] Cant do it
>>
>>> Hello everyone,
>>> So I've just spoken with the supervisor of the training center.
>> I wish I
>>> could say she approved of my getting a dog in January but sadly
>> she does
>>> not.  Before I started the training center, I'd talked briefly
>> with her about
>>> this topic and she did bring up the importance of commitment.  I
>> am suppose
>>> to complete my training and then get my dog.  I feel like this is
>> a huge
>>> opportunity, especially since I want a particular type of dog but
>> I just
>>> don't know what else to do...  is there a way I can convince her
>> to let me
>>> continue training after I get a dog? I did explain the fact that
>> poodles are
>>> kind of rare and I'm not sure when the next time I will be
>> offered one.  Any
>>> thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for all
>> your
>>> support!
>>> Best, Hannah
>>
>>
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