[nagdu] commands

[Tami Kinney]

Marsha and Bibi,

I tend to agree on the subject of apologizing. I just don't bother in 
situations like that. I say, "I was talking to my dog," and let it go at 
that.

Any ongoing issues they have past that point are entirely their own and 
are no concern of mine. They are being rude by bringing their personal 
issues into my day. I am under no obligation to apologize to them for 
their bad behavior or for personal issues they seem to have had long 
before I crossed paths with them. That doesn't mean I don't remain calm 
and courteous if they keep trying to throw their issues onto me. Just 
that I remain firm in drawing my own boundaries and in being responsible 
for my own behavior and responses, just as I am for my dog's.

When Mitzi is in floozy mode, I will apologize for her unauthorized 
approach that I didn't catch in time, since it is bad manners for her to 
do that, just as it would be bad manners for me to wipe my own nose on 
their clothes or open hands. /lol/ I will admit that I am pretty 
relieved she knows how to pick these new best friends and lovers from 
those who are just dying to lov her in return. Still, she's kinda gone 
into floozy mode for the past couple of weeks, and I do find myself 
vaguely wishing that once, just once, she would pick out the meanest 
most dog-hating human in the crowd. /lol/ Well, I've gotten out of my 
bad habit of assuming she isn't out on her own working the crowds while 
I'm trying to have a conversation, so that works wonders for keeping 
things within reasonable limits. . Whew Just when you thought it was 
safe... /grin/

Marsha, I will add that we each have to figure out how best to handle 
these minor public conflicts we didn't actually start, according to what 
works best for us and how we b elieve we should respond to other people 
in our environmen at any given time. Whatworks for me is what works for 
me. and is what I am comfortable with. If something in my approach and 
attitude is useful to you in working out how you want to decide your 
own, so much the better. /smile/

Good luck, and let us know if you decide to change your approach and how 
that works.

Tami




On 11/05/2011 08:12 AM, Cindy Ray wrote:
> Well, I wouldn't apologize first off. I would just explain that I was speaking with my dog. Trust me, I have told my dog "forward" or "right" or "left", and people say, "yes, forward, or right, or left." As ofor people saying the dog is being good, sometimes that is true, but mostly that means "being good as dogs go." Dogs sniff; you, dear dog, aren' supposed to sniff. So I try to say, "The dog is not supposed to be sniffing you." "I think he smells my cat." It's really not their business if you are correcting I'd say. It seems to be another one of those instances where we educate educate educate, and often it doesn't do much good. I can't understand why someone would think you are talking to them if you are saying "leave it" to the dog. I would maybe say that if someone was discussing a topic that I wanted them to leave alone.
>
> Cindy
>
> On Nov 5, 2011, at 9:58 AM, Marsha Drenth wrote:
>
>> Hi List,
>>
>>
>>
>> There was something mentioned on another list that sparked a very
>> interesting subject for me. Here is a situation for example. I am at school,
>> or out in the city or just traveling. Emma is sniffing something, and I tell
>> her to leave it, not in a loud voice but in a firm voice. I try to tell her
>> in a voice that she can only hear and that will not draw attention to me.
>> But to my surprise there is someone around. And they think I am speaking to
>> them, to leave me and my dog alone. I am not speaking to them, but they
>> become offended. Then I have to apologize.
>>
>>
>>
>> Does anyone else have this happen? Or am I the only one?
>>
>>
>>
>> Emma comes from the Seeing Eye, I use commands like: Leave it, Hop up,
>> Fouie, Right, left, inside and outside are just some of the commands I use.
>>
>>
>>
>> If the above situation happens to you? How do you handle this? And if it
>> does not how do you give your pup commands?
>>
>>
>>
>> I think the next dog I receive I will be teaching and then using commands in
>> another language. My reasons for this, that if I tell my dog a command, I
>> also do not want others to know what I am telling her to do. As some of the
>> sighted people around me have said, "No, no don't correct your dog, she is
>> being good." Or "no, no you need to go here or there, you should go to the
>> elevator."
>>
>>
>>
>> Interesting topic for discussion,
>>
>> Marsha
>>
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