[nagdu] some advice

Tue Sep 13 13:33:38 UTC 2011

Because babies move around and so do dogs and you can't always predict what they will do.
The baby is her responsibility yes, but it sounds like she's letting you live there. And let's say your dog pees on the floor. While she should tell you to get it cleaned up, let's say your in the shower. She's going to clean up the mess so baby won't get in it. It's just what we moms do.
Actually, the model of "Your responsibility and my responsibility" is the problem. Everybody lives in the house, everybody takes care of each other. Maybe that's the problem? I'd hope that if the baby needed to be held or fed or a diaper change, you'd do that if mama was in the middle of something.
If not, well, the dog is not really the issue here.

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Cindy Ray
Sent: Monday, September 12, 2011 3:42 PM
To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
Subject: Re: [nagdu] some advice

Well, the baby is her responsibility, and how would the baby get hurt. Anyway, I think that's a good decision on your part.
On Sep 12, 2011, at 1:05 PM, Chantel Cuddemi wrote:

> Lisa,
> There is a baby in the house who is three months old.
> She's going to start crawling soon and my friend doesn't want her to get
> hurt. Plus, they don't want to deal with the shedding.
> I've tried to explain that the dog would be my responsibility and that I'd
> make sure nothing happened to the baby but I am not going to bother trying
> anymore. She knows where I stand I know where she stnds so I'll move.
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> -----Original Message-----
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> Of Lisa belville
> Sent: Monday, September 12, 2011 10:07 AM
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> Subject: Re: [nagdu] some advice
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> Hi, chantel.
>
> This sounds like a no win situation for you and the future dog.  It sounds
> like they're not open to learning about dogs, let alone coming to a
> compromise, so yes, as everyone else has said, it's time to find another
> place to live and try to move on.  If this person is a good friend, forcing
> the issue might strain the situation further.
>
> How old are the "kids" who also voted to not have the dog in their house?
> Are these adult children with children of their own who will be at the house
>
> with you and your dog or are they minor children?  I guess this is just a
> difference in parenting, but I wouldn't have been given the option to have
> someone who was already living with us voted out of the house because I
> didn't like something.  It sounds like your friend is a bit apprehensive,
> and her children are just adding to the fears by putting pressure on her
> about the thought of a nasty vicious dog in her house.  And yes, that last
> sentence was sarcasm.
>
> Most of the schools are happy to educate friends and family about a dog, but
>
> even in the best of circumstances, coming home with a new dog is stressful
> enough without having to worry about how others in the house will react to
> the dog.  And then there's the whole aspect of a new dog learning the rules
> with a new handler, and this can sometimes give people on the outside the
> wrong ideas about how guide dogs should behave.
>
> I hope you can find a living situation that's more receptive to life with a
> dog.
>
> Lisa
>
>
>
> It seems I have 3 personalities. One that has a plan, one that completely
> screws up the plan, and one that says "what the hell happened to the plan?"
> Lisa Belville
> missktlab1217 at frontier.com
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> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Chantel Cuddemi" <jawsgirl87 at gmail.com>
> To: "'NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users'"
> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Friday, September 09, 2011 4:34 PM
> Subject: [nagdu] some advice
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>
>> Hi all,
>>
>> I need some advice. I am not sure what to do here. I am trying to convince
>> my friend that I am staying with her grandchild won't get hurt by my
>> future
>> guide dog, but she and her kids have voted against me having one her at
>> this
>> house.
>>
>> Should I consider moving to another area then get a dog? Please help.
>>
>> Chantel.
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