[nagdu] an update on my friend

Thu Apr 12 19:24:55 UTC 2012

Jennifer,

Welcome to the list.  I am Lyn with one n, and I am on my eighth guide dog. 
He is Landon, a six year old Lab/Golden cross from The Seeing Eye.  I am 61 
years old and live in San Diego.  I do pet assisted therapy with my dog and 
am active in my Democratic Party club.  I enjoy hanging out with friends, 
walking, reading, and many fun stuff.

I don't know you, do not belong to the list where people abused you, or know 
any more than what Laurel posted on this list.

I can see how much hurt you have gotten because of your misfortune and I am 
so sorry about that.  I want you to know that what happened to you regarding 
your dogs, does and can happen to any of us.  When you deal with living 
beings there's no guarantees as to what will happen with said living beings. 
Don't beat yourself up over it.

In the 1990s, I had some problems with dogs and other things that caused 
some schools to reject me and this didn't stop me from getting great guides. 
I went to Seeing Eye and they judge people on what they see for themselves. 
They come to interview each prospective student in person.

I've been around guide dog users and guide dog schools since the early 1970s 
and they all vary.  I am sure you will find a school that meets your needs 
that will provide you a good dog.

Right now, take the time to take care of yourself and don't let the nasty 
folks get you down.  They are the ones with the problem - not you.  This 
behavior is part of "marginalized" behavior and I see it in many minority 
groups.  They feel that they can't attack the real enemy that oppresses them 
so they wind up attacking someone else that is "safe" - another one of their 
own.  In this case, a fellow blind guide dog user.

I have been on this list for several years and I've not seen any real 
mean-spiritedness.  People will get hot at times in controversial topics and 
people have strong feelings but not meanness.

Enjoy the list and post as you feel like doing.  We are very diverse and wwe 
learn alot from each other.

Regards,

Lyn and Landon

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jennifer Perdue" <jlperdue3 at gmail.com>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
<nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 10:23 AM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] an update on my friend

> Hello,
>
> I am the person Loral is talking about.
>
> You won't hear much from me on this list because I just retired my dog and 
> with everything that has happened on the other list I'm just not going to 
> open my mouth or heart about anything.  My heart is too broken and hurt to 
> take that kind of stuff anymore.
>
> My husband has one of the messages I was sent, but I deleted the second. 
> I was not aware of the foul names or threats that were made against me 
> until Loral let me know about the messages she was sent.
>
> I just wanted you to know that I did subscribe to this list, but you won't 
> see me post.  I'm frankly too hurt, fragile, and afraid to get retaliation 
> from anyone else.
>
> thank you for your support and I'm interested to see what all of you have 
> to write about your wonderful guides.
>
> Jenny
> On Apr 12, 2012, at 7:24 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>
>> Tell her to save those nasty messages. Odds are these people are just 
>> being mean, but their words could be considered threatening and she may 
>> need proof of these messages.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>> Behalf Of Laurel
>> Sent: Wednesday, April 11, 2012 5:25 PM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] an update on my friend
>>
>> Chantel, I know you have, but what you haven't seen is the private off
>> list posts that people from there have sent her. And usually, the GDUI
>> list is great, so please don't judge everybody on the list because of
>> the actions of a few, but it's almost like the Southeastern guides and
>> many people from that list are trying to drive her out of the guide
>> dog community. In private posts that she has read to me and that she's
>> fowarded to me, people have called her names like "female dog," you
>> know what I mean, and all other names using cuss words. They have said
>> that she doesn't ever deserve another dog, that they will report her
>> to Southeastern, make sure her dog gets taken away from her, make sure
>> she never gets a dog from another school again etc. It's just cruel.
>> They said she was flaming Southeastern and etc. It goes on and on. I
>> understand wanting to protect your school, but attaking somebody
>> personally?
>> Let's just let this be a reminder to us. We need to put ourselves in
>> other people's shoes and think how we would want to be treated, and
>> then treat people that way. We need to always remember, that even if
>> we disagree with the person's actions, or things that they are saying,
>> to treat them with love and respect. We need to realize that when
>> people get angry, and make comments that they can't sthand a school,
>> like she said about Southeastern, that they are hurting and angry and
>> that us reacting out of hurt and anger can only serve to further cause
>> more hurt.
>>
>> Please everybody, remember this situation, pray for my friend, and
>> treat others as you'd wanna be treated. If you are a Christian like
>> me, then WWJD.
>>
>> Laurel and Stockard who really appreciates the support here
>>
>> On 4/11/12, Chantel Cuddemi <jawsgirl87 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> I am on the GDUI list and I've seen the posts! That's just plain sad and
>>> wrong!
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>>> Behalf
>>> Of Laurel
>>> Sent: Wednesday, April 11, 2012 4:52 PM
>>> To: NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>>> Subject: [nagdu] an update on my friend
>>>
>>> I have an update on my friend.
>>>
>>> She's still trying to figure out where to place her guide. I was
>>> disturbed to get a message on the phone saying that she's unsubscribed
>>> from the GDUI list, that some of you might be on, and that she doesn't
>>> wanna join this one anymore. In fact, she's given up on getting a
>>> guide all together. Some people, namely from another list, not at all
>>> from here, have said some very cruel and hurtful things to her either
>>> list wide or privately and just put sault in her wounds. Other
>>> southeastern grads have ganged up against her too. She's really
>>> hurting and is really broken hearted, and I hurt for her. I'm sad that
>>> because of other people's hurtful spiteful comments it's causing her
>>> to just retreat and give up. I wanna repeat, nothing bad has been said
>>> to her from anybody on this particular list, it's all another list
>>> that we're part of. She called GDB and canceled her application. I'm
>>> just so sad right now, I feel like there's noting I can do to help her
>>> and I wish I could ease the pain somehow. I wish people would put
>>> themselves in her shoes and think before they make personal attacks
>>> and hurtful comments to or about her. I'm just sad, and I had to share
>>> with somebody. Please pray for my friend.
>>> Laurel and Stockard
>>>
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