[nagdu] walking in to objects

Sun Apr 15 16:30:19 UTC 2012

I wish you the best with whatever decision you make.  

If I give the impression that I lost my husband, I didn't, I just meant that losing Brooks is on that same level for me.

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

Jenny
On Apr 15, 2012, at 11:21 AM, Hannah Chadwick wrote:

> Jenny,
> I know how you feel because I've lost many important people in the past 9 or
> so years. This is a difficult decision and I keep thinking it will get
> better, and maybe it will or maybe not. I keep telling myself if I try
> harder and keep at it, it will resolve itself, but I could be wrong. I'm
> going to keep trying for a few more months and see if there is a pattern,
> and if nothing resolves, then well I will have to make my decision.
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
> Of Jennifer Perdue
> Sent: Sunday, April 15, 2012 7:06 AM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] walking in to objects
> 
> I'm not mad at all.  I got him from Southeastern, and I wouldn't recommend
> them tro my worst enemy.  
> 
> that kind of heart break of bonding with a dog that probably shouldn't have
> been issued and have it not work out is the worst feeling in the world.  
> 
> I'd rank it up there to losing my husband.  
> 
> From experience, if your school will not come to you, and you can't trust
> Princess, my opinion is to let her go now before the bond in your heart
> becomes even stronger.
> 
> She won't be your last guide, and though it may be hard, it's better than
> you not being able to trust her fully ever, or you getting seriously hurt.
> 
> Please don't think I'm being cruel here.  It's just my opinion.  I just wish
> I had never taken Brooks home with me, but I didn't know what I was doing
> and I felt since they had trained him specifically for me, which I just
> found out they didn't, I took him anyway.  Trusting that the school was
> right, that it would get better and it didn't.
> 
> Pray about it if you pray or think about what you need and not what other
> people tell you, including me.  This has to be your decision.
> 
> Jenny
> On Apr 14, 2012, at 8:00 PM, Hannah Chadwick wrote:
> 
>> Jenny,
>> I'm sorry to hear that you have to retire him so early. I know how you 
>> feel, and I think it's stories like yours and others that have been 
>> making me think about the seriousness and importance of a guide. I 
>> wish I know if Princess will ever get better at it,and I wish I knew 
>> the answer because I already feel super attached to her after a couple 
>> of months. What school did you get your dog from? I know this 
>> shouldn't matter, but it does seem to me that some schools are better 
>> than others. Please don't get mad for thinking I'm trashing schools 
>> because I'm not, but from all the people I've talked to, well...
>> 
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>> Behalf Of Jennifer Perdue
>> Sent: Saturday, April 14, 2012 3:25 PM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] walking in to objects
>> 
>> Hi,
>> 
>> Thanks for the welcome.  
>> 
>> I worked Brooks for almost exactly three years but a little over.  
>> 
>> He just stopped wanting to take me around obstacles and with his right 
>> side clearance issues always being a problem even in class, that just 
>> got worse too.  To the degree of almost knocking down a display at the
> grocery store.
>> 
>> He ran me into almost everything and everyone at church the following 
>> day and I knew he was done.  It was going down hill with some warning 
>> signs, but to tell you the truth, he never should've been issued.
>> 
>> Don't get me wrong, I love him more than I can express.  The thing is, 
>> I never fully trusted him because of the right side clearance issues, 
>> and had I corrected for every infraction of that kind.  We never 
>> would've gotten anywhere within a reasonable amount of time.
>> 
>> The school told me it would get better but it never did.  
>> 
>> Trust is a big factor in the relationship between you and your dog.  
>> 
>> JMO,
>> 
>> Jenny
>> On Apr 14, 2012, at 12:42 AM, Hannah Chadwick wrote:
>> 
>>> Hey Jenny,
>>> Welcome to the list. I haven't been keeping up with all the emails so 
>>> I didn't see yours about retiring your dog. How long did you keep her?
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>>> Behalf Of Jennifer Perdue
>>> Sent: Friday, April 13, 2012 6:30 PM
>>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] walking in to objects
>>> 
>>> Hi Hannah,
>>> 
>>> I'm Jenny, the one who had to retire my guide dog.  
>>> 
>>> Brooks did that from the beginning too.  He wouldn't clear my right 
>>> side properly from the beginning, even in class.  I was unable to 
>>> trust him fully the entire time I had him and that was a bitter pill 
>>> to
>> swallow.
>>> 
>>> If you haven't tried it yet, contact the school and see if they can 
>>> send a trainer out to help you., but I can say from experience 
>>> though, if you don't and can't trust your dog.  You might want to 
>>> consider sending your dog back and getting one you can trust.
>>> 
>>> I know now, having been through it with Brooks, I would've and 
>>> should've done that in the beginning, but wanted to try and work 
>>> through
>> it.
>>> Unfortunately though, some things you just can't work through.
>>> 
>>> JMO,
>>> 
>>> Jenny
>>> On Apr 13, 2012, at 7:59 PM, Hannah Chadwick wrote:
>>> 
>>>> Hey all,
>>>> I know that bonding can take up to a year, but I also know that 
>>>> Princess shouldn't be walking me in to things. I honestly don't know 
>>>> what to do any more because I don't feel like correcting her is 
>>>> enough and that after a while she forgets about it altogether.
>>>> Today I went to visit the University of Santa Cruz and we went on a
> tour.
>>>> Princess for some reason walked me in to a pole and as usually I 
>>>> corrected her. This has occurred a few times since I last posted 
>>>> about it, and it's getting more difficult for me to trust her. I 
>>>> don't feel safe walking at night or in the dark now, and it's a 
>>>> horrible
>> feeling.
>>>> Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
>>>> Best, Hannah
>>>> 
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