[nagdu] When is the Connection Too Much?

Wed Jan 11 18:36:42 UTC 2012

Buddy, Good Boy!  Sorry, couldn't resist that one!  I would have done 
exactly what you did.  Despite anything I have stated earlier, There are 
indeed situations where I have left my dogs at home, though very rarely.  I 
used to operate a business where I did work in people's homes and they 
didn't want any dog there.  As for friends and family?  Seems that my dogdum 
days virtually always steer me towards meeting folks who either enjoy dogs, 
or accept the fact that I can put my dog in working mode as I would do in 
any business situation; My dogs all learned to play statue, or play dead, or 
whatever.  And I do offer to provide some sort of seat cover for private 
autos and such.

I had one friend who actually kept an old blanket so that when dog and I 
visited, the beasts had a defined place to lie and keep out of the way and 
everyone was happy with the arrangement, including that particular dog.  She 
once didn't put the blanket down on purpose and poor pup obviously felt lost 
and kept following her around her apartment until the deed was done.

Doug: Clothing, a human shed protector.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Buddy Brannan" <buddy at brannan.name>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
<nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2012 12:00 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] When is the Connection Too Much?

> This issue of where and where not, and under what situations, is a really 
> difficult one sometimes.
>
> Where I say that my home is my dog's home, and my dog should feel free to 
> have run of it, so long as he's behaving himself of course, the same 
> applies to other people's homes. If someone has a pet who isn't friendly 
> to other dogs, I have to decide what to do about that. It's their home, 
> and the pet's home, and if I want people to respect my home (and my dog's 
> home), it's only right that I respect other people's (and dogs') homes. 
> So, there are certainly situations where I would leave my dog home.
>
> I ran into a situation recently, and want to pose a "what would you have 
> done" for it.
>
> Recently, a gathering was planned, and I planned to go. I planned to take 
> a cab to the place we were going. Unfortunately, on the day in question, 
> the weather was most foul, and I felt I wouldn't be able to get a cab 
> either there or back (one way or the other would undoubtedly pose a 
> problem), so I called the person organizing the thing to let her know I 
> would not be coming owing to the cab situation, and that Melanie didn't 
> feel comfortable traveling in this weather in any case, so regardless of 
> whether I was going, she definitely wasn't. So the organizer said she 
> could see if someone could pick me up, and i said that it really wouldn't 
> be fair to spring me on someone at the last minute, and so she said she'd 
> ask her husband if he'd get me. When they called back, they asked if I 
> could leave Leno at home, because it was a short trip, and we wouldn't be 
> gone awfully long, and cleaning up the dog hair was a real pain. How would 
> you react, and why?
>
> Here's how I reacted.
>
> I told her I was sorry, but I couldn't do that. As it happened, they 
> backed down and said they'd put down a blanket, or towel, or sheet, or 
> something, for Leno. Which I would have done as well, but I was asked to 
> just leave him at home, which I didn't want to do.
>
> So why not though? After all, I could have taken my cane.
>
> As it happens, I'd just had that particular discussion with Melanie the 
> night before, about when and why and with whom. And, in this particular 
> situation, I made the decision I did for a couple reasons:
>
> 1) I didn't ask for the ride. Had I asked someone for a favor in the first 
> place, the conditions would have been a bit different. Rather, someone 
> sought to solve a problem I didn't feel I necessarily had.
>
> 2) I wasn't given alternatives. In effect, I felt I was being told what my 
> mobility choice in that particular situation should be.
>
> Thoughts?
> --
> Buddy Brannan, KB5ELV - Erie, PA
> Phone: (814) 860-3194 or 888-75-BUDDY
>
>
>
> On Jan 11, 2012, at 12:44 AM, loriandleo wrote:
>
>> Hi Dan,
>>
>> I have a grandmother who used to pick me and my previous guide dogs up to
>> go grocery shopping for example. And when I rode with my grandmother she
>> didn't mine my dog being in her car but she wanted me to put a sheet down 
>> in
>> the  back on the seat and floor for my dog to lay on so that their would 
>> be
>> less shedding and hair left behind in her car. I again brushed my dogs
>> regularly but you'll always get some shedding or hair that is left 
>> behind.
>> But I try to aliminate how much hair is left behind by using a sheet in
>> someones car if I ride with someone. And I don't mine taking a sheet or
>> blanket if a family member or friend asked me if I would mine bringing a
>> sheet or blanket along for the dog to lay on. I always tell them no 
>> matter
>> how much I  brush and groom my dog you will always get somehair that is 
>> left
>> behind.
>>
>> Also, I have had some family members like my one Aunt and Uncle that   I
>> wasn't allowed to bring my dog to their house because they had a dog and
>> they didn't want to put their dog up in another room in the house or 
>> outside
>> in the back yard so that my dog and I could come and visit with them. And
>> they felt that they shouldn't have to put their dog up in  another room 
>> or
>> outside in the back yard. Also, if I remember right, their dog didn't 
>> like
>> other dogs. So basically if my dog wasn't allowed in their home then I
>> wasn't either and my dog and I both stayed home.  And I feel if my guide
>> can't accompany me to a family members or a friends house because they 
>> don't
>> want the dog their then I stay home. This is a touchy subject for me
>> especially when it comes to certain family relatives and my dogs.
>>
>> Lori and the Gipper my LeaderDog
>>
>>
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