[nagdu] could have, would have, should have

[Cindy Ray]

Oh, Rebecca, sorry but I did misspell your name in that last message.
Cindy

On Mar 1, 2012, at 4:16 PM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:

> Isn't "giving up at the drop of a hat" a judgment call?
> Like all things, it's very easy to tell somebody "don't give up" when you aren't the one living with the problem.
> Dan gave way more to this dog then I would have, that's for sure.
> I raise this because I wouldn't want somebody to say "This dog and I just aren't getting it together, time to call it a day" and be told "keep going, you need to try harder".
> It's a very fine line, and it's an individual line that nobody else can really define.
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Natalie
> Sent: Thursday, March 01, 2012 5:13 PM
> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
> Subject: Re: [nagdu] could have, would have, should have
> 
> Hi Daniel,
> You gave it your all, and that's what counts.  You're not a failure.  There
> are other dogs out there who haven't been matched yet and will be a good
> match for you, I'm sure.  Unfortunately, there are too many who would give
> up at the drop of a hat, but you gave it your all, and don't beat yourself
> up over it.  Sending tailwags from LJ.
> Best,
> Nat and Liam Joshua
> 
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "DJS" <falcoisking at comcast.net>
> To: "NAGDU Mailing List" <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, February 26, 2012 1:16 PM
> Subject: [nagdu] could have, would have, should have
> 
> 
>> Hello all,
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> I don't know if some of you remember me, but I was a participant in the
>> list
>> about 3 years ago. I had the guide dog, Scout. He was the one who ran me
>> into my pond, crashed me into the grocery cart and busted my tooth, etc.
>> 
>> I had 2 trainers out from the school to work with me, but his behavior
>> never
>> really got above about a "c". I still kept working with him, because I
>> just
>> loved him so much, and he was such a loving dog.
>> 
>> I always looked past running into an occasional doorway, or a post here
>> and
>> there.
>> 
>> The final straw came last month when we were walking and a truck backed
>> out
>> of a driveway on a very busy street and knocked us both out into the
>> street.
>> The dog suffered no injuries thank goodness, but I suffered a concussion
>> and
>> several bruised ribs.
>> 
>> As usual, he was not paying attention to what he was doing.
>> 
>> To make a long story short, the school came and career changed him about 2
>> weeks ago.
>> 
>> I am pretty much devastated.
>> 
>> I know, and most of you at the time I got him, told me I should return
>> him,
>> but did I listen? NO.
>> 
>> I so wish I had. I feel I have wasted so long a time. I really thought I
>> could make it work.
>> 
>> The trainers kept telling me to work on different techniques, and I did. I
>> wanted it to work so badly. Of course when they picked him up, they told
>> me
>> it was a total mis-match from the beginning, and that I should never have
>> left the school with that dog.
>> 
>> A lot of good that does now - over 3 and a half years later.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> This has been such a bad experience from the beginning, I don't know if I
>> will ever want to go through the experience again.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> I guess I am looking for some words of wisdom from you guys, and some help
>> to go through this grief I am feeling at losing my best friend, even
>> though
>> he was not the best guide dog.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> You can be critical of me too, just please not to hard just yet, because I
>> am so sad.  I only wish I knew then what I know now.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Thanks for any support.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Daniel
>> 
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