[nagdu] Dog problems

[Darla Rogers]

Amen, Sherry; if and when I correct another's dog, it is with a "no!" or at
most a tiny snap on the leash 

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Sherry Gomes
Sent: Sunday, December 08, 2013 10:12 AM
To: 'NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users'
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Dog problems

It might be a good idea for you to back off from him and leave him alone for
a while. He's not your dog, and unless your Boyfriend isn't there to correct
an urgent bad behavior, it isn't really your place to do so. For one thing,
it sounds like he's becoming afraid of you, and you don't want that at all.
Also, it's possible he's becoming confused about who is alpha is. Let your
boyfriend be the primary person in his life for a while and let the dog come
to you when he's ready. 

I've had experience with this, with an ex-boyfriend from many years ago who
thought it was his right to correct my dog. I had a very sensitive dog and
she couldn't handle it. At the time, I couldn't get out of the living
environment easily, so I returned her to the school to protect her. When I
was away from that environment, I got another dog and I heard that other one
worked successfully with someone else. Now I'm a downright hard *** about
people correcting my dog, even my closest friends, boyfriends or whatever. I
tell people don't correct, unless I'm out of the room and the dog is about
to grab a nice juicy steak or something off the counter. Lol. And even then,
it should never be a yell or a physical correction of any kind. That's only
my place to do.

Sherry



-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of minh ha
Sent: Sunday, December 08, 2013 2:03 AM
To: nagdu at nfbnet.org
Subject: [nagdu] Dog problems

Hi all,

I am at my wits end about an issue and I'm hoping to get some advice,
especially from those of you that have a partner who also has a guide dog.
My boyfriend and I both have guides and our dogs are very attached to us,
meaning that they will listen to either of us when we give them commands
(out of harness, obviously.) However, O'Malley, my boyfriend's guide has
started exhibiting some very strange behaviors towards me lately. It's
almost like he is afraid of me. When I tell him to come, he won't do it; he
will just sit there and thump his tail, acknowledging the fact that he hears
me, but he refuses to come.
When I go to grab him to give him a correction, he will run to his bed and
hide in the back and will not come out, no matter what I do. I've tried
everything--corrections, talking in a stern voice, yelling, treats-and none
of it seems to do anything. Doing obedience with treats doesn't work either
because he knows treats are imminent so he'll come flawlessly. The situation
is made extra frustrating when he plays keep away with me; I will call him
and he'll get really close, but not close enough where I can actually touch
him or grab his collar. And when I do try to grab him, he will run back to
his bed again. The other thing that is really distressing both my boyfriend
and I is that O'Malley seems to prefer his bed over any spot. If his crate
is open, he will go lay in there and not come out unless you call him or
it's food time. Viva will try to engage him in playing and he plays
sometimes, but most of the time, he will just lay in bed and does nothing
else. One last thing, when we do manage to get him to come out and play, he
has been yelping a lot whenever I play with him.
We do play a little rough, but not any more than when my boyfriend plays
with him and he never yelps then. I'm just so frustrated at the situation
and I honestly don't know what else to do. I love this dog and I spoil him
to death, but for some reason, he is just acting so weird with me that it
has brought me to tears more than once. If any of you has insight into what
is going on, I would really appreciate it. I will try anything at this
point.

Cheers,
Minh


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