[nagdu] Mentoring during convention
cindyray at gmail.com
Sun Jul 14 20:30:43 UTC 2013
If you have people mentoring, and if those folks are giving too much advice, then you must take a deep breath and say, "This is not the information I'm looking for. I'm wondering how you handle and then fill in the blank." If here was going to be a formal mentoring program, then you might want to have an orientation as to the do's and don't's of mentoring. Don't tell someone what to do? Say what has worked for you? Ask the person, "Do you suppose it would work if you put on the gentle leader?" "Here's how I found the relief area." "This is what I do in order to navigate the elevator crunch." If I as a mentee am not wanting the advice you are giving me, I should tell you that is the case and ask you politely to do something different. If I am a mentor and I come across you and you seem to maybe need help, I should ask if you need assistance. Also, of course, if we could get a clue in NAGDU as to who is coming for the first time and who will mentor and then, if the new folks want to have mentoring, match people up. I don't think we have to give leash corrections or bite eat <grin> and there would be work involved, but it could be rewarding for all. It could even possibly create new friendships along the way.
On Jul 14, 2013, at 11:42 AM, rhonda cruz <rhondaprincess at gmail.com> wrote:
> hi i think that sounds like a great idea,
> we should work together,
> and get a long,
> it's about supporte,
> and advice,
> On Jul 14, 2013, at 9:07 AM, Tami Jarvis wrote:
>> When I was having trouble with Mitzi at that now long-ago convention, I did notice that some people can be offensive as heck without really trying, and usually at just the wrong moment. It's hard to settle your dog when you want to bite someone. /lol/
>> At the same time, others could say *exactly* the same thing in a way that was completely inoffensive and even helpful. I learned a lot from those people that I needed because I was a super new guide dog user. Well, I can still learn from people who know how to give information and tips. /smile/ Unsolicited advice given in the form of direct insult still makes me want to bite someone.
>> I've been wondering if there is any sort of fomalized etiquette for such interactions between guide dog users? Or if one could be developed or something? I've been mulling that over since the topic came up and haven't gotten beyond a vague notion of a list of rules or something... Well, I've read my Emily Post, but you could never tell, so for me to be thinking etiquette is a little silly. But it's a thought that maybe someone can do something with?
>> On 07/14/2013 07:44 AM, Tracy Carcione wrote:
>>> I think having mentors during convention is a good idea, but it would
>>> have to be done thoughtfully. As someone said, speaking of her
>>> convention experience, there are people who think they know everything
>>> there is to know about guide dogs, and are more than willing to share
>>> their opinion with someone they perceive as knowing less, and that can
>>> be obnoxious.
>>> If my dog is acting up, and I'm trying to get him back under control,
>>> and someone starts giving me unsolicited advice, which I probably
>>> already know, well, I'd like to give that person a good, sharp leash
>>> correction, too.
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