[nagdu] Thanks and request for input about dog guide with other family members

[Daryl Marie]

Viviana is right.  My husband does interact with Jenny, but only off-harness.  A few months ago, we had some issues of Jenny getting very excited seeing my husband, nearly out of control; even now we're still working on it.
I give her treats, initiate play, feed, etc.  Occasionally hubby will take her outside to relieve (for example, last night I had a killer migraine).  It has taken a ton of work, as Jenny is a stubborn, impulsive young dog, but she is understanding that I give approval to say hello to anyone.  There are a couple people at work who say hi to her, and she waits for me to give the OK, even if they instigate a hello.
Yes, you and your dog are a team, but you are the giver of all good things.

Daryl and Jenny (who got stupidly distracted by a cat this morning)
----- Original Message -----
From: Vivianna via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
To: Buddy Brannan <buddy at brannan.name>, NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sat, 12 Jul 2014 20:37:54 -0600 (MDT)
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Thanks and request for input about dog guide with other	family members

also, you should be the one to care for the dog.  you feed it, water it, take it outside, brush it, etc. 
here's yet another story.
i knew this woman who let her husband play with her guide dog all the time, take it outside, play ball, etc.
he payed more attention to that dog than she did.
it just so happened that they were both blind, he was a cane user.
so, one day they were going to meet at a restaurant in a busy part of town.  she was walking down the sidewalk and, the dog saw him on the other side of a busy street.  that dog took off and ran to him, leaving her standing there.  he couldn’t see where she was and the cars bearly missed that dog.
i would say, keep the friendship from other household members to a minimum.  you give the dog what it needs.
jmho.

vivianna

On Jul 12, 2014, at 8:22 PM, Buddy Brannan via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:

> Other family members absolutely can interact with your dog. Perhaps you should limit that for the first little while when you get home, just so your dog understands that ultimately, direction comes from you. That doesn’t mean your family can’t be friends with your dog, because they can and should. It does, however, mean that your dog needs to understand that you, not your husband, not your kids, are in charge. What you say goes. Your family likewise needs to understand this. Not only should they not be in the habit of giving your dog commands, but they also need to not second-guess your authority with your dog. If you correct an undesirable behavior,for instance, it is not OK for your husband to go behind you and soothe and pet the dog. This one will be hard, because it also means that if your dog is about to make a working mistake, unless it’s something that may get you killed or something, that your family let the dog make the mistake, because not doing so deprives both of you of a valuable lesson. 
> On Jul 12, 2014, at 9:01 PM, Candy Berg via nagdu <nagdu at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
>> Hi  All,
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> I  wanted to thank those who responded to me as I  consider getting a  dog
>> guide, very helpful input and I've really enjoyed reading the list during
>> the past week.
>> 
>> There have been a  couple of comments about role of other people living in
>> the home with the dog guide, and the difference in relationship between the
>> person who works with the dog and other family members who live with the
>> dog. My husband and I  have always had pets, dogs and cats. I'm wondering
>> how he would have to adjust his behavior and expectations of his
>> relationship with a  dog guide who might join our household. Any input would
>> be welcome.
>> 
>> Thanks.
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Candy 
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