[Nfbmt] confusion

[Rebecca Stewart]

Hi Joy.  I'm glad yu wrote me this message.  I was so concerned because of
the messages I was getting from Dar.  I think she was trying to portray that
I had to get funding help through her husband if I wanted or needed it but
she just kept saying I had to get his permission to go, not that I had to
get his help with funding if I wanted it, which I don't.  I wish she would
have used the correct terms instead of what she did.  I'm afraid that people
think I was being a jerk because I was trying to figure out what was going
on but I think maybe she wasn't saying what she was actually trying to
communicate, which, I think, was probably the funding issue, not the
permission to go.  Really, I don't know why she was so gung ho on repeatedly
telling me that if that is what she was trying to ssay, if I for some reason
wanted funding to go, I certainly was going about it the wrong way and it
wouldn't have mattered to anyone anyway.  Unless she just wanted to point
out that it was the situation.  I am in a position that I could actually
help someone else go to national next year as well as pay my own way if
someone else needs some help.  I'm not sure how to extend that offer though.
I'm not sure if I should just ask someone I think may appreciate the help or
what.  I don't want to make a general announcement and then have to turn a
bunch of people down.  I'm so new at this whole thing.  Can you make some
suggestions?

-----Original Message-----
From: Nfbmt [mailto:nfbmt-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Bruce&Joy
Breslauer
Sent: Wednesday, October 30, 2013 10:28 PM
To: mt
Subject: [Nfbmt] confusion

I think there may be some confusion about who can go to conventions and when
and by what means.

 

Anyone who wants to go to a national convention is more than welcome to go.
If they need funding to help with expenses, it is available for as many as
want to use it, as far as it will stretch.  Some may need help with all
expenses, some may need help with just some expenses.  You don't have to
accept any funding help if you don't want it, but it is available, and it
has been set aside especially for those going to a convention for the first
time.  The reason the funding is there is so no one who really wants to go
to a convention has to miss it because of lack of funding.  Asking for
funding help should have no stigma attached; it's just friends helping
friends.  Some people have plenty and can share; others need a little extra
help once in awhile.  I think we've all been in places in our lives where we
have more than we do at other times.  When we have more, we can share; when
we need more, we can ask others to share and then we can share with them
when we have a little extra and they need a little extra.  That's just
paying it forward.

 

Some day we may have that option for the state affiliate as well, but since
we are still such a new affiliate, we don't yet have the funding resources
to help those who might otherwise miss a state convention. That is one of
our goals, though.

 

This is a separate issue though from  you guys who have been selected to go
to the Maryland State Convention.  Funding has been offered to those who
have been selected to go.  Accepting that help is not a reflection on one's
ability to provide for themselves; it's just taking advantage of an
opportunity that has been offered.  If you don't want to accept the funding,
that's ok.  You've been invited to go and you are still welcome.  That's not
something that happens very often to very many people.  Enjoy it.

 

Joy

 

       

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