[Nfbofnc] The passing ofMabel Conder

[Jerry Moreno]

it is with much sorrow that I tell you of the passing of mabel cunder.
 she was instrumental in the formation of our state affiliate. 
Mabel will be sorely missed. Mabel Martin was born in Cleveland County, NC. January 8th 1928. Her father was a part-time carpenter, and her mother was a full-time mother of nine. Her entire family pitched in to grow cotton, corn, and vegetables on the family land to make ends meet. Her early childhood was during the depression. Even as very young children, Mabel, as well as one of her sisters, had severe vision problems. Later, to be diagnosed with R.P. (retinitis pigmentosa), Mabel would become totally blind by her late teens. As a little girl, she started 1st grade, but unlike most children, she boarded a bus to go over 200 miles from home to the Governor Morehead School in Raleigh. She would go months at the time without seeing her family. Her parents were people of limited means, with no car and many demands of their time. Even though Mabel describes those years at the residential school as cruel and difficult, she made many great friends for life there. After leaving the Governor Morehead School, Mabel moved to Charlotte, which had many more opportunities for a young blind woman than her rural home. She found accommodations at the YWCA, and obtained employment running the snack bar in the basement of Belk's Buyers' Services in downtown Charlotte. She worked there for the next 7 years. In 1949, she married Don Conder. He was also legally blind, and they had 2 children, a daughter and a son. She spent the next several years being a full-time Mom. After her children started school, she began installing handwoven cane bottoms in antique chairs, which was something she could do at home and still be around when they needed her. She also found time to take a sewing class at Central Piedmont Community College. Despite a constant financial struggle due to limited employment opportunities available to both her and her husband because of their blindness, Mabel has had a lifelong dedication to volunteering her time and efforts to helping others. During that time, Mabel also became much more active in various organizations that help and provide opportunities to the blind. After working with the North Carolina Association of Workers for the Blind for many years, The North Carolina Lions Foundation recognized her as a leader in the blind community. In 1968, the NCLF appointed her to the advisory panel responsible for recommendations for the planning and development of Camp Dogwood, a 42-acre lake front resort that provides week-long vacations to several hundred blind "campers" each year. Activities include adapted water sports, boating, fishing, crafts, games, providing all meals and spacious, comfortable, and handicap accessible accommodations. She served on the panel for 2 years, and she attended Camp Dogwood until 2017 with a group of friends who get together for two or three weekends throughout the year at the camp. In 1969, she was involved with the establishment of the Charter of the North Carolina affiliate of the National Federation of the Blind. She was passionate about their mission to provide equality and opportunity for the visually impaired and blind. She worked tirelessly, serving in several Officer and Board positions at the state level for over three decades, and was awarded the Clarence Collins award for her dedication and accomplishments: (an award given only 4 times in the history of the organization.) Although she had retired from participation in the State affiliate, she always remained active in the Mecklenburg Chapter. After her children reached an age that didn't require constant supervision, Mabel returned to the outside work force. After a difficult battle to overcome the stigma of hiring a blind person that existed in the private sector at that time, she was given an opportunity by GAF Corporation. She worked processing photos in a dark room, and proved herself as well as the abilities of blind people by consistently exceeding production by unprecedented levels. After 6 years there, she pursued a better opportunity in the same field with Eckerds Corporation. Even while working full-time (3rd shift), she found time to become involved with the Metrolina Association for the Blind (MAB) in Charlotte. In 1977, she started serving on the Board of Directors as not only the first blind person, but also the first woman ever to serve on the MAB Board. At that time, MAB had a Director and only 3 employees and because of an absence of services being provided, the organization was about to lose its funding. After she went on the Board, MAB was completely restructured, and has consistently grown into the agency it is today. Serving as the President of the Board of Directors twice, she has helped guide MAB to become the world class agency it is now! With over 40 employees, MAB provides dozens of services to hundreds of blind and visually impaired people. Also, it has become more and more self-funding. She served on the MAB Board for almost 3 decades. During this time, she never missed a board meeting or committee meeting to which she was assigned. In 2005, she was awarded the Association's most coveted honor, The Spivey Award. She was the 2nd of only 3 award winners of this 83-year-old association. Sometime around 1984, Mabel's work at Eckerd's, her volunteer work with the NFB and MAB, and her daily tasks as a homemaker obviously became boring to her, so she became more passionately dedicated to an endeavor than ever before: BRIDGE! She joined the Charlotte Bridge Association and played at 10:00am every Thursday morning. She was a shark! She consistently won, playing with the best players around. She accumulated enough "points" to be a "master", but didn't take them, because, in her words, "Those people play for blood! I love to play for FUN!" About the same time, she also improved her already exceptional Braille writing skills by taking a proofreading course from the Library of Congress, to become a certified Braille teacher. In 1988, Mabel fell, and broke her shoulder. After many complications, including a failed prosthesis, the doctors had serious doubts that she would ever have much use of her right arm and hand again. Also, severe back problems prompted a doctor to tell her many years ago that she would be in a wheelchair within 6 months. However, the fighter that she was, she far exceeded expectations in both cases. She has said on many occasions that her orthopedic problems have been much more of a handicap to her than her blindness has ever been. Her physical limitations forced her to retire from Eckerd's. After spending her entire life "on the move" the last few years, she spent a lot more time in her easy chair. Though many people would be very content with the easy-chair lifestyle, Mabel found it frustrating. But she found many things to do within range of that chair: she volunteered giving Braille lessons to adults who lost their sight, and preparing recordings of the Sunday services at her church for those who are too disabled to attend. She also pursued her hobbies such as caring for her tropical plants, crocheting, canning vegetables from the garden, cooking, reading, and more. She was an avid reader, and loved books on tape. If you called on her, it was not unusual to find her sitting in her easy chair, crocheting, with clothes in the dryer and a pot roast on the stove. If asked "What are you doing?" She would reply, "Reading a book, doing laundry, making a baby blanket, and cooking dinner. You know the same thing I always do" Multi-tasking like that, she could still accomplish more in a day than almost anybody. After crocheting afghans, scarves, sweaters, and more for almost everyone she knew several years ago she started making afghans and "chemo hats" for The Levine Children's Hospital. She completed over 250 afghans and over 350 hats. Mabel's lifelong dedication to accomplishment made her an inspiration to almost everyone that knew her. Her Journey came to an end at the age of 89. She passed away suddenly on October 1st, 2017 in Charlotte, NC with her children at her side. She is preceded in death by her parents, Richard Bennett Martin and Buena Grigg Martin; her brother, Jim Martin; and her sisters, Mildred Martin, Ruth Scism, Shirley McKee, Joan Bridges, Inez Whitaker, and Dorothy McDonald. She is survived by her sister, Irene Mizell; her son, Richard Conder; her daughter, Ellen Hartgrove and son-in-law Bill; Elizabeth Bethea, her long-time caretaker and dear friend, and Dale Black, dear friend. If you would like the honor her by continuing her selfless work for the blind and visually handicapped, you can make a donation to The National Federation of the Blind of Mecklenburg County, 8301 Meadow Lakes Dr., Charlotte, NC 28210, or the Metrolina Association for the Blind, 704 Louise Avenue, Charlotte, NC 28204. 
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Jerry

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