[Pibe-division] Perception is Not Necessarily Reality

Albert J Rizzi albert at myblindspot.org
Fri Oct 7 13:20:47 UTC 2011

I so appreciate your sentiments on the last two posts.

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Subject: [Pibe-division] Perception is Not Necessarily Reality

Perception is Not Necessarily Reality

Working with many children, but especially teenagers who feel everyone is
staring at them and judging them for every little thing is only in your
mind: Ache on the face, their clothes; for beginner blind students, it is
carrying a cane, or reading braille in front of their peers.

As adults, we judge ourselves from everything from what we wear, the job we
have or the house we live in; to waking up at night thinking, we may have
said something to hurt someone's feelings (OK, that last one might just be
more of a woman thing).

Here is what we must realize.
Our children who are self-conscious about what is growing on their face,
well everyone else has something there too.
Our children who "don't want to be different" by reading braille or carrying
a cane, sighted kids think it is cool and you fight something that everyone
else is REALLY impressed by seeing, but even after the initial seeing of it,
it is out of their minds. 

People in general who are beating themselves up about every little detail
because they THINK someone perceives them in a certain way, is not
necessarily reality.

In general, everyone is so involved with their own lives that after the 3
initial seconds of talking with you or seeing you, you are pretty much out
of their mind.
In general, your perception of yourself is not reality for the way others
are thinking about you. Everyone is too caught up in his or her own lives.

Even if you trip and fall (OK, the exception is a President, where the media
decides to play the same video over and over for the world) so even if you
trip and fall and we all do it, after 3 seconds, you are pretty much out of
everyone's mind.

We need to get over ourselves, so we can go on uninhibited and do greater
things. As long as you are self-absorbed, you cannot see the bigger picture
of what can be accomplished. You are wrapped up in the fears in your world
that are not true reality and then you cannot improve yourself, because all
you see are your faults. Figure out your faults and correct them.

You will make your fears and faults your REALITY if you don't change.
Denise M. Robinson, TVI, Ph.D. 
Teacher of the Blind & Visually Impaired
TechVision-Independent Contractor
Specialist in blind programming/teaching/training
509-674-1853     deniserob at gmail.com <mailto:deniserob at gmail.com> 

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