[Sportsandrec] Cane Placement

Fri Dec 26 17:31:43 UTC 2008

Carly,
I believe madam you owe the fine jar five bucks for not putting a song lyric 
at the end of your post to this list. That check can be payable to the 
Sports and Recreation division of the National Federation of the Blin. I am 
the embodiment of an undiscovered tramatic brain injury, does a concussion 
senior year count? (smile)
.
"You get what you put in" "and people get what they deserve" Only God Knows 
Why Kidd Rock
Joe Shaw
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Carly Mihalakis" <carlymih at earthlink.net>
To: "Sports and Recreation for the Blind Discussion List" 
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Sent: Friday, December 26, 2008 10:50 AM
Subject: Re: [Sportsandrec] Cane Placement


>I have recently, through the acquisition of a traumatic brain injury, 
>figured out that blindness is only as grave a condition as you think of it. 
>So if you yourself have an enormous head trip regarding your blindness, 
>then you have to expect that people will think of you as they think you do, 
>having a head trip about your blindness.
> Carly At 10:23 PM 12/25/2008, you wrote:
>>Ashley,
>>I have found that shy and blind don't mix well with one another. Leave 
>>your cane wherever you want, who cares. Slide it under your chair, put in 
>>the corner behind the door at the restroom, give it to sighted friends to 
>>hold/ play with while you're dancin. I believe this is a Federation 
>>phylosiphy/ independent life issue. Who cares where you put your cane as 
>>long as it is safe and you know where it is. I mean, this is not Plaxico 
>>looking for a good spot to put his gun before it went off. If you are 
>>alone, I guess this could be an issue though wouldn't you just leave it 
>>where you are sitting be it the bar or a table while you dance? If with a 
>>group, surely someone in the group would hold/ watch it while you are 
>>cutting your proverbial rug. In my group of blind friends that I have had 
>>for a long time, there are usually a couple types. There is the guy who is 
>>very shy because he is blind and doesn't have a lot of friends but for 
>>those who he has been friends with for many years and has trouble meeting 
>>new people. Then there is the guy who doesn't care about his blindness, is 
>>outgoing, starts conversations, and has many friends because he is never 
>>afraid to make the initial move. Always  be the ladder Ashley. The ladder 
>>is usually the NFB guy.
>>"Do a little dance" "Make a little love" "Get down tonight" Get Down 
>>Tonight K.C. and the Sunshine Band
>>Merry Christmas/ Happy Hanukkah/ hope everyone had a nice Wednesday and 
>>Thursday lol.
>>JS
>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Carly Mihalakis" 
>><carlymih at earthlink.net>
>>To: "Sports and Recreation for the Blind Discussion List" 
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>>Sent: Thursday, December 25, 2008 5:32 PM
>>Subject: Re: [Sportsandrec] Cane Placement
>>
>>
>>>Kelly,
>>>
>>>         You said it!
>>>If you're a single chick, or even a single guy dance class could be a 
>>>great place to meet people, as well as enlighten others of blind peoples' 
>>>abilities.
>>>I realize it sounds scary, but remember how often the protocol in certain 
>>>situations calls for entirely swollowing your pride, not really being too 
>>>embarassed just to live your life on your terms?
>>>I have been to social salsa dancing, and when I come to a new partner I 
>>>just say "I'm blind" and it never matters, for I can move. simply leaving 
>>>the cane at the corner of the dance room (in classes), at the table with 
>>>other friends (out in clubs), or with the bar tender (there is an 
>>>advantage of being considered a good tipper) works well. I have carried 
>>>my folding cane, but not often. Or, you can leave the cane in a trusted 
>>>place, find the cutest, single, opposite gendered dance partner, and go 
>>>sighted guide back to your cane. Hey, cheesy I know, but I've met a few 
>>>repeat dance partners that way, and if you are going to go sighted guide 
>>>anyway...It also gives a chance to enlighten another person about what 
>>>you can do as a blind person, when you might need a little assistance, 
>>>and most importantly that you are approachable as a blind person.
>>>
>>>>As mentioned before, partner dancing is very accessible for everyone. 
>>>>One advantage we have is that we pay more attention to how the moves 
>>>>"feel" as opposed to how they "look," often considered to be a better 
>>>>learning/practice method than pure visualization.
>>>>
>>>>So, jump in with both feet (put both feet in, put both feet out, put 
>>>>both feet in and shake 'em all about...come on, we knew it was coming). 
>>>>Enjoy it, and develop a new experience for yourself and those in the 
>>>>class who may have never danced with such a good partner who just 
>>>>happens to be blind.
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