[stylist] having obviously different eyes
James Canaday M.A. N6YR
n6yr at sunflower.com
Mon Feb 16 01:40:22 UTC 2009
I'd posted this under the thoughtprovoker-love, and thought I'd
repost on its own topic in case anybody wants to discuss this. I
found and fixed some typos, too.
I understand what you express about your eyes, I understand it first-hand.
I was born with a half dozen eye deformities, some of which weren't
supposed to occur in the same eyes. the miracle was I had some
limited left eye vision
until I was thirteen when a generalized inflamation whiped out my
retinas in the seeing and unseeing eyes. so, besides the
deformities, my eyes then always looked
perminently bloodshot. one eye was smaller than the other.
I could never ever even think of getting a date in high school. many
times on the high school campus I would first become aware of one or
more girls staring
at me because I would hear "eewwwwww!" I did go to the Prom, a third
party arranged for me to go with a Japanese girl who had braces. I
don't think she
was happy to go with me but she did. we had no relationship after that.
when I was twenty-five, the scarring from that general inflamation
was calcifying, hardening, and one of my birth defects was
glaucoma. put these two together
and you get very painful eyes.
so, mine were removed. the eyes I have now made by the occularist
are quite nice and people really like them. they absolutely cannot
tell they are prosthetics.
yes, sighted women love to look in their men's eyes, especially at
special moments. but there are women who are of a deeper disposition
who will see your
heart, and if you have a good character, they will find that very
attractive Justin.
having deformed eyes is hard, I won't lie to you about that. but
there are other things in life. and the really good women won't be
put off by deformed
eyes.
---
to add, after the removal of my eyes, it took me some months to
adjust to having prosthetics. that was hard too. it felt strange,
though my ugly deformed eyes were gone I had to learn to use the
prosthetics and to have them as part of my appearance and who I am.
jc
Jim Canaday M.A.
Lawrence, KS
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