[stylist] having obviously different eyes

[James Canaday M.A. N6YR]

I'd posted this under the thoughtprovoker-love, and thought I'd 
repost on its own topic in case anybody wants to discuss this.  I 
found and fixed some typos, too.
I understand what you express about your eyes, I understand it first-hand.
I was born with a half dozen eye deformities, some of which weren't 
supposed to occur in the same eyes.  the miracle was I had some 
limited left eye vision
until I was thirteen when a generalized inflamation whiped out my 
retinas in the seeing and unseeing eyes.  so, besides the 
deformities, my eyes then  always looked
perminently bloodshot.  one eye was smaller than the other.

I could never ever even think of getting a date in high school.  many 
times on the high school campus I would first become aware of one or 
more girls staring
at me because I would hear "eewwwwww!"  I did go to the Prom, a third 
party arranged for me to go with a Japanese girl who had braces.  I 
don't think she
was happy to go with me but she did.  we had no relationship after that.
when I was twenty-five, the scarring from that general inflamation 
was calcifying, hardening, and one of my birth defects was 
glaucoma.  put these two together
and you get very painful eyes.

so, mine were removed.  the eyes I have now made by the occularist 
are quite nice and people really like them.  they absolutely cannot 
tell they are prosthetics.

yes, sighted women love to look in their men's eyes, especially at 
special moments.  but there are women who are of a deeper disposition 
who will see your
heart, and if you have a good character, they will find that very 
attractive Justin.

having deformed eyes is hard, I won't lie to you about that.  but 
there are other things in life.  and the really good women won't be 
put off by deformed
eyes.

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to add, after the removal of my eyes, it took me some months  to 
adjust to having prosthetics.  that was hard too.  it felt strange, 
though my ugly deformed eyes were gone I had to learn to use the 
prosthetics and to have them as part of my appearance and who I am.

jc

Jim Canaday M.A.
Lawrence, KS