[stylist] Stop signs never change to Go/two lists

LoriStay at aol.com LoriStay at aol.com
Sun Jun 14 03:02:58 UTC 2009


Another one.   Sorry, sorry!   I meant "without" of course.

This is one of my favorite columns.   I guess we all have them.   The 
column follows Judith's comment, now with mistakes corrected.   At least, the 
ones I found!

I think we need to rethink this having two lists.   Okay, so we do tend to 
get off topic now and again.   But what list doesn't?   And I'd rather have 
a bunch of messages to delete if they aren't on topics that interest me than 
none at all.
Lori
In a message dated 6/13/09 10:41:49 PM, jbron at optonline.net writes:


> I know a man, thirty, withough a profession
> 
 Great article!  Thanks, Judith
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> This article has been published in my local paper, in Slate & Style, and
> possibly in the Monitor, though I'm no longer sure about the latter.
> (It's
> been awhile)
>
> Stop Signs Never Change to Go
>
> Loraine Stayer
>
> This is a truth I learned long ago.   Stop signs never change to go 
signs.
> For as long as you sit and wait, that sign will always say, "Stop!"
>
> Life holds lots of stop signs.   If you think about it, you'll realize
> you've clashed swords with them yourself.   There was the teacher, tired
> after a
> day of coping with children, who looked straight at you and said, "You'll
> never learn to read!"   But you did.
>
> And your father.   He went out with you to teach you to drive, and after
> two harrowing lessons, exclaimed, "You'll never learn to drive!"   But 
you
> did.
>
> Or your mother, cleaning up after you burned supper one day:   "You'll
> never learn to cook!"   And you did that too.
>
> I know lots of people who didn't believe the stop signs in their lives.
> They did finish their education.   They did marry, and they did have
> children, and they are successful.   But these same people were once
> stopped cold by
> stop signs in the form of the expectations of other people.   They were
> thoughtful enough to know that though the stop signs had accomplished
> their
> purpose, they were not meant to hold the people back forever, simply to
> cause
> them to pause and examine their direction, or correct their mistakes.
>
> But I also know people who have been stopped cold by such stop signs, 
only
> to stay in place, marking time forever, waiting for the sign to change to
> "go." And it doesn't.
>
> I know a young woman of thirty-five who has never been given permission 
by
> her parents to grow up because she is blind.   She will not marry because
> as
> she told her boyfriend, "You have no future with me."   That means, "I
> have
> no future."   Her parents are a stop sign she cannot get past.   She 
wants
> permission from them to learn the skills they have denied her, and that
> permission will never come from them.   She will have to go around the
> stop
> sign.   To do that she will have to believe it is possible.   and she
> doesn't.
>
> I know a man, thirty, without a profession, who has minimal vision.   He
> tells me that because he went to public school and couldn't see the
> blackboard, he never understood what was going on.   Ironically, had he
> been totally
> blind, he would have been taught Braille early on, and been given
> accommodation in the classroom.   He was told by an authority figure in 
an
> agency for
> the blind, "You are incapable of learning."   Until then, the agency was 
a
> stop sign for this man.   But the absurdity of the statement brought him
> up
> short.   He knew he was capable of learning.   Hadn't he taught himself
> Braille as an adult?   This man will walk around the stop sign.
>
> In order to proceed around the stop sign, one needs to realize that one's
> life is one's own, and that one is capable of making decisions without
> permission from authority figures.   That stop sign will never change to
> go!   But
> being a sign, it will never do more than just sit there.   Once you walk
> past it, what can it do to you?
>
> Slate & Style--Volume 17, #3, August 1999
> Merrick Life--October 1, 1987
>
>
>
>
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