[stylist] question

Tue Mar 24 22:36:57 UTC 2009

Sometimes knowing another disabled person works. Sometimes it doesn't.
My aunt Chantal had learning difficulties and mental health problems.
She spent most of her life in and out of various mental hospitals. My
mom kind of made it clear when I was born that she would rather I was
'normal' or at least as 'normal' as possible. She kept compairing me
to her sister.

My Dad knows another people too, but he kind of freaked about me being
totally blind in most lighting conditions now. Unfortunately the other
blind people he knew were not that independant. They were the type
that expected door to door services. So he was rather negative about
my further loss of sight. He still goes on about me regaining some of
my sight. Sigh.

Helene

On 24/03/2009, John Lee Clark <johnlee at clarktouch.com> wrote:
> Barbara:
>
> Exactly.  Most of them don't know what they're doing.  And it's not THEM
> that needs a name, but what they may be doing, whether or not with good
> intentions.  And when we tell them, Hey, that's discrimination, we're giving
> them the opportunity to learn a bit and to change so they no longer do it.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Barbara Hammel
> Sent: Tuesday, March 24, 2009 1:57 PM
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> Subject: Re: [stylist] question
>
> I've wondered the same thing.  It's not a war we're fighting.  And yet if
> the "enemy" needs a name, it's called sighted.  Now the whole group of
> sighted folk are not the "enemy" but most could easily be convinced to be.
> Somewhere a vary significant person once said, as his life was ebbing,
> "forgive them for they know not what they do."  Most folks are ignorant and
> that leads them to be prejudice.
> All we can do is keep teaching.  Did you learn more from being taught or
> being fought?  One of my sons has a supported community living worker.  This
>
> is a person who comes into your home and teaches your child how to do any
> number of skills.  She sometimes takes him out in the community--she does
> this with older clients to work on money management and such.  We went to a
> swimming pool that is at a home for handicapped children.  She was very
> surprised at the way those people who worked with handicapped children all
> the time treated me.  You know, looked at her for names and expected her to
> pay.
> Did I get mad?  I just informed this young lady about how the sighted world
> treats blind people sometimes.  She was shocked.  She has a Down's cousin so
>
> for as long as she can remember she's been exposed to someone not quite like
>
> everyone else.  I really think that's the important thing.  If people grow
> up around people who are different, they are more open to accepting all
> kinds of differentness.  Sometimes the reverse is true because like John
> said, we all have minds.  It is amazing how that thing works--and also how
> it doesn't.
> Barbara
>
> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of whom
> you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Judith Bron" <jbron at optonline.net>
> Sent: Tuesday, March 24, 2009 10:13 AM
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> Subject: Re: [stylist] question
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>> Why do we have to copy social movements that are made up of eighty percent
>
>> common sense?  Why can't we just keep on living to the best of our
>> abilities?  Why can't we set goals, attain them and live our lives in ways
>
>> that are comfortable for us without  placating some political or social
>> movement?  Why does blindness or any other disability have to be
>> classified and recognized as an "ism" in order to recognize the fact that
>> those afflicted with a particular disability are equal to any other
>> disability? Judith
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: <LoriStay at aol.com>
>> To: <stylist at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, March 24, 2009 10:07 AM
>> Subject: Re: [stylist] question
>>
>>
>> Unfortunately, "blindism" usually refers to mannerisms shown by some blind
>> people whose parents didn't stop their children from doing it early on,
>> such as
>> rocking, and digging fingers into blind eyes.
>> So that one is out.
>> Lori
>> In a message dated 3/24/09 1:50:56 AM, johnlee at clarktouch.com writes:
>>
>>
>>>
>>> I mean, what would the civil rights movement have been like if there was
>>> no
>>> word for racism? What would be the feminist movement be without the word
>>> sexism? What would the Deaf Pride movement be without the word audism?
>>>
>>>
>>
>>
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