[stylist] Does anyone want to be blind?

[Judith Bron]

It is very difficult for any parent to see a flaw in their child.  When I 
first became blind my father described the doctors who diagnosed my problenm 
with adjectives I can't use on a family site.  I wasn't doing too good 
either.  If I couldn't accept me, what did I want from my father? When I 
finally  came to terms with my blindness I tried talking to him but it 
didn't help.  I think, in some perverted way, he blamed himself as the 
contributor of 50 percent of my genes, as the partial cause for my 
disability.  It didn't have to make sense.  It is very difficult for the 
parent of any child to see them as anything but perfect.  After I became 
blind I couldn't deal with me so what did I expect from my father?  When I 
finally came to terms with it my father persisted in his denial.  As a 
parent I understand him.  Most parents will agree with my perception .  Your 
father would start to accept your condition if you could put your arms 
around him and say, "Dad, it's really all right.  I'm learning to be the 
best me I can be using different skills.  I love you."  Judith