[stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness story
PAUL BAVER
pebaver at verizon.net
Thu Apr 5 15:13:05 UTC 2012
Thanks Linda
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From: "Lynda Lambert" <llambert at zoominternet.net>
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Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 9:41 AM
Subject: Re: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness
story
> the Author is Ryan Knighton - the book is: Cockeyed. I would love to meet
> this man and have conversations with him. He is brilliant. This man has NO
> handicap, and NO disability, he just cannot see, but he is a completely
> whole person in every way.
>
> I never ever call myslf disabled, impaired, or handicapped. I am first a
> person, a writer and artist, wife, mother, grand mother, great
> grandmother - and by the way, I just can't see very well. It has nothing
> to do with who I am at all. My sight loss is NOT ME.
>
> This book is the most hilarious account of his life. He began losing his
> sight in his teens. He is a professor in Canada now, and teaches writing.
> The book is so funny, I was laughing out loud like a crazy woman - I could
> not stop laughing as I watched him going on one crazy adventure after
> another and some of his encounters in clubs and with woman are absolutely
> wild. I highly recommend this book. Here it is on Amazon at this address:
> http://www.amazon.com/Cockeyed-Ryan-Knighton/dp/1586484400
>
> JUSTIN, why don't you begin writing about your QUEST for a WIFE ??? This
> could be such a good piece of literature if you begin finding the humor in
> it all, and start keeping a journal of your encounters. I can just
> envision that for you. Your quest will be your theme - and maybe during
> your quest, you will meet Miss Right for You....
>
> I got it through NLS on tapes. Now, this book is the perfect EXAMPLE of
> really good writing of a memoir. There is no maudelain sentimentality in
> it at all; no pity; no needless drama; no crying about circumstances;
> there is only victory and the amazing will of a man to get where he wanted
> to go - in every way. this is a young man who knows WHO he IS and ACTS on
> it.
>
>
> Lynda Lambert
> 104 River Road
> Ellwood City, PA 16117
>
> 724 758 4979
>
> My Blog: http://www.walkingbyinnervision.blogspot.com
> My Website: http://lyndalambert.com
>
>
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>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "PAUL BAVER" <pebaver at verizon.net>
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> Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 8:58 AM
> Subject: Re: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness
> story
>
>
>> Linda do you know the Authors name, although I'm not looking for a wife,
>> it sounds like a great read. Thank you Paul E Baver
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Lynda Lambert" <llambert at zoominternet.net>
>> To: "Writer's Division Mailing List" <stylist at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 8:09 AM
>> Subject: Re: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness
>> story
>>
>>
>>> Have you read the book _Cock Eyed_? It is the story of the author who
>>> was blind. It is hilarious as we are taken into his situations with
>>> women and dating. He is married now and is a college professor - an
>>> English Prof. and has a great life. I think you would enjoy this book
>>> and might just get some tips for finding your lady, too. Happy hunting!
>>> Lynda
>>>
>>> Lynda Lambert
>>> 104 River Road
>>> Ellwood City, PA 16117
>>>
>>> 724 758 4979
>>>
>>> My Blog: http://www.walkingbyinnervision.blogspot.com
>>> My Website: http://lyndalambert.com
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "justin williams" <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>> To: "'Writer's Division Mailing List'" <stylist at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Thursday, April 05, 2012 12:30 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness
>>> story
>>>
>>>
>>>> That's rough. In the south, I encounter a lot of closed minded people;
>>>> more
>>>> than in any other part of the country. All the classy women, you know
>>>> the
>>>> ones who have college degrees and who are close to our level of skilled
>>>> and
>>>> intelligence, don't seem to want you because they know they can get a
>>>> man
>>>> who can see; including the ones on Match.com, and they all say there so
>>>> open
>>>> minded; isn't that a joke. I nearly choke every time I hear it. I
>>>> refuse
>>>> to settle. Not only have I tried the dating web sites, I have traveled
>>>> all
>>>> over the city; frequenting a number of different settings such as house
>>>> parties, churches, and other social establishments; seemingly to no
>>>> avail.
>>>> I have found very few instances where a woman was interested. I get
>>>> treated
>>>> as more of a curiosity. My best conversations seem to be with married
>>>> women
>>>> probably because neither they, nor their husbands consider me a threat;
>>>> isn't that uplifting. We already know that most women don't consider
>>>> us
>>>> viable mates already; I mean, that is what the article said right! It
>>>> just
>>>> agreed with my own findings didn't it. I hope I'm wrong. I am black,
>>>> and I
>>>> know very few blind men married to sighted women; especially amongst my
>>>> race, though race to me is no object; a good thing, for I can truly
>>>> claime
>>>> the open minded trait that seems to be so elusive to most. Now I
>>>> realize
>>>> that you guys are a captive audience, so if you wish to get at me for
>>>> venting just a little, then please, feel free. Understand however,
>>>> that I
>>>> am really sending this to God; though he already knows.
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>>> Behalf Of Robert Leslie Newman
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 9:42 AM
>>>> To: writers nfb
>>>> Subject: [stylist] interesting Background info for a good blindness
>>>> story
>>>>
>>>> I got this article from the NFBTalk list: the subject line read-
>>>> Blindness
>>>> and sexuality
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Blindness and Sexuality: Researching Myths and Facts Summary Report:
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Distributed by: National Data Distribution Center (NDDC)
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> April 1, 2009
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Atlanta Georgia
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> The two hundredth anniversary of the birth of Louis Braille is being
>>>> celebrated by the US mint with the production of a silver coin
>>>> commemorating
>>>> the man who created the modern reading system used by many blind
>>>> people.
>>>>
>>>> Unfortunately, although blind people work and live normal lives, they
>>>> are
>>>> still different in many ways and their experiences are a matter of
>>>> curiosity
>>>> amongst the sighted population. For most of us, the question, "What is
>>>> it
>>>> like to be blind?," has entered our minds more than once.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Research, some of it useful and much of it not, about how people who
>>>> are
>>>> blind perceive the world, abounds. One of the more interesting topics
>>>> of
>>>> study is sexuality among the blind. The story, goes that blind people
>>>> are
>>>> incredible sexual partners--somehow being extremely sensitive to their
>>>> partners and, being able to stimulate them far more than the average
>>>> person.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Masters and Johnson were so intrigued by this subject that they
>>>> collected
>>>> data over several years from those who had had sex with blind people.
>>>>
>>>> Surprisingly, what they thought would be myths, turned out to be true.
>>>> The
>>>> results were stunning. On average, women rated their blind partners
>>>> 9.1 on
>>>> a scale of 10. The average rating was five for sighted partners.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> "This research has been duplicated several times," says Author Mary
>>>> Roach,
>>>> author of, 2008 best seller, Bonk: the Curious Coupling of Science and
>>>> Sex.
>>>>
>>>> The data hasn't attracted much attention because blindness is such a
>>>> low
>>>> incidence event. "We usually print things that have broad interest.
>>>> And,
>>>> even though this indicates that blind people are incredibly sexual,
>>>> there
>>>> aren't really enough of them to go around."
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Comments from sighted partners were astounding. "He seemed like he
>>>> knew my
>>>> soul," from a 23 year old female. "Her tongue knew just how to touch
>>>> every
>>>> part of me if you know what I mean," from a college male. One woman
>>>> commented, "The things he could do with his fingers were beyond
>>>> description
>>>> in this survey. It's not that he was built bigger than other men, it
>>>> just
>>>> seemed like he touched me inside with it all over," she said with a
>>>> shy
>>>> smile.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> When William Masters was asked, in a 1971 interview, why he didn't draw
>>>> more
>>>> attention to these findings he said, "I didn't know anything about
>>>> blindness. We were publishing information of general interest about
>>>> sexuality and this just didn't fit that mold. Perhaps some day
>>>> researchers
>>>> will help us understand why blind people have such incredible sexual
>>>> capacities and we'll be able to use that information to increase the
>>>> abilities of others. Until then, a very few lucky men and women will
>>>> experience the phenomena of sex with a blind person."
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> There is a down side to this research. When interviewed, blind people
>>>> generally expressed frustration about sexuality. Broadly speaking,
>>>> they
>>>> divided sighted people into three groups. First is the group who
>>>> simply
>>>> want to have sex with them for the thrill and experience of it. "We
>>>> feel
>>>> used," was the most common thing reported. second, was the group who
>>>> simply
>>>> couldn't see themselves with a blind husband or wife. "They want to be
>>>> with
>>>> us, but don't see us as fathers and mothers, for example," was often
>>>> heard.
>>>>
>>>> the third group were those who "get it" as one blind man put it. "They
>>>> can
>>>> see beyond blindness and except us for who we are. Blindness just
>>>> fades
>>>> into the background and becomes another characteristic."
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> The sad truth is that although blind people work, raise families,
>>>> travel
>>>> independently and generally speaking, live normal lives, the public
>>>> perception is the opposite. The image of the helpless beggar still
>>>> lurks in
>>>> our minds. Sighted people report that the fear of blindness overwelms
>>>> their
>>>> rationality. "I know that I shouldn't let blindness interfere with how
>>>> I
>>>> think about my partner, but, I can't help it," said a young college
>>>> student
>>>> engaged to a blind physicist working at NASA. "Yes, he has money, and
>>>> yes,
>>>> he's sexy, and oh, my god, can he please me, if you know what I mean.
>>>> The
>>>> hardest thing is getting over this image of him as a helpless blind
>>>> man. We
>>>> sail, bike ride and horse back ride. I can't think of anything he
>>>> can't do
>>>> except drive, but, I'll admit, the image of a helpless blind man still
>>>> haunts me. People look at him with such pity and I just want to
>>>> scream,
>>>> "You don't get it you fools."" But she admits that making the decision
>>>> to
>>>> mary is difficult.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Chad, a young blind college student says he finds the whole sex thing a
>>>> bit
>>>> distracting. "Sure I can please women more than my sighted friends
>>>> can, and
>>>> frankly, it's because they just don't pay attention to women and what
>>>> their
>>>> bodies and hearts are saying. Women will tell you everything you need
>>>> to
>>>> know if you just listen and feel."
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> We give you all of this information with the caviat that perhaps only
>>>> one in
>>>> six thousand people is an eligible blind man or woman, so, happy
>>>> searching.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Robert Leslie Newman
>>>>
>>>> Personal Website-
>>>>
>>>> Adjustment To Blindness And Visual impairment
>>>>
>>>> http//www.thoughtprovoker.info
>>>>
>>>> NFB Writers' Division, president
>>>>
>>>> http://www.nfb-writers-division.net
>>>>
>>>> Chair of the NFB Communications Committee
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
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