[stylist] New Book, blindness on TV

Mon Feb 17 18:20:58 UTC 2014

Hay. The world is flat. I'm stickin' to that story.
Jim

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From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Applebutter Hill
Sent: Friday, February 14, 2014 3:35 PM
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Subject: Re: [stylist] New Book, blindness on TV

Lynda,
Like you've noticed with your sister and the key, sighted people will not
accept anything we do as anything other than a fluke or a miracle. Even
faced with a clear description of the usefulness of other senses, they
somehow still have to brush anything aside that conflicts with what they kno
... Blindness is essentially insurmountable. I think of it as being similar
to the days when a few nutheads were trying to explain to the human race
that the world is not flat.

Coincidentally, I just got an e-mail from a rehab counsellor in PA, who I
reached out to on Linked In -- I offer them a free e-book version of my
novel and explain why I think it has value for them and their clients. I
mention the issue of dealing with low expectations. This man said that, as a
person who used to work with BVI and now works with other disabilities, he
believes that the issue of low expectations is much worse for those with
vision loss. I have always felt that way, but I don't have the credentials
to say so. It meant a lot to me to hear that from someone.

You hit on the reason behind my removing all references to blindness from my
online book descriptions; it's a taboo. Just imagine someone getting my book
and not knowing that the heroine is blind and has a guide dog. They will
have to read through at least a page before it becomes clear to them. Some
will be angry with me, because I didn't warn them. Some, I hope, will have
gotten hooked by something else in the story and read it anyway. It's
fiction, so they don't have to change their stupid belief systems, but I
hope they will have a bit of an adjustment  in spite of themselves.
Donna
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From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Lynda Lambert
Sent: Friday, February 14, 2014 9:18 AM
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Subject: Re: [stylist] New Book, blindness on TV

It's a Friday morning snow storm here - a beautiful day outside. Time to get
some coffee and begin my day, but first I wanted to drop a not on your
discussion which is so interesting to me.

I think Bridgit really hit it - unless a sighted person has had a lot of
time together with a blind person, they are really clueless and they could
care less about knowing positive things.  They still live with the mentality
of the question they have asked themselves and each other for years, "Would
you rather lose your sight, or your hearing?".  To sighted people losing
sight or hearing is the worst case scenario they can think of and they are
not about to look any closer into either of the two life-challenges.  And,
as Henrietta, experienced, even close family members really don't understand
how we do things. Not really.  They watch us, but we are a mystery to them
even though they have been around us many times over the years.
Occasionally there is some little revelation that they grasp, but I think it
is very rare.

A couple years ago I went on a short 5 hour trip with my sister.  When we
arrived at our cousin's home, we had instructions to locate her house key
and let ourselves in because they were away on vacation and we would have
their home to stay in.  My sister retrieved the key, as instructed.  She
began to try to open the door.  She fiddled around for quite awhile with the
key and the lock in the door - yet, she could not get it open. She tried
turning the key around, tried going faster, slower, but no luck.  Finally, I
quietly said to her, "Give me the key and let me see what I can do."  She
snickered and said "Oh, sure, you are going to open the door that you can't
even see!"  I took the key from her, felt the key, and inserted it into the
door's lock slowly. Then, I put my left had on the door, just above the
lock, so I could FEEL any movement the lock would make.  And, I leaned very
close to the lock, and I listened.  Very quickly, as I slowly turned the
key, I felt the vibration of it moving, and I heard the click as it was
disengaged.  I smiled, and handed over the key to her, and said, "The door
is open."  She loudly proclaimed, "I cannot believe it! A blind person could
open the door and I couldn't."

I smiled at her and said, "You could not open the door because you were
using only your eyes. I opened it because I could feel it and hear it
moving."  To her it was something very weird that I had actually opened up
the door that she had struggled with and could not get the job done.  I
think in her mind it was a lucky accident even though I explained why it
happened.  Most sighted people do not think we can do much of anything, no
matter what we achieve - honestly, that is what I think. So, for most
sighted people to read about a blind hero in a fictional account, I say,
"Dream on!"  I think the interest level for a sighted person to even read a
book through is really a stretch unless that person is really on a mission
to learn more about blindness and diversity and inclusion. Maybe in a
literature course, where it would be included in the required reading, but
on their own, I think the chances are quite slim.  But, then, as I write
this I am optimistic enough to think I see a "movie" that could be made that
would be exciting to them. Who knows? I sure don't.  Why is it that we are
constantly told we are "amazing" when we do things that are high level
achievements for anyone at all?  Why is it that some people droll all over
us about how inspiring we are and how tragic it is that we lost our sight?
I just smile at them and say, "NO, not really! It is just who I am and who I
have always been."  That usually leaves them speechless and the conversation
ends.  Write on! Lynda

----- Original Message -----
From: "Applebutter Hill" <applebutterhill at gmail.com>
To: "'Writer's Division Mailing List'" <stylist at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, February 13, 2014 9:07 PM
Subject: Re: [stylist] New Book, blindness on TV

> Great story!
> Donna
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Henrietta
> Brewer
> Sent: Thursday, February 13, 2014 7:32 PM
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> Subject: Re: [stylist] New Book, blindness on TV
>
> You guys make me laugh. You're right, Sighted people can't imagine the
> blind
> being the hero. At Christmas, when the power was out in our town, I had
> twenty five or thirty people here most days. We had a generator so we had
> a
> few lights but not in more then half the house.
>
> I didn't think much of it while everyone was here. Though I was tired of
> doing all the fetching because no one could find anything in the dark.
> When
> everyone left and I was cleaning house, I saw how difficult it was for our
> guests. They had only a flashlight in the bathroom and their bedroom and
> nothing was where it should be.
>
> they all mention now, that they will call me in any black out. But it took
> reality to get even family to realize that a blind person can be helpful
> in
> a black out. lol Henrietta On Feb 13, 2014, at 12:10 AM, Bridgit Pollpeter
> wrote:
>
>> When I wrote a short mystery story for a detective fiction class I
>> took at university, I made my main character blind, which is the first
>> time I did this. Anyway, at one point, the house the two main
>> characters are sleeping in goes up in flames, and the blind character
>> navigates them out of the house. Using his other senses, he makes it
>> out the front door. I did do some research before writing the scene,
>> but mostly based it off my own knowledge of what a blind person might
>> do in that particular situation. When critiqueing our stories, a
>> classmate said, to my face, it wasn't believeable that a blind person
>> could do that and I should change that scene. Another classmate, to my
>> surprise, said who better than a blind person to navigate through a
>> situation where sight wouldn't be much help because of the smoke, and
>> that by smell and feeling heat, surely a blind person would be able to
>> navigate just as well, if not better, than a sighted person. After
>> considering this point, the first person half-heartedly agreed. My
>> point being that I agree with Chris that even though these stories are
>> being written by blind people, most of the sighted world can't, or
>> won't, buy a blind person doing the things we make them do, living as
>> independent, active, vital people.
>>
>> Bridgit
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Chris
>> Kuell
>> Sent: Wednesday, February 12, 2014 7:47 AM
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>> Subject: Re: [stylist] New Book, blindness on TV
>>
>>
>> Donna,
>>
>> I'm generally skeptical by nature, but I really hope they do a good
>> job with this show. It's exactly what we've been talking about
>> here--an opportunity to crush the stupid stereotypes and let the
>> public see a guy who is interesting, and just happens to be blind. If
>> it does a good job, and if the public enjoys it, it could open the
>> door to more blind characters in the
>>
>> arts. Personally, I feel certain that the reason books like yours and
>> mine aren't getting read by agents and traditional publishers is
>> because we have blind protagonists. An agent, or more likely, an
>> agent's assistant reads my query and thinks--a blind protagonist?
>> Nobody is going to buy that. It's too outside mainstream experience.
>>
>> Hopefully, the times, they are a changing.
>>
>> chris
>>
>>
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