[stylist] LGBTQ REVISITED

Tue Mar 25 04:38:22 UTC 2014

HI Katie,

I cheerfully identify as gay, though my reality is a little more 
complicated.  For various reasons, I no longer go to bars or participate 
in gay culture in that way.  It's all fine, clubs, bars, parades, the 
whole thing.  But to my friends and family, I feel myself to be 
"postgay", which is how I identify myself on the rare occasions the 
subject comes up.  Postgay isn't nearly the same thing as "ex-gay", 
which is false and noxious.  Postgay, as I understand the word, means 
that yes, yes, I love men, and in general take a relaxed view of 
sexuality.  I'm just not very interested in making a big issue of it.  I 
love all of our gay heroes, our Oscar Wilde, our Harvey Milk, our name 
your poison. But I don't go out of my way to make gay jokes, to frequent 
gay owned establishments, or to attend gay-themed parties. You're 
welcome to go, and I'll be glad to hear about it when you come home.  As 
for me, well, I'm working on a sestina tonight.

--Bill

On 3/24/2014 9:22 PM, kec92 at ourlink.net wrote:
>   
>
> Hi all,
>
> I am still writing the play about the bisexual transgender male. I would
> just like to update on some of the issues that I have read about and
> talking to lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, and Questioning
> (LGBTQQ) peoples. One of the issues that I have read about is that many
> of the characters that are seen on movies that are acting as LGBTQQ are
> mostly heteorsexual and cisgender (people whose gender idenity and
> assigned sex match), play LGBTQQ characters. There has been some
> controversy in the LGBTQQ community where they want people who actually
> identify as LGBTQQ.
>
> Another issue that I would like to bring up is the inclusion of people
> with disabilities who also identify as LGBTQQ wanting inclusion as well.
> Even within the LGBTQQ community, there is still discrimination and
> bias.
>
> Thanks,
>
> Katie
>
> On 24.03.2014 20:23, Bridgit Pollpeter wrote:
>
>> Jackie,
>>
>> The movie is Tu Wong Fu: To Julie Newmar, with Love, starring Patrick
>> Swayze, and yes, it was a funny but heart-felt movie. It was made in the
>> mid-90's.
>>
>> Bridgit
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jackie
>> Williams
>> Sent: Monday, March 24, 2014 7:42 PM
>> To: stylist at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [stylist] LGBTQ REVISITED
>>
>> I AM STILL REVISITING ALL THE E-MAILS I MISSED. Well, I enclosed my few
>> about spiders. I have had a hard time remembering the meanings of all
>> these letters, but I have one or two poems that might nibble on the
>> edges. I have known many gay men, some fellow teachers, two of whom
>> adopted. Quite amazing for Arizona. Better parents I never knew. I also
>> found that my Great Aunt Dora, a heroine of mine throughout my life,
>> left a letter when she died asking that her headstone be placed next to
>> another woman's headstone, and a tender letter was enclosed. A very
>> attractive woman, she refused offers of
>> marriage, and became the Librarian at Upper Iowa University. When she
>> retired after fifty years, an old beau asked her again, and she again
>> refused. Years after this mystery, an answer. Then, some years ago, I
>> saw a movie with a Chinese title about a drag queen. It starred the
>> dancer who also starred in ghost, and it was hilarious. I also visited
>> a friend in San Francisco, and went first to a place to eat and see the
>> belly dancers. Then we went next door and saw endless men in drag. I had
>> to write about a man with a mother that could be me, and his wife and
>> child who could be my daughter-in-law. Other than my imagination, I
>> don't have a lot of knowledge, except my scientific-based beliefs, that
>> is most developments take place in the womb, and sometimes are highly
>> influenced also by environments that cannot help but magnify or turn the
>> tide to an already genetic pattern. Now that I think of it, I have three
>> poems that touch in some way on one or another of these "letters."
>> I suggest that you read this first line by line, and spell
>> out the few words that are not phonetic, then read it a second time with
>> insert, down arrow. It is long, 73 lines. I submitted it to Georgia for
>> several years, since I understood it to be the drag queen capitol of the
>> U.S., but it must have offended someone to claim it as part of their
>> history. It is a marathon of rhyming, and if you do not hear it, the
>> format has not remained true. Category 4 Jacqueline Williams
>> Expressing Beliefs In All Ways 1431
>> W.
>> 7th Place
>>
>> Mesa, AZ 85201
>>
>> 480-834-1782
>>
>> The Evolution of a Drag Queen
>>
>> "My Mother, nothing comes to mind
>> to extricate me from my bind."
>> Athletic honors, throwing shot
>> and javelin were surely not
>> the skills that now will make up for
>> a youth I wasted. I foreswore
>> the effort facing learning times,
>> realities and saving dimes.
>> All those awards led me astray
>> until too late, though I must say
>> the medals for my breaststroke swims
>> left me big "pecs" and long strong limbs.
>> I had a decent resume
>> before I lost my job. Foul play
>> robbed goals set by my love and me
>> for newborn son, cast them asea.
>>
>> "My son, I'll think about it soon."
>> So often, Mom, I've heard this tune.
>> You'll wear your gowns and gaudy rings
>> to hifalutin social things.
>> Oh, wait, my quite majestic mom,
>> so tall, so buxom, such aplomb.
>> Ideas brew-a rushing tide.
>> I'll find a conquest for my bride.
>>
>> You gone, your spikes upon my feet,
>> I walk and fall and still repeat
>> a practice that becomes my code,
>> a perfect imagery, the mode.
>> I've got the walk, now what to do
>> to make the perfect witch's brew
>> that causes me to light the flame?
>> Please bring me soon to newborn fame.
>>
>> My wife's peach-pink scant underpants
>> inspire an undulating dance.
>> While she, adored, earns great big bucks,
>> I hold the bottle my son sucks.
>> As "Mister Mom," I take him here
>> and there and now it's everywhere.
>> The beauty parlor-such a place!
>> He always grins his funny face.
>> We hang out as a winsome pair.
>> The ladies think us both quite fair.
>> As one beautician holds him tight,
>> another makes my eyes shine bright.
>> Eye shadow, glitter, wigs all glow.
>> My heart beats fast. My wife will know
>> the depth of love I feel for her.
>> Oh, dear, my makeup must not blur.
>> I slowly roll my thigh-highs up-
>> the jet-black net-oh, quite corrupt.
>>
>> My mom and wife will meet for dinner.
>> I pray that they will see a winner.
>> Mother, son and dearest one
>> arrive all laughing, full of fun-
>> awash in new-felt wonderments
>> at rainbow fans on fundaments.
>> They do not know I'm here, you see,
>> cast eyes at entrance doors. Oh me.
>>
>> The drum roll comes and I sashay
>> the runway, not one hair astray.
>> Bestowing smiles on all alike-
>> arched eyebrows, winks, I pass my tyke
>> with arms outstretched and then he knows
>> his "Mommy" right down to my toes.
>>
>> And now when all is said and done,
>> with kudos to my lovely one,
>> she must compete with all those droves
>> who bring me gifts and treasure troves
>> of drag queens-past and present tense.
>> I hope that I'll maintain the sense
>> to build a future-one to see-
>> that's free of fear and bigotry.
>>
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