[stylist] Swearing, difficult to discuss topics, Does Anyone Write Daily as a Routine No Matter What's Going On?
debby
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Wed Oct 26 17:12:03 UTC 2016
Many of you are younger than me, so you can probably -t more ably. I think younger people are more open about things than us older fobks. But I'm a little conflicted about that. For instance, I don't share my sexual orientation, and I frankly don't want to know others'. For one reason I have lost friends because of this. I had a very good friend, both of us Christians. She told me that she was now a lesbian. I was pretty shocked, but would not have said anything about that, except that she asked for my opinion. Good grief! If she had not asked me her opinion I would have said, Oh, ekay. And left it at that. But if you ask me what I think about something, I'm going to tell you. Of course, she didn't like my opinion. I'm not sure what she expected. I have friends with lots of differing views about things. Some of us can discuss things and still be friends, others I know just to leave it alone. They couldn't handle my opinion, and perhaps I couldn't handle theirs. I agree that there need to be safe places where people can discuss what they want or need to, but at the same time, there also need to be safe places where people can share the opposite point of view, oh not discuss some subjects at all. The thing I love about our country is this: I may not agree with your opinion, but I will defend to the death your right to express it. However, I hope that if I respectfully ask that a discussion not take place in my presence because I find it offensive, that I have that right as well. I'bl give you an example. A few weeks ago at work, I was working with a particular guy who is very blunt in his speech and uses the f word quite liberY in his speech. I have probably gosten more used to that word, so that wasn't what offended me. He started singing a song that was very sexually descriptive. Call me Puritanical if you want, but I just don't want to hear or talk about that with just anybody. So I very respectfully asked him to stop. He started to get angry, but I said that I was being respectful, and would reY prefer not to hear that kind of song. He stopped, but then said that he supposed I'd be taking him to HR. I said that wasn't my style either. I had asked him to stop, and hoped that he would honor my feelings. He did. And I did not go to H.R. And believe it or not, we have .have some great conversations about lots of things, just not explicit descriptions of sex. LOL. Sorry for rambling. Debby
On Oct 26, 2016 9:49 AM, Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter via stylist <stylist at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>
> America is still very much a Puritanical society, despite what you see on
> TV. The Superbowl can have near-naked dancers gyrate on stage. Britney
> Spears can perform at musical awards in a bikini, twirling on a stripper
> pole. Drake can produce explicit lyrics about women and sex. Trump can
> casually talk about sexually assaulting women, and people can defend the
> comments. Yet we can't have open discussions about sex and sexual
> orientation. We can't ask questions or express certain desires/behaviors
> without judgment. Again, there's always a time and place, but I agree this
> is a problem in our society. We don't have healthy concepts of sexuality,
> and even with all the graphic images greeting us daily, we shrink away from
> it in our own life, judging others who are more open.
>
> Hmmm... Great topic for an essay, smile.
>
> Bridgit
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Bill Outman
> via stylist
> Sent: Wednesday, October 26, 2016 11:22 AM
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> Cc: Bill Outman <woutman at earthlink.net>
> Subject: Re: [stylist] Swearing, difficult to discuss topics, Does Anyone
> Write Daily as a Routine No Matter What's Going On?
>
> Getting back to the original topic of this thread, I keep a journal and have
> written in it almost every day. I have been doing this for three years, in
> fact the anniversary of the beginning of this journaling was on Monday.
>
> Most of the entries are mundane events of life, but I include some
> perspectives on personal and world events. Journaling helps me stay on
> track with what I am attempting to accomplish and sometimes helps me gain a
> larger perspective when I review what I have written. Sometimes the written
> thoughts can lead to inspiration for writing.
>
> This side discussion about swearing is an interesting one I may in fact
> write about. What comes to mind is the question of what exactly constitutes
> vulgar language, and makes it so in the judgment of society.
>
> On this note, suppression and repression can sometimes be harmful. The
> example of not being permitted to talk about underwear is a particularly
> poignant one. I myself have suffered repression in talking about intimate
> matters over the yearsand has manifested at times in inappropriate ways of
> dealing with relationships. This was partly because talking about things
> like sexuality was not made safe and non-threatening to me in a way that
> would have avoided problems.
>
> I know this is a problem for our society in general, but I think it's
> particularly acute for those of us in the blindness and visual impairment
> community, where the appropriate information is either unavailable or not
> accessible. There may be some negative attitudes about our ability to
> handle such information or our need or desire for it.
>
> I especially remember an English teacher at one state school for the blind
> who used sexual innuendo in the class to prompt class responses. Meanwhile
> when some of us tried to discuss the sexual education class that was in the
> curriculum during a study hall at the library, the librarian shut the
> discussion down saying it was inappropriate, while math or history for
> example were fine for discussion. By the way, I never got that class while
> I was at that school in Illinois, nor did I get anything like it when I came
> to Florida where I graduated from the school here. Where this was harmful
> was that I had behavior issues that the schools sought a mental health
> solution for rather than giving
>
> I think there is a lot of work that needs to be done to remedy this lack
> both in our community and our society in general.
>
> I needed to share with all of you these thoughts on a matter that has been
> difficult for me.
>
> Bill Outman
>
> to me the proper tool kit to manage the problems.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of debby via
> stylist
> Sent: Tuesday, October 25, 2016 11:07 PM
> To: Miss Thea via stylist
> Cc: debby
> Subject: Re: [stylist] Does Anyone Write Daily as a Routine No Matter What's
> Going On?
>
> She wrote several other books too, and I always enjoyed her writing. My
> sixth grade teacher introduced me to her. I believe she was from Wisconsin
> as was my teacher. They may have even known each other. I like reading
> fiction by blind authors, although I haven't seen much, except on this list.
> I have read lots of memoirs and all, but not much fiction. If anyone has
> names of blind authors who have written fiction, I'd love to hear who they
> might be. Debby
>
> On Oct 25, 2016 12:47 AM, Miss Thea via stylist <stylist at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> >
> > Oh yes. I did read "Light a Single Candle" when I was in my early 20's.
> > Thirty years ago.
> > Thea
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: debby via stylist
> > Sent: Monday, October 24, 2016 10:22 PM
> > To: Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter via stylist
> > Cc: debby
> > Subject: Re: [stylist] Does Anyone Write Daily as a Routine No Matter
> > What's Going On?
> >
> > As a young adult, one of my favorite writers was Beverly Butler.
> > Beverly is blind, and nearly always writes using other senses. She
> > wrote Light A Single Candle, Gift of Gold, and several other books
> > that I really liked. You might try finding one of her books and
> > reading it. It will give you a great example of how to write
> > non-visually. Debby
> >
> > On Oct 24, 2016 6:44 PM, Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter via stylist
> > <stylist at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> > >
> > > Thea,
> > >
> > > If you can create good sensory descriptions, you don't need visual
> > > descriptions. It's not always necessary to have visual descriptions
> > > unless you want them. It's possible to rely on other sensory
> > > descriptions that are strong enough to evoke the visual sense in
> > > readers.
> > >
> > > Bridgit
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: stylist [mailto:stylist-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Miss
> > > Thea via stylist
> > > Sent: Monday, October 24, 2016 5:50 PM
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> > > Cc: Miss Thea <thearamsay at rogers.com>
> > > Subject: Re: [stylist] Does Anyone Write Daily as a Routine No
> > > Matter What's Going On?
> > >
> > > Hi, Vejas
> > > I'd like to know this answer too.
> > > I don't write every day, and I do have some health issues that
> > > prevent me from being the lean, mean writing machine I'd like to be.
> > > But I do find that when I start writing, the ideas come.
> > > I don't know if you were around when I was workshopping my "Lucy and
> > > Lithe"
> > > novel, but I haven't been writing in it for some time.
> > > Then, my interest revived, I started writing, and re-thought the
> > > whole concept, even changing the title.
> > > Now it's going to be a series. I think I'm working on the prequel.
> > > It's now called "She's For Andorpha", at least that's my working title.
> > > For now.
> > > I also have borderline personality, and sometimes that gets in the way.
> > > But
> > > it can also be useful, because when my interest revives, I write
> > > like a house on fire.
> > > Born completely blind, I lack the knowledge of color, landscape and
> > > other sensory information important to readers. So, I've learned to
> > > write what I know, and hope if my work reaches the editor stage,
> > > that I'll get someone who can help me fill in the details.
> > > Ok, I went way off topic. I don't write every day. I often feel I
> > > need a break, due to health problems and writer's block.
> > > But I'm very interested in what daily writers have to say.
> > > Thea
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: Vejas Vasiliauskas via stylist
> > > Sent: Monday, October 24, 2016 6:34 PM
> > > To: Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter via stylist
> > > Cc: Vejas Vasiliauskas
> > > Subject: [stylist] Does Anyone Write Daily as a Routine No Matter
> > > What's Going On?
> > >
> > > Hi all,
> > > A friend of mine who likes to write makes it a habit to do so daily.
> > > I would really like to do this. I did not write much as an LCB
> > > student but have definitely done some more writing in the past few
> > > months, although not
> > >
> > > as much as I would like to. The problem is that I don't always know
> > > what I would want to write on a given day. For example, for a story
> > > I'm working on about 2 friends lives during and after spending time
> > > together in a training center, I may not have ideas every single day
> > > on what I want to happen. I would just like to know how these of you
> > > who write daily keep it up consistently despite writers block
> > > Thanks, Vejas _______________________________________________
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