[blindkid] Advice needed about school incident

Thu Nov 5 00:47:14 UTC 2009

I agree.
I think that Kendra should be told about this.
I think that this may not be the first time this has happened.  It is the 
first time the children were caught.
I also agree that she needs to be aware that people won't like her.  Just 
because she is blind.
Like Carrie's kids, I experienced prejudices because I am blind and also 
black.
I remember that children did some of the same things to me in school.
I think that this should be handled at home and at school.
The way the school sees it, is that the kids were dealt with.  So it should 
technically be the end of the issue.  If they tell Kendra.  They can say 
that the others were dealt with and have them say they were sorry to her. 
That would be the end of it.
I was teased by some kids that were older than I.  When I was in first 
grade.  The teachers found out and had the children appologise to me.  But I 
went home and aksed my mom about what they had said to me.  She answered my 
questions.  Then she went to the school as well as mentioned it to my 
teacher of blind students.
I got in trouble with my teacher and was spanked in front of the class. 
This was because as the teacher said, "they said that they were sorry", "you 
need to learn how to shut up, and not tell your mother everything, because 
they said they were sorry, and that is all that is needed."
Finally, this would be a good time to educate the kids and may be their 
parents.  In my situation, what did the kids learn?  In my opinion, nothing 
at all.
What will these kids learn?
HTH.
Melissa Green
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Carrie Gilmer" <carrie.gilmer at gmail.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Kid Mailing List,(for parents of blind children)'" 
<blindkid at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, November 04, 2009 12:11 PM
Subject: Re: [blindkid] Advice needed about school incident

>I can only say what I would do/have done. This "game" happens to blind
> adults too; I once witnessed a sighted spouse do something on this order 
> to
> his wife who was getting training at one of our centers. First I make
> absolutely sure, I don't assume the blind person does not already know or 
> at
> least suspect something and just has chosen to say/do nothing. If they 
> don't
> know I think it is right/'fair' for them to know; I would want to know. 
> Even
> as a young child. They should also be a part as a child I think of
> determining what is right to resolve it for THEM. This is an important 
> part
> of raising a child who experiences prejudice out in society. They have to
> learn to discern it and to deal with it and that it is not THEM.
>
> My children have had to deal with prejudice both because of blindness and
> blackness. It is heart wrenching to see that innocence be broken in a 
> child
> that someone would hurt them or wish them bad because of a disability or
> other physical characteristic like skin color; I know it well. But they 
> will
> find out sooner or later that prejudice IS aimed at them, and likely will 
> be
> for their whole life. It is an opportunity to teach the wrongness and lies
> of prejudice. It was not unusual when we would talk about some act that 
> they
> would bring up something else they had experienced but never told me of.
>
>
> It also seems to ignore the obvious in consequences, after all the act was
> direct to Kendra; it seems the apology should also be direct to her in my
> mind. And as Lenora related after ignorance is educated sometimes they
> become a real friend.
>
>
>
> Carrie
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Kieszak, Stephanie (CDC/CCEHIP/NCEH)
> Sent: Wednesday, November 04, 2009 10:08 AM
> To: blindkid at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blindkid] Advice needed about school incident
>
> I received this e-mail from my daughter's teacher this morning and don't
> really know how to respond. Any suggestions? My gut reaction is that
> telling her now doesn't really serve a purpose. Kendra is in first
> grade.
> Thank you.
> Stephanie
>
> -----Original Message-----
> Ms. Kieszak,
>
> Upon my return to school this week, I was informed that on Monday
> (11/2),
> two students from our class took some of Kendra's food during lunch
> without her knowing. The two students received consequences for their
> behavior on the day of the incident and further consequences when I
> returned. Mrs. XX, our Assistant Principal, also spoke with them. I
> wanted to let you know about the situation and to ask for your advice.
>
> Do you think we should tell Kendra what happened? If so, what do you
> think
> is a good approach to letting her know and by whom (i.e. one of us here
> at
> school or at home)?
>
>
> Sincerely,
> Mrs. YY
>
>
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