[blindlaw] some questions
Beth
thebluesisloose at gmail.com
Fri Aug 5 23:30:48 UTC 2011
David,
My boyfriend's parents have been dead in Somalia sadly for
some years, but his uncle has the best attitude I've seen
about blindness: why would the rest of your body work if
your eyes didn't? So what if your eyes don't work? The
resft of your boddy does. At least that's the attitudde he
has about his own nephew and me. His wife, the uncle's
wife, and daughters are very kind to me and enjoy hanging
out with me and my roommate, who is sighted nd a very strong
supporter of my being independent, though she can be a bit
of a pushy and demanding subject of jy attention. But
whatever.
Thanks, and like I said in a previous e-mail, the imam in the
local mosque and another sister are strong supporters of me.
Beth
----- Original Message -----
From: "Hyde, David W. (ESC)" <david.hyde at wcbvi.k12.wi.us
To: 'NFBnet Blind Law Mailing List' <blindlaw at nfbnet.org
Date sent: Fri, 5 Aug 2011 11:11:49 -0500
Subject: Re: [blindlaw] some questions
I agree with the others who have responded. On a purely cultural
level, blindness is viewed differently in his culture than it is
in ours. Further, if his family comes from an Islamic background,
and still holds to some of the tenants of the Koran and the
Sharia, blindness is a condition to be pitied, and blind people
are those who are specifically identified as recipients of
charity. If these beliefs are deeply ingrained, there may be no
hope of changing them. You might try, if this be the case,
talking some someone at a local mosque. If they have a person
whose opinion they value, and that person agrees with you, get
him, or her, to intercede.
Blindness in their country is almost always, an unmitigated
tragedy. There are very few opportunities. Attitudes change very
slowly. You may, ultimately, have to wed without their buy in.
But try everything else first. If you don't, you will wish you
had. If you do everything you can, then you can believe that you
did your best. The parents may, eventually come around.
-----Original Message-----
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[mailto:blindlaw-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Beth
Sent: Friday, August 05, 2011 8:36 AM
To: blindlaw at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blindlaw] some questions
Hi, guys.
I have some questions about a cultural conflict going on
with some people who are trying to prevent me and my current
boyfriend from marrying. They state that because we are
both totally blind, we would 1. Not make good parents or are
not fit to be parents.
2. Would be unable to perform everyday tasks when indeed we've
both graduated from the Colorado Center for the Blind x number of
months ago.
3. That my boyfriend would be bored and lonely. These men are
Somali, so they state he should also marry his own kind, surely a
sign of discrimination. They are not willing to change. How
should we deal with them? Thanks.
Beth
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