[nabs-l] Awkward Situations: What would you do?

[Christina Mitchell]

I've done this myself.  Sometimes the perfume can be so strong that
you could just identify them when they pass by you.  But what if you
run into a few other people who wear the same perfume?  As you've
stated you can't always tell.  Voices usually help me, but sometimes
one voice may sound the same as the other and so I'd get one person's
name mixed with the other.  I just get them to refresh my memory by
saying who they are again.  "excuse me no disrespect, but can you
please not do that because to us that's considered inappropriate." is
a way to approach someone in your case.  Hope this helps.

On 9/17/09, Jedi <loneblindjedi at samobile.net> wrote:
> NABSters:
>
> I recently joined a health club. Naturally, I have to deal with curious
> people who figure they can ask me whatever whenever. I'm working on
> finding ways to politely and firmly set boundaries as needed. For the
> most part, things have been okay. I've had to explain a lot (which gets
> old). But tonight, I experienced something so way out there that I just
> didn't know what to say or do!
>
> We'd just finished up a guest lecture. One of the other club members
> and I got to talking. Just before we planned to part ways, she said
> that I could identify her by the way she smelled. At thesame time, she
> stuck her wrist in front of my nose and told me to smell her perfume! I
> was mortified, and all I could think to say was Ëxcuse me?"as I
> recoiled. Apparently, she and this other blind guy (someone I happen to
> know( have this running joke that he can identify her by her scent. She
> figured then that that's how all blind people identify others. I tried
> to explain that this isn't so, and I think that she figured out quickly
> that her behavior was definitely inappropriate.
>
> I would like to know others on list have done in similar situations.
>
> Thanks.
>
> Respectfully,
> Jedi
>
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Christina, bilateral facial cleft and total blindness.
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