[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Josh Gregory joshkart12 at gmail.com
Tue May 14 03:17:26 UTC 2013 

I don't use a cane myself as I'm in a wheelchair, but aren't there like holders for canes that you can get to put your cane in? Maybe you could maybe find one that hangs by a belt strap or something?

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On May 13, 2013, at 10:07 PM, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:

> And therein lies the problem.  I don't know if you've seen huge dance
> floors but you can't just lean your cane up against a corner for five
> minutes and come back and get it after you're done dancing for a while
> because, as I've said, forcing your way through a huge crowd back to
> that corner without a cane will take enough time to make it not very
> practical.  You can't just set it off to the side when you're dancing
> because, well, there are probably no walls close by and you're likely
> to cause some major accidents.  So, the yway I see it, there seem to
> be only a couple practical options.  The first is to do what you seem
> to be suggesting and set your cane in a corner somewhere, relying
> pretty much exclusively on sighted guide until you're ready to leave
> so you can get your cane back.  IF it works for you, cool, but it
> doesn't work for me.  The other option is to try and figure out some
> way to keep your cane with you and still be able to use both hands to
> dance; it seems like using a telescopic or folding cane is the only
> way this could even be practical, but I wanted to get other peoples'
> opinions.
>  Anyways, I have work to do, so I'm done for a little while.  Peace!
>  Best,
> Kirt
> 
> On 5/13/13, Carly Mihalakis <carlymih at comcast.net> wrote:
>> Exactly! Hopefully, the dancer could be aware of where he stashed his
>> cane, so he need not recruit ol' Sighty...
>> CarAt 06:46 PM 5/13/2013, you wrote:
>>> I suppose if  it were that easy, the question would not have to be asked?
>>> Personally, I like to think  that there are options.  There is
>>> nothing wrong with asking someone with vision to help you
>>> find   your cane, but there is also nothing wrong with seeing if
>>> there is a way that you can still keep track of your cane and get
>>> it when you want and not feel as if you have to feel as if you are
>>> bothering someone to grab it.
>>> 
>>> How often to women go dancing with their purse?
>>> On May 13, 2013, at 6:25 PM, Carly Mihalakis <carlymih at comcast.net> wrote:
>>> 
>>>> Hi,  Can you not just set your cane to the side while you are
>>> dancing? You don't need a holster, backpack or anything else. Jus
>>> find a place you can reach, or ask ol' sighty to grab it when
>>> you're done. Not rocket science!
>>>> CarAt 06:12 PM 5/13/2013, Arielle Silverman wrote:
>>>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
>>>>> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
>>>>> about it is kind of hilarious!
>>>>> Arielle
>>>>> 
>>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>> HI Arielle,
>>>>>>  I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>>>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
>>>>>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose
>>>>>> it's
>>>>>> an option.
>>>>>>  Best,
>>>>>> Kirt
>>>>>> 
>>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar
>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at
>>>>>>> age
>>>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat
>>>>>>> mitzvahs,
>>>>>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid
>>>>>>> at
>>>>>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
>>>>>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten
>>>>>>> most
>>>>>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
>>>>>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of
>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
>>>>>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me
>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
>>>>>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing
>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
>>>>>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some
>>>>>>> things,
>>>>>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
>>>>>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
>>>>>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
>>>>>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man,
>>>>>>> but
>>>>>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you
>>>>>>> may
>>>>>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
>>>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced.
>>>>>>> Now
>>>>>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd
>>>>>>> like
>>>>>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
>>>>>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
>>>>>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless
>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is
>>>>>>> an
>>>>>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
>>>>>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of
>>>>>>> some
>>>>>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near
>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can
>>> dance a little,
>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first
>>>>>>>> so
>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach
>>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>> white
>>>>>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you
>>>>>>>> don't
>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can
>>> do the same
>>>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.
>>>>>>>> If
>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other
>>>>>>>> methods
>>>>>>>> will
>>>>>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and
>>>>>>>> match.
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>>>>>>> and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to
>>>>>>>> partake
>>>>>>>> in
>>>>>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as
>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>> other
>>>>>>>> ways you might go about it?
>>>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>  Darian
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.
>>>>>>>>> Sometimes
>>>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to
>>>>>>>>> dance.
>>>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all
>>>>>>>>> possible;
>>>>>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where
>>> you just have
>>>>>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out
>>> there with
>>>>>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you
>>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you
>>>>>>>>> jus
>>>>>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like
>>> dancing, or
>>>>>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or
>>> hopefully you
>>>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.
>>>>>>>>> It
>>>>>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>>>>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>>>>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>>>>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an
>>> excuse not to
>>>>>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a
>>> girl to teach
>>>>>>>> you.
>>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>>>>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where
>>> dancing is
>>>>>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> dance?
>>>>>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a
>>>>>>>>> lot
>>>>>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>>>>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>>>>> 
>>>>>>>>> Darian
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