[nabs-l] Bullying

[Kaiti Shelton]

Hi,

I agree with a lot of what has been said.  A lot of this seems
circumstantial, and based a lot on what others think or have been told
through the grapevine.  I would consider how you felt about the
situation, if you noticed it yourself at all, and then go from there.
If it made you uncomfortable or if it happens again, ask the girl if
there is a problem.  If she isn't cooperative in talking to you, or
things escalate, then by all means get an adult involved and don't
mess around.

It is also important to remember that reputations are circumstantial
too.  I noticed you said a few times that this girl is "Known to be
like this."  Don't just go off of her reputation, because it may not
be as accurate as it has been made out to be by the level of
conversation you've heard on the subject.  It would be much bettter to
talk to her directly if the problem persists than to just assume,
"She's just this way and has no respect for people," and report her on
the spot.

I hope this helps and you don't have to deal with a bullying
situation.  As was said before, a lot of us have been there in middle
and high school, myself included.  I've had stuff stolen from my
backpack, the battery taken from my cell phone and thrown into a boys
bathroom, and a few other random acts of bullying happen throughout my
middle school years and my freshman year of high school.  I've also
dealt with cane jumpers and ignorant people plenty of times before.
However, this sounds to me like it may have been an accident.  Even in
my second year of college I still get jostled in the halls between
classes, or even outside walking between buildings if I somehow get
into a crowd.  Fortunately, I go to a school where people will readily
say sorry, or who have helped me and others if the jostling was enough
to knock off balance, so we always know it was never intentional.
Heck, I've even run into other people before simply because I wasn't
concentrating on looking ahead of me to avoid human traffic, too.

On 2/23/14, Lillie Pennington <lilliepennington at fuse.net> wrote:
> Just remember that not everyone will believe or want to hel you. Either they
> see this girl as doing no wrong, or she is sited and you are blind. Not
> every adult in the school system is not friendly or trustworthy as they may
> appear or seem.
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
>> On Feb 22, 2014, at 3:50 PM, Mikayla Gephart <mikgephart at icloud.com>
>> wrote:
>>
>> In the state of New Jersey (Where I live), this is not considered
>> bullying, and this girl is known to be like this.
>>
>> Sent from my iPad
>>
>>> On Feb 22, 2014, at 10:51 AM, Ryan Silveira <ryan.l.silveira at gmail.com>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> How long ago did it happen?  You should report it to your assistant
>>> principal or someone like that.  Have a friend go with you if you feel
>>> you need it.
>>>
>>>
>>>> On Feb 22, 2014, at 10:49 AM, Mikayla Gephart <mikgephart at icloud.com>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>> She has only bullied me once.
>>>>
>>>> Sent from my iPad
>>>>
>>>>> On Feb 22, 2014, at 10:37 AM, Ryan Silveira <ryan.l.silveira at gmail.com>
>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>> Hi Mikayla,
>>>>>
>>>>> How long has this been happening?  Was it just this one incident or
>>>>> have there been several?
>>>>>
>>>>> Ryan L. Silveira
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> On Feb 22, 2014, at 10:17 AM, Mikayla Gephart <mikgephart at icloud.com>
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Hi,
>>>>>> In this post, I am going to poor out my heart. This morning, I told my
>>>>>> mom, and I haven't told any one else.
>>>>>> A couple month ago, a really close friend said that another girl said
>>>>>> that she shoved me in the hallway. My first class is Social Studies,
>>>>>> and my homeroom is right across from Social Studies. The girl is in my
>>>>>> homeroom. I walk very slow when going from Homeroom to Social Studies,
>>>>>> and the girl must have wanted me to walk faster, so she shoved me.
>>>>>> Yesterday, my friend told me that she doesn't think the girl who
>>>>>> shoved me has a respect for people, much less a respect for people
>>>>>> with disabilities. For the longest time, I have not told anyone.
>>>>>> Mikayla
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Sent from my iPad
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Kaiti