[NABS-L] Reading People

[Justin Williams]

Learn to feel their energy.  Even in cheery tones of voices, the deep verbal
cues, and the energetic feel does not lie.  

They might disguise it on the surface, but if you learn to drill down, you
can pick it up usually.

However you should really just get them to tell you.  

You can use a counseling trick that counselors who are blind use.

That is just asking the person, and explaining to them that you can't see
and need them to tell you.

Also, just asking as a friend is another good idea.

People have to learn to speak up, anyway, so outside of just doing things or
putting people in situations that I know are awkward, I don't worry about it
over much because it really takes too much energy.  
I've learned how to discern who I should hang out with, wen, and where.

Thanks,

Justin


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Sometimes I can get a sense of how they feel by how often they talk, laugh
or some other indicator other than tone of voice. Long silences usually mean
they are not enjoying themselves. If I am unsure, I just come out and ask or
make a small joke to gauge their reaction. 

Camille 

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That can be difficult. If I am with a sighted person, or knew one that was
there, I would ask them after the fact. If not, I sometimes just ask the
person outright.

Ali

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From: Ian Perrault via NABS-L <nabs-l at nfbnet.org
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Subject: [NABS-L] Reading People

Hi All,
How do you guys read people, to see if they're actually having a good time,
or if they feel uncomfortable? Unfortunately, voices often show that they're
having fun, but sometimes I get into situations where, in reality, they
actually weren't having fun.
Ian
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