[nagdu] Question about puppy raisers

[Anon. Y.mous]

I have raised for several schools as I have moved around the country.  I have raised for GDB, GEB, and GDF.  I don't understand the raisers who don't wish to maintain contact either; I think the majority do!  It's nice to know that you value the contact in the context of your dog as well.



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 From: d m gina <dmgina at samobile.net>
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Sent: Sunday, June 24, 2012 6:38 PM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Question about puppy raisers
 
Hello,
I am waiting for a dog, and I know I won't be able to know who raised my dog from the school I am going to.
Even though I would love to know, I have had your experience, where I tried to be a friend to raisers and it went no where.
I am sorry this poem is hurting, and for this I can only say I am sorry.
I would love to know where you raise, but that wasn't your question.
I am also sorry you don't hear from the folks of the pups you raised.
I have watched my friends know their raisers, and the raisers would give them dog food and much more.
Now I am not saying this should happen, but it made me sad, because I wished someone would have taken interest in their dogs even to say I miss you my dear.
Hope that makes sense.
Original message:
> Hello,

> I am new here.  I am a long-time puppy raiser, my sister has RP and is a guide dog user, and I have RP so a guide might be in my future as well.  When I first found this list about a month ago, I poked around for threads relating to me, and one term that I searched was "raiser."  One thing I found really disturbed me and has been nagging at me for the past month, so I figured I might as well throw it out to everyone before making any decisions.

> The "problem post" occurred in a Christmas poem posted several years ago.  One of the stanzas was about puppy raisers:

> "Some man comes from nowhere with the purpose to tell, that he's 'trained' seven puppies as guide dogs, oh swell.  He badgers my handler, asking him why some blind folks get nasty when he stops them to pry.  'Don't you people know what we raisers give up?  We expend so much money and love raising your pup.  We clean up their messes all day and all night.  The least you blind people could do is to write.  I don't get a card or a letter to say that my baby is good or he's doing okay.' ... So don't let your big ego get in the way.  Blind handlers appreciate you just fine, okay?"
> I was in tears by the end of this (and I'm a pretty stoic person!).  I know it's supposed to be a kind of snarky poem about stereotypes of each "problem group," but this really hurt.  It's making fun of something that you just shouldn't make fun of, if that makes any sense.  I thought of my past puppies and the very real and very deep love I still have for each of them and how much I still miss them (even though I absolutely know they are not mine!).  I am hoping that their handlers don't view me this way, kind of minimizing the depth of the relationship I had with the dog.


> Ever since I read that, all of the enthusiasm and sparks I bring to my raising have been absent, and I've thus I'm toying with not raising again.  You just can't raise a guide pup if your heart isn't in it.


> For the record, I'm definitely not somebody who thinks raising is this saintly selfless act -- I don't know any raisers who think that, actually.  I get a ton out of it.  Still doesn't make turn-in any easier.


> I know each school has different policies and relationships with raisers, and each individual graduate does as well.  I know there are some raisers on this list -- does anybody have any reaction to this?  I'm not looking for opinions about school policies, rather thoughts of individual guide dog users.  My sister doesn't agree with the sentiment, but I guess I'm looking for opinions other than hers!


> Thanks so much in advance.  It may seem trivial to you, but this is really something I'm struggling with so I really appreciate any time people take to respond.
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