[Nfbf-l] Twelve Tips My Grandmother Gave me

[Jody ianuzzi]

Hello Patricia,

Thank you so much for sharing your grandma's advice! I read everyone as if I was hearing it from a special person! Truly beautiful!

Have a wonderful holiday!

Jody

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> On Dec 17, 2016, at 10:27 AM, Patricia A. Lipovsky via Nfbf-l <nfbf-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Just passing this along, some Fruit for Thought.
> 
> 
> 
> My beloved grandmother, may she rest in peace, used to carry an old notebook
> with her wherever she went. She would fill it with beautiful thoughts and
> advice she got from wise people. Throughout my childhood I would see her
> writing things down in that little notebook. 
> 
> 
> 
> I always thought they were her secrets, but when she was on her deathbed,
> she called me over and shared her old notebook with me. The pieces of advice
> I found in that notebook changed my life, which made me want to share them
> with you, hoping it would do the same. These are the things my grandmother
> taught me before she passed away.
> 
> 
> 
> 1. Accept things with love and understanding
> 
> No matter where you are, or what you're doing, always believe that there's
> light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand. Do the best
> you can to control your circumstances, and learn to accept that you can't
> always control everything. Once you've done all that is in your power, if
> it's meant to happen - it will.
> 
> 2. Life CAN be simple
> 
> Even though you often feel like life is too complicated, it can always be
> simple. All you need to do is focus on one thing at a time. You don't have
> to do it all, and you don't have to do it right now. Be present, be active,
> do the best that you can. Whatever you put into life - life will hand back
> to you, with interest.
> 
> 3. Don't change for other people
> 
> Make people accept you the way you are, or not accept you at all. Always say
> what you really think, even if it's not the popular opinion. When you're
> true to yourself, you add beauty to the world - beauty that was missing. You
> should stay in line, just make sure it's YOUR line.
> 
> 4. You're not who you were - and that's okay
> 
> You've been through a lot in life. You've studied, been hurt, and changed.
> Every day we learn something new which changes us in some way or another.
> Sometimes we realize we're not who we used to be, but that's perfectly
> normal. Everybody changes. In your life, people will point out the changes,
> and all you need to do is tell them "Of course I've changed, and so have
> you. Everybody changes."
> 
> 5. Everything that happens is for the best
> 
> Be it significant or otherwise, joyous or sad, anything that happens will
> end up being in your favor. Everything that happens to us builds us and
> helps us grow. Life will take you places, show you things, heal you and make
> you into a better person. Don't be afraid to try or even to fail. In the
> end, everything is just a small part of life's larger plan to turn you into
> whom you're supposed to be.
> 
> 
> 
> 6. Choose happiness, not wealth
> 
> Many people live their lives believing that money will make them happy, but
> the pursuit of wealth is devoid of meaning. Every choice you make, be sure
> to consider your happiness, not your bank account. In this way, when you've
> reached old age, you'll know the true value of things, not their monetary
> value. In the end, you'll understand that the best things in life are things
> that money can't buy - love and friendship.
> 
> 7. Decide to be positive
> 
> One of the most important things you should understand about life is that if
> you're not happy, it is not the circumstances that are to blame, but your
> decision to be unhappy. Every time life places obstacles in your path, give
> life a big grin, accept the obstacle's existence and overcome it with joy.
> Make the decision to be happy, stand by your decisions and do whatever is in
> your power to keep them. This is the true secret to happiness.
> 
> 8. Give the people you love your full attention
> 
> We can get used to being surrounded by loved ones and start taking them for
> granted. When you ask someone close to you how they are, don't accept an
> "okay", look into their eyes and ask them about their day, and how they
> feel. If you feel that you only have friends that remember you when they
> need something, don't worry, be happy that you're a source of light and hope
> for them.
> 
> 
> 
> 9. Learn to set a loved one free
> 
> At times, we need to set a loved one free to allow them to grow and evolve.
> Every little sprout must leave the greenhouse and be planted in a larger pot
> to grow to its full size and bloom. It is not what you do for your loved
> ones that will help them grow, but rather what you taught them and how they
> use that knowledge.
> 
> 10. Sometimes, you need to leave people behind
> 
> Sadly, not all our friends help us become better people. In some cases,
> friends can keep us stunted, not out of malice, but because they want to
> keep you down at their level. Learn to tell when this happens and stick only
> to friends that help you grow, lift you up, and inspire you to be who you
> really are.
> 
> 11. Some things you only understand when you're older
> 
> In the end, people will judge you according to your actions, that's why
> instead of trying to impress and please everyone, follow your heart and do
> what you want to do, without fear. Remember that it's better to remember
> something and say "I can't believe I did it!" rather than "I wish I did it."
> 
> 12. Stop looking for a happy ending
> 
> We humans tend to search for some happy ending in whatever happens to us. We
> want a sense of closure and completion, but sometimes it's simply not how
> life is. If you feel like you've been searching for that happy ending for
> too long, you may need to, instead, search for a new beginning. Never be
> afraid to leave everything and start anew, you still have time, no matter
> what your age may be. Aspire to make the most out of whatever time you have
> on this planet.
> 
> 
> This was my grandma's advice to me. It's changed my life, and I hope it'll
> be able to do the same for you. Rest in peace, Nana.
> 
> 
> 
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