[blindkid] ideas needed

Sun Oct 30 01:03:19 UTC 2011

I understand your frustrations because I was a low vision child who refused 
to use my cane also.  My main reason I did not want to use it was so I could 
be like my brother, friends and peers.  I didn't want to be different from 
everyone else.  Yes, keep trying to encourage to use her cane but until she 
realizes it for herself it will be a struggle.  expose her to other low 
vision/blind children who she can make friends with.  Children don't want to 
be different from others around them.  As hard it is to watch her fall and 
get hurt or get teased by others this is one of the main ways she will learn 
that she needs to use her cane.  Monitor such things but don't stop them 
entirely and only intervene when such things start to get out of hand.

Amanda
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From: "Chantel Alberhasky" <chantel at alberhaskylaw.com>
Sent: Saturday, October 29, 2011 8:43 AM
To: "Doreen Franklin" <doreenproverbs3 at bellsouth.net>; "NFBnet Blind Kid 
Mailing List,(for parents of blind children)" <blindkid at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blindkid] ideas needed

> She may be modeling the attitude at school - "best practice is to use her 
> vision."     Our son doesn't like to use his cane either.  He is 8 years 
> old and has used a cane since he was 3.   He has roughly 20/400 vision - 
> he has albinism so his vision fluctuates and when outside he virtually has 
> no sight due to photo phobia.   We do not allow him to choose whether to 
> use his cane.  He knows he must take it with him wherever we go.   When we 
> are walking and he is dragging his cane or holding it in the air I will 
> ask him "what technique are you using?"  Then I make him choose one and 
> start using it.    It is a constant reminder.
>
> BTW, when he trips/stumbles/falls I tell him, "if you had used your cane 
> that wouldn't have happened."  I also do not warn him if there is a drop 
> off or a change in terrain as he needs to learn to do that himself - 
> obviously I would warn if he was in danger of really hurting himself.
>
> I have to ask, if you don't mind, what you mean by wanting to be more 
> "collaborative" with the school?   Do you believe your daughter should be 
> receiving Braille?
>
> Chantel L. Alberhasky
> 419 Boonville Avenue
> Springfield, MO 65806
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> Subject: [blindkid] ideas needed
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> Hi to all ...
>
> we are looking for some help with our 7-yr old, first grade daughter who 
> is visually impaired. She needs a cane but refuses to use it with us. She 
> will "use" it during her O&M instruction of 30-minutes, but I have no idea 
> if she uses it, or uses it safely, during the rest of her time at school. 
> Most times with us, she holds it off the ground, like a shephard's crook. 
> She has also not accepted her visual disability and has told me "Mom, I 
> can see." And the school has non-verbally told her that last year in 
> kindergarten as well as this year -- she has a CCTV in class; she does not 
> have Braille. She is being re-evaled this year and I have been told "best 
> practice is to use her vision." I backed off to be more collaborative 
> instead of being near the door to due process. It is killing me, but I 
> want to be more collaborative.
>
> Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how did you get around it? I can 
> tell her about safety, but I know all she hears is "blah blah blah." She 
> has said numerous times she HATES her cane, and I don't know how to get 
> around it to make her see that she is safe with it and unsafe without it. 
> She has gotten several bruises on her legs and her eye and all of those 
> times have been because she has not used her cane. Again, she is hearing 
> "blah blah blah." She did very well while at the national convention in 
> July ... but within 2 weeks, she was not using her cane safely. There are 
> no role models for her in school ...
>
> Any and all suggestions would be appreciated ....
>
> Thank you!!!!
>
> Doreen
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