[blindkid] made my day

Wed Dec 12 07:08:39 UTC 2012

Oh, on the hand? That is not by definition called a spanking, is it? In any
case, teachers are mandated to report when a child says he or she is hit by
a parent, and could be penalized for failure to report with a misdemeanor.
If there is no nurse on staff to examine whether there were bruises or
injuries, they might report directly to social services. You are probably
right to think that they might have acted more drastically because of her
disability, but depending on the story she told, any child could have
prompted the social services call. Spanking is a very sensitive and
controversial subject, and they probably didn't want to take any risks.

Thea 

-----Original Message-----
From: blindkid [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Julie Yanez
Sent: Wednesday, December 12, 2012 12:38 AM
To: Blind Kid Mailing List, (for parents of blind children)
Subject: Re: [blindkid] made my day

Really? A smack on the hand deserves a call to the police? Wow! And yes,
she knew he was right behind her on his way in the room and she slammed the
door to he wouldn't go in. I don't give my child any favoritism just
because she's blind. I push for her independency as well. And for every
action, there is a reaction or consequence. And for the school to feel that
a smack on the hand calls for a full investigation and home visit was
ridiculous. If anything, they scared my daughter to pieces.
On Dec 11, 2012 10:01 PM, "Thea Eaton" <thea at doodledoo.com> wrote:

> This in no way relates to the other post of the teenager who misread a
> label
> on a pillbox. Was she able to see how far her brother was away from the
> door? I think your outcome could have been the same, regardless of your
> daughter being blind. When a child reports getting hit by a parent, many
> schools have a policy to call on social services.
>
>
> Thea
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindkid [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Julie
> Yanez
> Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2012 11:30 PM
> To: Blind Kid Mailing List, (for parents of blind children)
> Subject: Re: [blindkid] made my day
>
> I'm so sorry for your mishap. I've had social services called on me once
> because I spanked my 10 year old on the hand. She had knowingly slammed
the
> bedroom door on her 3 year old brother. His forehead hit the knob and he
> nearly needed stitches. So along with a spank for slamming the door
period,
> then on top of that getting her brother hurt, she was sent to bed with no
> music or TV. That's equivalent to torture for her.
> Her comprehension and being able to explain events and the order in which
> they occur is delayed. Has always been. It's a major issue we work on.
> Reading a story, then explaining what happened when. She can't do that. So
> when she was asked what she did the over the weekend, everything came out
> her mouth in the wrong order. I sounded like thee worst parent. A police
> officer even came to our home to question her and see her home
environment.
> I was soo mad that the school never called me to tell me what she had said
> and gave me no chance to let them know what really went on before they
were
> quick to make a police report. I wanted her TIV replaced! Especially after
> being with my kiddo for 4 years now and knowing how she gets her stories
> confused.
>
> Best of luck with everything. They seem to make everything harder on us
> parents of the blind as if we can't parent our child.
> On Dec 11, 2012 9:02 PM, "Cynthia Davis" <cdfiets at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> > Hi there, NFB friends,
> >
> > Today I learned that my son's therapist had reported me to Social
> Services
> > because I "allowed by legally blind son (a 9th-grader) to take his
> > medication by himself. "   Yes, you heard me.  The incident occurred
> > yesterday morning.
> >
> > My son took his medications out of the pillbox by himself.  The pillbox
> is
> > well-labeled; each of the 14 compartments indicates in both large print
> and
> > Braille which day the pills are for and whether they are for the a.m. or
> > p.m.  Usually I give them to him and he checks them, but he was really
> > grumpy this particular morning, so he did it himself.  We have never had
> a
> > problem with this.
> >
> > However, at school he became very sleepy and announced to the assistant
> > principal, on whose floor he fell asleep, that he thought he had given
> > himself his nighttime meds instead of the morning ones.  This meant he
> had
> > some medications that made him very groggy.  I was called and
immediately
> > called his doctor and left a message while I drove to the school to pick
> > him up.  When I arrived, the vice-principal kindly suggested that "I
know
> > you want him to be independent, but maybe he shouldn't be taking his own
> > medications."  I added that we usually check them together, but....we
> > didn't this time.  Anyway, the school seemed okay with our error, as he
> was
> > able to walk downstairs and out of the school unassisted.  We then went
> to
> > his scheduled therapy appointment.  The therapist called Social Services
> > later that day, at the suggestion of her supervisor.  She made it clear
> > that the report was necessary because "he is legally blind."
> >
> > My son is furious.  Ready to sue.  Mad as hell.  "Mom, you are the best
> > mom a kid could have in this world ( Did my kid really say that?!).  It
> is
> > MY FAULT (Did my kid really say that?!) I took the wrong pills 'cause I
> was
> > angry at you and didn't pay attention!  They are discriminating against
> me
> > because I am blind!  They are against the law!  I can read a pillbox as
> > well as any other kid!"
> >
> > Clearly I don't deserve Mother of the Year for somehow allowing this to
> > happen, but I do agree with him that the issue here is whether he
> > should-or-should-not be getting his own medications out of the pillbox
> > compartment by himself regardless of the fact that he is legally blind.
> >  His doctor has volunteered to talk with the authorities if necessary,
> > although she did make sure I understood "how to safely administer
> > medication."  She didn't mention the blind part.
> >
> > Thanks for listening,
> > Cynthia Davis
> > Littleton, CO
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
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