[blindkid] made my day

Wed Dec 12 07:26:38 UTC 2012

She let them know it was on the hand. But the order in which she told the
story made it sound as if I disciplined her for no reason, then she closed
the door on her brother.
My point is that I feel the school went a little overboard because my child
is blind. They know her disability is beyond being blind. She also has lack
comprehension and understanding when she has to remember and re-tell a
story. And I'm now seeing that I wasn't the only parent of a blind child
that feels the school went a little too far. In my case, I wasn't even
called. I was in shock when a police officer was at my door asking to speak
to my daughter.
On Dec 11, 2012 11:11 PM, "Thea Eaton" <thea at doodledoo.com> wrote:

> Oh, on the hand? That is not by definition called a spanking, is it? In any
> case, teachers are mandated to report when a child says he or she is hit by
> a parent, and could be penalized for failure to report with a misdemeanor.
> If there is no nurse on staff to examine whether there were bruises or
> injuries, they might report directly to social services. You are probably
> right to think that they might have acted more drastically because of her
> disability, but depending on the story she told, any child could have
> prompted the social services call. Spanking is a very sensitive and
> controversial subject, and they probably didn't want to take any risks.
>
> Thea
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindkid [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Julie
> Yanez
> Sent: Wednesday, December 12, 2012 12:38 AM
> To: Blind Kid Mailing List, (for parents of blind children)
> Subject: Re: [blindkid] made my day
>
> Really? A smack on the hand deserves a call to the police? Wow! And yes,
> she knew he was right behind her on his way in the room and she slammed the
> door to he wouldn't go in. I don't give my child any favoritism just
> because she's blind. I push for her independency as well. And for every
> action, there is a reaction or consequence. And for the school to feel that
> a smack on the hand calls for a full investigation and home visit was
> ridiculous. If anything, they scared my daughter to pieces.
> On Dec 11, 2012 10:01 PM, "Thea Eaton" <thea at doodledoo.com> wrote:
>
> > This in no way relates to the other post of the teenager who misread a
> > label
> > on a pillbox. Was she able to see how far her brother was away from the
> > door? I think your outcome could have been the same, regardless of your
> > daughter being blind. When a child reports getting hit by a parent, many
> > schools have a policy to call on social services.
> >
> >
> > Thea
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: blindkid [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Julie
> > Yanez
> > Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2012 11:30 PM
> > To: Blind Kid Mailing List, (for parents of blind children)
> > Subject: Re: [blindkid] made my day
> >
> > I'm so sorry for your mishap. I've had social services called on me once
> > because I spanked my 10 year old on the hand. She had knowingly slammed
> the
> > bedroom door on her 3 year old brother. His forehead hit the knob and he
> > nearly needed stitches. So along with a spank for slamming the door
> period,
> > then on top of that getting her brother hurt, she was sent to bed with no
> > music or TV. That's equivalent to torture for her.
> > Her comprehension and being able to explain events and the order in which
> > they occur is delayed. Has always been. It's a major issue we work on.
> > Reading a story, then explaining what happened when. She can't do that.
> So
> > when she was asked what she did the over the weekend, everything came out
> > her mouth in the wrong order. I sounded like thee worst parent. A police
> > officer even came to our home to question her and see her home
> environment.
> > I was soo mad that the school never called me to tell me what she had
> said
> > and gave me no chance to let them know what really went on before they
> were
> > quick to make a police report. I wanted her TIV replaced! Especially
> after
> > being with my kiddo for 4 years now and knowing how she gets her stories
> > confused.
> >
> > Best of luck with everything. They seem to make everything harder on us
> > parents of the blind as if we can't parent our child.
> > On Dec 11, 2012 9:02 PM, "Cynthia Davis" <cdfiets at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > > Hi there, NFB friends,
> > >
> > > Today I learned that my son's therapist had reported me to Social
> > Services
> > > because I "allowed by legally blind son (a 9th-grader) to take his
> > > medication by himself. "   Yes, you heard me.  The incident occurred
> > > yesterday morning.
> > >
> > > My son took his medications out of the pillbox by himself.  The pillbox
> > is
> > > well-labeled; each of the 14 compartments indicates in both large print
> > and
> > > Braille which day the pills are for and whether they are for the a.m.
> or
> > > p.m.  Usually I give them to him and he checks them, but he was really
> > > grumpy this particular morning, so he did it himself.  We have never
> had
> > a
> > > problem with this.
> > >
> > > However, at school he became very sleepy and announced to the assistant
> > > principal, on whose floor he fell asleep, that he thought he had given
> > > himself his nighttime meds instead of the morning ones.  This meant he
> > had
> > > some medications that made him very groggy.  I was called and
> immediately
> > > called his doctor and left a message while I drove to the school to
> pick
> > > him up.  When I arrived, the vice-principal kindly suggested that "I
> know
> > > you want him to be independent, but maybe he shouldn't be taking his
> own
> > > medications."  I added that we usually check them together, but....we
> > > didn't this time.  Anyway, the school seemed okay with our error, as he
> > was
> > > able to walk downstairs and out of the school unassisted.  We then went
> > to
> > > his scheduled therapy appointment.  The therapist called Social
> Services
> > > later that day, at the suggestion of her supervisor.  She made it clear
> > > that the report was necessary because "he is legally blind."
> > >
> > > My son is furious.  Ready to sue.  Mad as hell.  "Mom, you are the best
> > > mom a kid could have in this world ( Did my kid really say that?!).  It
> > is
> > > MY FAULT (Did my kid really say that?!) I took the wrong pills 'cause I
> > was
> > > angry at you and didn't pay attention!  They are discriminating against
> > me
> > > because I am blind!  They are against the law!  I can read a pillbox as
> > > well as any other kid!"
> > >
> > > Clearly I don't deserve Mother of the Year for somehow allowing this to
> > > happen, but I do agree with him that the issue here is whether he
> > > should-or-should-not be getting his own medications out of the pillbox
> > > compartment by himself regardless of the fact that he is legally blind.
> > >  His doctor has volunteered to talk with the authorities if necessary,
> > > although she did make sure I understood "how to safely administer
> > > medication."  She didn't mention the blind part.
> > >
> > > Thanks for listening,
> > > Cynthia Davis
> > > Littleton, CO
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
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