[blindkid] Dealing with selfish behavior

[Marianne Denning via blindkid]

I had a blind student and her Mom took her to fold and hang clothes at
a church where people can go to get clothing when they need this help.
 It accomplished two things.  The student learned to fold and hang
clothes very well and she learned to give back.  I tell all of my
students that we need to move beyond independence to interdependence.
It is important that blind people give back as well as receive.

On 6/1/14, oandemom . via blindkid <blindkid at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> Hello!  I have a daughter, 9 and VI, who tends to be bossy and selfish.  I
> feel I have to watch her interact with other children b/c she has a strong
> personality and she wants to control what is being played.  I do my best on
> this front.   Lately she has been very selfish, unless it is something that
> benefits her, she isn't interested (you would think she is a teenager!) -
> its very frustrating.  We talk about how she isn't allowed to disrupt our
> family with her behavior (I do have some guidance from a special behavior
> preschool that she attended but I'm going off what I remember back then,
> but she attended mostly due to her social skills) - that she has to be a
> helpful part of this family and do as she is told, etc.  Today, I have been
> reduced to making her write something 100 times because I just don't know
> what to do with her anymore.
>
> I am trying to find some volunteer opportunities to have her give of her
> time to help others and to think of others, but I know she will think it is
> fun, b/c she is "working"  - she loves to work.  She may like it for 5 min
> and then be done, so it may actually work out okay, but I need to try it.
> I thought of soup kitchens, but she won't get that visual effect that is
> what I'm really looking for to make her have an appreciation of what she
> does have.
>
> I don't really think taking things away from her will work, b/c she doesn't
> even know half the stuff in her room, she is so out of sight, out of mind.
>
> Does anyone know of any volunteer activities that they have done or seen
> that a 9 year could be included in and really get something out of it.  We
> talk all the time about how there are many kids who don't have what she
> has, etc etc, but it just doesn't click with her, as I'm sure it doesn't
> for many kids her age.
>
> I would appreciate ANY suggestions!!!
>
> Thanks,
> Traci
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Marianne Denning, TVI, MA
Teacher of students who are blind or visually impaired
(513) 607-6053